“SMILE! You Too Pretty Not To”: 10 Creepy Dudes You Run Into On The Street In The Summertime…

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July 30, 2014 ‐ By
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I don’t know how else to say it, but men must learn that most women aren’t trying to make a love (or lust) connection on the street on the way to work. No matter how nice you think you’re being, unless you’re telling her she dropped something, a woman rushing on her way to mind her business is not trying to give you her number, nor hear what the hell you have to say. Street harassment is a mother everywhere, but it’s especially jarring in New York City. Depending where you live, someone is always standing outside or around, staring at your body and yelling in your ear. While this happens in rain, sleet or snow, summertime is the livest time, because you’ve chosen to ditch the boots and sweaters for maxi dresses and tight skirts. But who am I kidding? You could have on a full sweatsuit and someone would have something to say! So here are a few examples of men I’m sure you’ve run into on the streets at one time or another. Keep hope alive ladies…

Note: There are many good men out there who are respectful of the womenfolks, but for the many others who aren’t, this one’s for you…

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  • dee

    Did anywone mention the guy that asks can he have some of your food…”can I have some of that?” My problem is that you have the audacity to ask me can you share my food AFTER I BOUGHT IT!? So NO you didn’t buy it, so NO you can’t have any…go spend YOUR money and stop begging for mine! LOL! I had a guy walk up to me at a bar asking me if he could have some of the appetizer I just bought “that looks good can I have some?” I have in the past replied with “sure actually you can have it all because I really dont like it and I am leaving anyway.” Begging is not sexy….boy bye!

  • Chanda

    Just goes to show that some men don’t know how to talk to women (any more than women know how to talk to men). They never had that father or male role model school them on how to approach women so now we have to deal with fools that act like he just escaped from prison. This mess can’t be on purpose. A lot men just can’t spit any game. Little boy lost. Sorry.

  • Jayda Brown

    I can totally identify with the creepy older guy and the “Smile, you’re too pretty to frown” guy.

  • K

    Lol I actually met my wife with the “you’re to pretty not to smile” line. I agree that staring and stalking are creepy but a lot of guys are just awkward and don’t know how to approach women. It’s not easy working up the nerve sometimes knowing there’s a good chance you will be rejected. Glad my wife gave me a shot and wasn’t as judging as some of the commenters on here.

    • hollyw

      Most of the commentors here have been on the receiving end of real harassment, so instead of sympathizing with “awkward”, aka harassing men and blaming these women for being “judging”, you’d do better to help your male counterparts become better men.

  • Vandellish

    I come to MN to make sure I’m not doing anything these lists say that lame cats are doing. Glad to know I’m not amongst these sordid characters although I have been known to ask for a # or two under 5 minutes. I’d say I’m batting between around .400 with that practice but that’s not bad.

    But then…I go to the comment section and read about all the BS that women are going through with guys approaching.

    Seriously? Dudes are following strange women around??? Leaving notes for women that aren’t girlfriends??? Touching/Groping or staring????

    On behalf of all men with good sense I wanna say sorry ladies. Don’t take it out on all of us. Maybe MN should compile a list of 10 or more ladies telling their stories of how they met their husbands/significant others and what exactly won them over. Nothing wrong with showing fellas the proper ways of doing things.

    • hollyw

      Good point.

    • SoYouWantMeToDoWhatNow?!

      First, thanks for the apology. Most women realize it’s not “all men”, however, some in your species are foul and don’t want to do better. I appreciate you for at least acknowledging (on some level) that their behaviour is errant.

  • LoudPakSean

    Women with fake buttz are just as creepy.

  • Dmax Lomax

    I feel you women on this, but I honestly think that this will keep happening because they are just as many women with low esteem out there as there are women on this site that hate this type of behavior. Some of these women go out their way to get this unwanted attention. IJS. But that stalking and pull crap should be a felony.

    • Crabby McGee

      I think it will continue to happen so long as men justify this disturbing and inappropriate behavior and tell themselves ‘it’s not so bad,” or “I never do that.” Having low self-esteem is not an invitation for disrespect or make it ok. I really hope that’s not what you meant.

    • hollyw

      I doubt it. When a similar article came out last year, a few men admitted that only a handful of women actually respond to these advances, but men’s idea of success is so low that 1 in 50 is enough for them to continue harassing a multitude of women just to get to that one.

  • Dells1969

    It looks like women should just be with women! Women are never happy. The other side of this is no man approaching you and now your crying about no available men, they’re all gay, down-low, married, etc.etc. As they say “You all about her, she all about hers!” SMDH

    • See The Light

      A man with a creepy attitude is not what a woman with sense wants. You know a reasonable man acts better than what is described above. I have never whined about a man shortage or criticized a man for who he is with. If the types of men described above was all that was available, then yes, being alone would be a great option and I would not complain about it.

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    Girls are pieces of Meat…

  • See The Light

    Don’t forget the fool who licks his lips, looks you up and down and grunts/touches himself. The non working man who is outside when you leave for and return from work is also annoying. When you smile at everyone, it does not mean you want to talk to or know everyone. Some men will even use their kids to relay their cheesey thoughts. I remember a guy complimented my large fro, asked for my # and I said I was married. I was then told “Forget you, you bushy headed b. I laughed so much, I almost choked. Some guys just can’t take no for an answer.

    • hollyw

      I envision punching the crap out of these men, just so I can make it through the day, real talk lol. You are right, they are ALWAYS THERE lol, standing by the doors and crap, and you just see them and are like, ughhhh no, not todaaay…….

  • Aaliyah Noelle

    Old men are the worst !!! I had an old Cuban guy who comes to my job all the time grab me by my face & shove his tongue down my throat. Yuuucckkk I swear listerine was my bff after that

    • Trisha_B

      Uhm ewwwww! Did you call the cops? Slap him? Bite his tongue off?!

      • Aaliyah Noelle

        I pushed him. That’s it.
        I remember him telling me one day he is 76.
        I’m 20:(
        I should’ve called security. He comes in all the time still & I have to hide:/

        • Trisha_B

          OMG that is scary! I would have reported him so he would be banned from coming in the job

        • hollyw

          Lord have mercy…I don’t want to tell you what you should do it these situations, but you deserve and have a right to live your life and work without fear of being attacked, touched, or harassed. I used to let ish like that slide, too, in my early 20s, but after a while your anger starts to override your fear…if you don’t feel comfortable confronting him, which is understandable, at least please tell somebody so that there’s a trace if he ever tries something again or worse! Seriously, b/c that’s a straight crime and I’m positive he already got a record! Who knows, you might even end up preventing it happening to someone else in the future.

          • Aaliyah Noelle

            You’re right !
            I shouldn’t have let it slide. In my head I was thinking “it’s an old guy. He probably senile & crazy & shvt”
            So that’s why I didn’t report it. But I’m tired of ducking everytime I see him. And he purposely comes to my department to see if I’m there.
            Literally I be hiding behind shelves. Hiding behind people. It’s getting crazy.

            • hollyw

              No,it ain’t crazy! I know exactly how you feel when anxiety about somebody who violated you just builds up and builds up and you will do anything to avoid this person! After the fact, you hope for the best, which is that he would have some semblance of sense left and feel remorse or at least not be bold enough to do it again, but umm no. They just keep getting more and more bold! Trust, I had a male ROOMMATE just recently who violated, and just knew he was gone apologize or least be embarrassed, but he just kept trying to rub up on, feel up on…some men just feed off women’s anxiety like that smh…
              Anyhoo, it’s not your fault for ‘letting it slide’ b/c you didn’t make it happen in the first place and everyone hopes for the best, but now that you see he’s clearly out his right mind, I hope you eventually feel empowered to tell someone, b/c it is your management’s job to prevent and control these situations…like, legally lol. Cuz for that to happen in a work environment in this day and age is actually pretty crazy, and no one wants a lawsuit lol.

              • Aaliyah Noelle

                Sorry about your roommate !
                I had this happen before with an older man. He didn’t kiss me but he grabbed my asss. I reported it and they didn’t do anything. That’s also a reason why I haven’t told a manager or anything about the old Cuban guy.
                A customer even grabbed my coworker n shook her up. Literally shook her because she couldn’t sell him beer. She was 17 at the time and minors can’t sell alcohol in the state of Florida. She’s like my little cousin so I ran over and pushed the guy off her. There’s no way a 120 pound 5’4 girl could defend herself against a 200 lb+ 6 foot man. None of my managers did anything about it. At all.
                It took 4 of us to get him off her. All he had to do was go to someone else who was 18+.

              • Aaliyah Noelle

                And she’s a light skin Cuban. You can clearly see the handprints and bruises he left on her. He grabbed her so hard.
                Idk why my managers didn’t do anything. It was like 3 managers there that day. If your employees are getting bruised up.. Action should be taken.

                • hollyw

                  Hmmm…this is indeed a troubling situation. One, I’ll say this is considered a hostile workplace environment, hands down. Two, at the least, both you and your friend have a case for phys. & sx assault, regardless if it’d be ruled sx harassment. Plus, ya’ll sell alcohol, so I know there are cameras. I’m really sorry to hear that your initial complaint was not heard; I can see why you didn’t even bother w/ this one, if you had to witness a friend be seriously assaulted like that…
                  I’m not surprised that managers were/are present, though, b/c a lot of low-level managers aren’t familiar or updated on employees rights until, well, one is violated. Just spent the last 15min trying to search state harassment laws and didn’t come up w/ anything for FL, but federally, employees @ businesses w/ 15+ or more overall employees are protected under the EEOC’s Civil Rights Act of 1964, so it’s def their job to enforce your safety. However, the fact that they have not, by either confronting these men, barring them frm the premises, and/or calling security, might indicate that you’re part of a small business (14 or less) that’s more “mom & pop” than a chain store or large establishment, who you couldn’t sue…
                  I’d say it’s worth it to bring this up again, though. Review your employee handbook and what it says about the harassment policies there, and follow the proper channels. Tell them exactly how the incident is disrupting your quality as a worker, like since you and your friend were last ASSAULTED (legal term), you feel anxious every time the door rings, or you take extra steps to avoid contact, even if that means temp. stopping your work duties b/c you do not want to be ASSAULTED again on their premises. Remember the date & remember exactly what they say to you, and if possible, mention the work policy. If the managers balk at you, move higher. You are waaay too young to have to deal w/ this kind of chronic stress! Also, if there are any marks, take camera phone pics!! Legally, if they’re not small business, you can file a complaint w/ the EEOC w/o getting fired or reprimanded (that’s considered retaliation)…UGH, I feel so bad for you, this happens thousands of times a day for us, esp. if you are young!!

                  • Aaliyah Noelle

                    I appreciate you helping me ! I honestly do.
                    Working there…It’s really uncomfortable. I work in a big retail chain store. There’s at least 100 employees. My managers honestly don’t care. I would find another job but this one is closer to campus & I don’t wanna venture off far for work.
                    There’s cameras all around the store. There’s security everywhere. There’s always at least 3 managers on duty at a time. They just don’t care.
                    I remember the exact date the old Cuban guy kissed me. But he only speaks Spanish so I don’t remember what exactly he said Bc my Spanish is minimal. The old Haitian guy.. He told me he was going to take me back to his country and that I would be his wife. -_-

                  • Aaliyah Noelle

                    I’m going to complain to my managers again. I believe my friend did take pics & post them to Twi tter & @ the corporation to show them what we deal with.
                    It’s really embarrassing Bc I have to drop whatever I’m doing with other customers & hide whenever I see them.
                    One customer complained to me that my other coworker told her what he would do to her in terms of s3x. All she wanted to do was pay for her stuff. I told her to report him to a manager. She did. Nothing has happened even tho they saw it on tape what he said. She didn’t hint at anything s3xually with him either. He still works here. She told me she plans to sue. Maybe I should too

                    • hollyw

                      Guuurl, 100+ employees?!? LOL…errm yeah, you got a case, if it happened less than 180 days (6mos) or less ago for either you or your friend… I just checked with the EEOC’s website, and it in one article about a recent lawsuit they just won, it stated, “A recent lawsuit filed by the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) highlights the fact that employers are obligated to prevent the harassment of employees by anyone in the workplace including customers, clients and outside vendors.” This was in Royal Palm Springs, Florida in 2012, mentioned servers at a restaurant getting harassed similarly to you guys, and what the outcome of filing the complaint was (basically, $200,000 and mandatory worker training on harassment, plus those customers being barred frm the premises). Just copy/paste the link, minus the spaces lol: http:// employmentlawweekly. com /index.php/news/all-news/747-employers-must-prevent-harassment-of-employees-by-customers. html

                      You can talk to your managers/higher-ups again if you want, or not…if you wanna do them that favor lol. If you do, I was suggesting earlier that you remember the day you spoke to management and what they said. Either way, it’s clear they are violating A WHOLE LOT and it is systematic, so you have cause to file a harassment complaint, esp. if employers are harassing customers, too??

                      Google your local EEOC office and stop by. They’ll give you all the info you need and follow up w/ the business if you allow them to, while keeping your info confidential. You shouldn’t have to choose between a convenient workplace, sex harassment and abuse, or being jobless!!

                    • Aaliyah Noelle

                      Thank you so much for your help. I appreciate you

                    • hollyw

                      Anytime, sister!

  • Whitney

    I hate when these same types of guys mentioned in the article try to holla/stare way too hard WHILE out w/their significant other. Like really?! How disrespectful can you be smh

    • curiosity.killed.the.cat

      Yes. I agree. I’m surprised they weren’t included on the list. Those guys are the worst! I couldn’t agree with this list more.

      • Mimi

        Lawd! this article is bringing back too many memories. But how disrespectful can you get???!?

    • dee

      Exactly….and please include the ones that send you instant messages via facebook saying “hey beautiful” right after he has posted a picture of himself and his family out on vacation “just loving my life and my beautiful family!”….WTH?!

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    Why da angry dude gotta be black??!

    • hollyw

      Let’s be honest; ALL of them should’ve been black, as those are who give the majority of random attention to strangers…

      • Trisha_B

        No, Hispanic men are infamous for burning holes thru your head from staring & cat calling lol

        • hollyw

          Girl, black, black Hispanic, afro-Caribbean, African; they still all black lol. But OMG @ “holes thru your head” tho smh this life…

  • Phil J.

    how about bish be glad someone payin attention to yo a$$. politely decline and keep it moving. I can’t stand it when someone is being rude to someone is respectfully trying to “holla” at them. Like really? nobody’s P*ssy is that good.

    • just sayin

      As a woman who has been STALKED by a guy I didn’t even know, I can tell you responding nicely like “hi” and “no, I don’t need a ride, thanks” can go horribly wrong. You really have no clue what women go through, and by your words “bish be glad… “, you are definitely one to ignore.

      • Mimi

        My sentiments exactly! When ppl start lurking in the bushes…that’s beyond the point of respectfully declining.

      • Chai Teá

        YES! Being polite can go horrible wrong. It’s always a crap shoot.

      • Phil J.

        I’m just talking about the dialogue exchanged between the two, wasn’t getting into the horror stories of it. Its not that deep. What I said was not that deep, it was very superficial and yet y’all bitter ones act like I said women ain’t sh*t lol

        • SoYouWantMeToDoWhatNow?!

          You’re right, it shouldn’t be “that deep.” You would think if someone approaches you, respectfully even, you should be able to politely decline their advances. Unfortunately, some men don’t take it well and the situation escalates. So, for some (most) women it is “that deep.”

          • MsJen

            Exactly, and someone posted that p***y isn’t that good, um yeah it is; that’s why ya’ll stay hollering. Act like you know

    • hotmama01

      You sound beyond ignorant and that your mother is ashamed of you. “…is respectfully trying to ‘holla’ at them; ” that doesn’t even exist. Nobody’s “p*&$y” is good enough for you to stand outside seeking attention like a common beggar w/no hobbies or job as only (some) black men do. No one is desperate enough to be grateful for your attentions, random stranger, in real life or online, so please just slit your wrists already.

      • Phil J.

        You sound hurt. I wasn’t directing my comment at anybody. As i stated before I was coming from a comical stand point, but a rusty wheel will squeal. I guess you felt as though I was targeting you because there’s some truth to what I said. Take your butt hurt self somewhere else lol

        • hotmama01

          DUH everyone can see you’re just a boy trolling to no one in particular, No man with common sense talks like that or finds that funny ever, let alone gives that 3rd grade “whoever smelt it, dealt it” response. It’s just annoying for your kind to troll women’s sites , sucking up all the space with your mommy issues, so the sooner you accept that you’re a lame azz nothing n*gga, the better. Goodbye.

          • Phil J.

            i wasn’t trolling. you responded to my comment and i responded back. Ha. you’re one VERY INSECURE woman behind a computer screen. Your words don’t move me. Don’t take it out on me because I struck a chord. fix yourself :) and the only n*gga around here is you babe :)

    • See The Light

      You can’t be nice to everyone. I had a guy still dressing like the Force MDs at my job threaten to end my life because I politely told him I was not interested. All I said was hello in the elevator and he started leaving notes, walking through my department and following me at lunch. He was eventually fired because I was about the 4th woman to complain about him and I held on to all his crazy notes.

      • Phil J.

        You can be nice to everyone, however when they show you they are crazy, that’s when you pepper spray that a$$ lol

    • Chai Teá

      It’s horrible that men like you see women as only p*ssy. Women are so much more, and I’m sure that the majority of this harassment that women face has to do with the fact that men like you only see women as p*ssy.

      • Phil J.

        I know that I was partially joking. I was talking about a setting where a man politely and respectfully asks a woman out and she’s disrespectful. That’s it. if my comment made you angry maybe it struck a nerve lol

        • hollyw

          It is extremely insecure to respond to multiple people telling you your comment was inappropriate by one, trying to change what you originally said, and two, acting like it’s something wrong with the offended party instead of your comment.

          … then again, what man with decency would even refer to women as “bish” and “pu$$y”, even jokingly?? Easy answer is, they wouldn’t.

    • MsJen

      It’s not a compliment when I’m busy and doing something and some creep won’t leave you alone. I’ve said no thank you plenty of times but some guys just get in their feelings. I don’t want to be “hollered” at the gym, when I am grocery shopping or when I am clearly in a rush…Like I am not here for you so stop acting like you are doing me a favor. N I am not talking about you , I am talking about the creeps

  • #1TrophyWife

    So creepy some men are, I get especially creeped by old men, staring at girls like a peice of meat! Eww.. In my experience old men can be the creepiest.

    • Mimi

      Yes…a lot of those older men probably were pedophiles depending on what age you were. When I was younger it was horrible to the point where now I find it disturbingly weird and creepy when older men try to talk to me and I’m almost 30! Probably BC I have flashbacks of when I was 13. Like sir…I’m wearing soda sneakers, blue jean overalls, rocking flat twist and candy curls playing with my Gigapet..back off!

  • Young Fella

    I’m not gonna lie I use to be a big starer. But that’s something you grow out of or may not notice your doing it. Sometimes some girls look just right. From my experience girls violate this rule waaaay more then men but we don’t call them out on it.

    • See The Light

      My boss’ son was over 40 and still a starer. He would video and photograph the women in the office. It took threats of a harassment suit to stop him. It is good you outgrew it.

      • Mimi

        Oh wow that is past creepy. He sounds like the dude in a recent article I read about placing hidden cameras in woman’s bathroom’s… Just perverted.

    • hollyw

      I don’t think we’re referring to the same kind of “starer” if you think women (notice how you compared girls to men lol) perpetrate more than men…

  • smh

    Living in NY, I have met all of these guys, except the club guy, because I stay out of clubs. Do guys not understand how creepy this behavior is??

  • hollyw

    Lmbo “Well, fx&^ you den, B**CH!”

    All-time favorite, hands down! Please just stop with the God bless you’s and You have a good day, too, then! bullsh-t and say how you really feel. I mean, I intentionally ignored you, so it’s not like I care, but the least you could do interrupting my walk and risking me getting hit by a taxi is to be honest. You felt entitled to my attention; you didn’t get it: ergo, I’m a “b***h”, duh.

    You don’t get points deducted for being passive aggressive! In fact, you might actually get a smug grin out of me for that lol.

  • yoda

    Guys who follow/chase and guys in cars are very scary

    • hollyw

      Followers are the worst of the worst! Right above starers (which is also an act of aggression). I’ve trained myself to walk and look straight after a few years in Harlem, but a hand reaching out or even you shifting in this direction will seriously have me go from Jekyll to Hyde on that azz and I do not care who sees or hears!

      • yoda

        Somebody touching me would make me go crazy! Luckily where I live it’s just people saying stuff and asking to talk to me.

        • hollyw

          Yeah, no, I don’t get touched a lot either anymore. Think it has something to do with my face, which ironically used to have a smile on it on nice days out until it invited too many unwanted conversations smh!

          • yoda

            I don’t not smile on purpose that just how I look lol

      • Mimi

        Or what about the combo Follower/Starer they are the worse its like they are undressing you with their creepy eyes lol and following you. And they don’t get it…its like you ignore them and then they position themselves to be seen by you! I had to cuss one man out…as much as I don’t like to cuss he was making a scene at the gym out of all places…moaning n crap like negro what in hell is wrong with you?!? Its like he wanted the ppl around him to know he was staring too! Every machine i went to there he go creeping and staring! I wanted to hit him with a dumb bell! Creep! Some guys just don’t get it! Those are the types you put restraining orders on BC they are most likely loony.

        • hollyw

          Ughhhh!!! That would make me blow up. Following you around is bad enough, but following you around in close quarters?? And making noises, too?! No, I’m going to have to report you! Seriously, either he’d go or I’d go, unless they wanted a scene!

          Real talk, I think those kind of men DO get it; they are intentionally trying to embarrass you b/c they know you wouldn’t give them the light of day and think you’ll cower, so if I’m not having a good day, I will embarrass them right back by loudly stating how this is HARASSMENT AND GET OUT OF MY PERSONAL SPACE. If it’s one thing a black man can’t stand, it’s the angry black woman making a scene and they usually blur out of there lol…

          • Mimi

            IKR lol! Well he got it that day! Just doing to much! Lol

        • tintin

          im literally PMSL…..

      • yep

        Don’t forget the music in your ears… when that starer starts talking.. “what?, I can’t hear you”

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