You’ve met a guy yet again and you’re feeling him. He seems to be feeling you just the same. The two of you have great conversations on a regular basis. You go out on dates and may have even engaged in a few nights of unbelievable sex. It seems as though things are headed in the right direction, but then he stops calling you. You’ve reached out to him and his phone goes straight to voicemail. You leave a message but no response. Not only do you do this, but you send him text messages and even try contacting him on his social media pages, but still no response.
Naturally you begin to wonder why he stopped calling, and you may initially go into a slight panic thinking something terrible has happened. But then you find out that nothing’s wrong, and with this newly discovered information, you now have an instant attitude or you start to think maybe something went wrong in your interactions that you didn’t notice. You want to call him one more time to ask the one question that’s been burning your brain ever since his name stopped popping up on your phone:”Why did you stop calling?” But your pride won’t allow it. So you do your best to move forward and forget about him, but you still can’t help but to wonder why. Even though you don’t really want to admit it, your feelings are a little hurt and your self esteem slightly hit. You can’t understand why yet another guy stopped communicating with you when you thought things were going well. The easy response to such a dilemma is, well, he just wasn’t that into you. And while that’s an okay response, it still leaves a woman feeling vulnerable and doesn’t provide enough closure when a man no longer calls and doesn’t have the guts to tell you why he’s no longer interested. Well ladies, if you’ve ever wondered what it is you should do if and when a man no longer calls, look no further!
1. Call someone else. If you have this option, take it. If you don’t or simply don’t want to look elsewhere, find something productive to do with your time that you enjoy to keep your mind off of him.
2. Give him the benefit of the doubt. There are a number of reasons why a man doesn’t call other than him not wanting to, and sometimes it’s a good idea to give him the benefit of the doubt for a certain period of time before cutting him off completely.
3. Create a clean slate. If after you’ve given him a reasonable amount of time (whatever works for you) to contact you he still doesn’t, delete his number and messages, and get rid of any gifts purchased for you. Why? Because this will help you forget about him, keep you from calling him, and allow you to start a clean slate for someone new. The “block” option on your phone is useful if you choose to do this.
4. Take five. Going on a small hiatus from dating will allow you to reflect on what you want and help you figure out how to do things differently going forward with the next guy.
5. Know your worth! So many times people lay the blame solely on the woman for reasons why a man doesn’t call back. The truth of the matter is that the reason or reasons he may not have called back could be because he wasn’t man enough to be with you or he may not have been ready for what you wanted.
6. Give yourself closure. How? Send one last straightforward, clean-cut message to him giving the official send-off. This usually pushes him to act, or provides him with the out he was looking for.
Only a man knows the real reasons behind his disappearing act, but no matter the cause, ladies, never doubt yourself and think that it was you because it wasn’t. It was him.
Has a man you were feeling ever stopped calling you out of the blue? How did you handle it?
Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For? Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin.
