Ladies, how many times have we come across a guy we’re really into, and after getting to know him for a while (or maybe not that long at all) we place it in our minds that he is the one we want to be with? Sounds nice, right? So what happens when the one man we have our hearts set on tells us that he doesn’t want a committed relationship, and only wants to have fun with you, and other women too? And yes, we all know what “fun” generally means.
Typically, many women ignore this very bold and honest statement and begin putting forth a great deal of effort in order to secure the man they want, no matter how he feels or what he says. Why is that? Why is it that when a man is honest enough to tell us up front and from the start what he really wants, we have the tendency to ignore it and put ourselves on the line for a love affair that only we want?
Well, some of us fail to take a man’s word for face value in this instance because we see only what we want. We think that we can change his mind but don’t realize that we will be the one putting forth all the effort to hold things together. Now don’t get me wrong, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with going after who you want, but when someone has made their intentions clear, there is no need to waste time on them. It’s beneficial to us as women to take a man’s word in full when he tells us what he’s looking for, because it gives us a heads up on when it comes to what he’s expecting and lets us know how to adjust ourselves and our feelings before we get in too deep.
Once you get this information, don’t overanalyze what he says. Don’t spend so much time worrying about that, because it’s better to analyze his actions, because they do speak louder than words. And once you know what he wants, give yourself other options. When a man says he wants to play around with you, you have the option to stay and play with him, or walk away to seek out what you really want.
So when a man tells you that he wants to see other women and isn’t necessarily ready for a committed relationship, take those words to heart. Don’t go out of your way to lure him in, because if he wanted you and only you, he would’ve told and shown you that long ago. Don’t doubt the woman you are and be sure to take the options that are all around you. If a man is bold enough to tell you that he wants to play the field with other women, the only thing you should do for him is respect his wishes and move forward with your own life. Should you choose to stay around and give yourself to him in every imaginable way, don’t be upset when he doesn’t reciprocate. After all, he let you know the deal…
Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For? Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin
