“I’ve Been Down That Road” Chris Brown Offers Insightful Advice To Ray Rice
Chris Brown understands domestic violence on a level which many of us, hopefully, will never be able to relate. And so with that in mind, MTV’s Sway sat down with Brown to ask him his thoughts about the Ray and Janay Rice incident.
I know… you’re probably thinking what I initially thought. Chris should be the last person speaking on this. Not only was he involved in the infamous 2009 incident, he’s been involved in a few violent altercations since then.
I certainly had my reservations. But actually, his thoughts and words of advice for Rice were pretty insightful and hopefully helpful to their intended target as well as other men and women who may be struggling with anger management and issues of violence.
Read what he had to say in the excerpts and then watch the whole video below.
“I think it’s all about the choices you do make. And then also, with me, I dealt with a lot of anger issues from my past, not knowing how to express myself verbally. But at the same time, not knowing how to cope with my emotions and deal with them and understand what they were. So I just think help is great. You know I still talk to my therapist twice a week. For me, it helps me to actually be able to–if I’m frustrated or if I’m dealing with something– to vent and say what I’m going through so I can hear from an actual clinical person: ‘You know what this is how you should react’ or ‘It’s good to feel this way.’ Because feelings, emotions are energy in motion. It’s supposed to come in and go. It’s not supposed to stay there. You’re not supposed to keep it inside because it’ll just bottle up and you’ll become a monster.
So for me, I think dealing with my anger issues and understanding myself and the life I’ve been through and where I’m headed and where I want to be–has helped me really focus on what’s important and not eff up. So I think for anybody who’s going through that situation or anybody who’s dealing with it, it’s all about the choices. Every situation is different but it’s all about the choices you make and how you control your anger.
Ray or anybody else because I’m not better than the next man. I can just say I’ve been down that road and I’ve dealt with situations and I’ve made my mistakes too. But it’s all about how you push forward and how you control yourself.”
Listen, as someone who was deeply disappointed by Chris Brown after his incident with Rihanna, I’m really proud of him for being so open and honest. There seems to be true sincerity behind his words. And I’m so happy to see that he didn’t try to place any blame on Janay for what we saw in that elevator footage. It’s clear that he’s learning to accept responsibility for his actions and believes Rice should learn to do the same. And seek help. I respect that, immensely.
Obviously, I don’t know Chris to say that he’s reformed or not but he certainly seems to make the case that reformation is possible if a person truly wants help.
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