Dear China,
Heeeyyyy girl!!! My question: I heard that a man knows upon first meeting you if you are “wifey” material or just “booty call” material. Is this true? And if so, how do I know which category I have been placed in without outright asking?
Sincerely,
Wifey Call

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Dear Wifey Call,
Heyyy girl to you too! LOL. Thanks for your question. I’m just going to say flat out that we can hang on to notions all day of what a man will or won’t do, but there will never be a formula for life or for “all men.”

We can simply deduce from evidence here and there, that something is more or less likely to happen. That said, I wouldn’t have deduced from *documented stalker evidence* that football player Chris Chambers would have married his stalker. I also wouldn’t have deduced that some of the women who had babies for Lil Wayne simultaneously would have had babies for Lil Wayne–at all.

So, again, even stunning “evidence” cannot always predict how a man chooses his wife (or, how a woman will position herself to be chosen, ya dig)?

Listen cherie, here’s the closest answer I can give you. Don’t approach your question from the perspective of JUST what the man thinks about you. Approach your question from the angle of what you think about yourself. Shoo–ARE you wifey material? Or are you “booty call” material?

You have to answer that question from a place of values, and find someone who shares the same exact values as you do. If you think you’re wifey material because you’re caring and you have all the “wifey” values in YOUR OWN value system–and your man has those same values that you have, then obviously you and your man’s values will be all matched up and you wouldn’t even have to ask the question…since king recognize queen! Hello! And it’s just that simple.

Bon chance, cherie!
~ Madame C.