5 Things To Do For Yourself (No Man Required)

March 7th, 2011 - By Erica Renee

Nowadays waiting on ‘Mr.Right’ to arrive to treat you to all the things you deserve, could possibly result in you missing out on the simple pleasantries of life. Who said you have to wait on a man to purchase an extravagant gift or take you out on a date to do your favorite things? As long as you’re healthy and of course if funds permit, you should at least do these five things for yourself. The good news is no man is required.

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  • bhappynomattawhat

    I am happily married and I still do most this stuff, except vacationing by myself. But, I do try to make a trip with the girls every now and then. When I get things from him, it's a wonderful bonus. But, I don't expect it from him. Whether you are with someone or not, you shouldn't be waiting around trying to see when you might this stuff from your/a man. You should be treasuring yourself and treating yourself like something special, not waiting for someone to do it for you.

  • btrue2u

    I pulled this statement from another article I read, I believe this says it all if you're single:
    I once heard a quote that intrigued me: "Being single is nature's way of forcing you to love yourself"– this quote has so many layers of meaning and depth. I'll go one step further and say that being single is a profound opportunity for self realization. An opportunity to determine your worth and value, to define your boundaries of what is acceptable and what is not, to understand that the highest expression of love is to become more of who you are, to realize that love does not require you to compromise your self respect, dignity or self worth, to reflect on what you believed you had to give up in order to get what you thought was love, and to know the depth of your capacity to love deeply, truly and completely.

  • philos85

    Wow, did this lady just write all this? as a man im shocked what kind of conversations are going on, on these female blogs.

    All the stuff mention is self suicidal lonely crap! it will only be good the first or second time but the third time you send yourself flowers or go holiday on your own your just gonna cry. All the ideas are all so self centred as well.

    NO man would ever do these things for himself or the guys equivalent.
    NO man is delusional enough to think he can get by his life with a good woman by your side.

    remember ladies its not just a waiting game. Talk to guys its 2011!
    an not just the ones you think are cute. thats the equivalent of guys only talking to a girl with a big ass. lol

    And please, please dont judge the black man.

  • jp21

    that is so wack, cliche, and unpractical…. it is always right to learn to love yourself and to be comfortable with yourself, but having a significant other brings a lot to a relationship. A lot more than people would like to think, the "Amazonian Complex" is getting old and tired.

  • JE.B

    Luuuuv the articles on self love. Women especially black women need to get it together and focus on loving ourselves then a man will come

  • http://twitter.com/starlettjo StarJo

    OF COURSE, many do this already but I know lots of gals who don't and won't! and it's a big mistake! the message is "don't abandon yourself when you are sans a man" not "you don't need a man" at all! if you treat yourself well, love ourself, and respect yourself men will be more attracted to you!

  • Desmond

    Some of these experts are interesting to me! I hope the person that wrote this article has a man, because if she does not, then she don't know what a man brings to a relationship. It would be like Oprah being an expert on kids, when she don't have any (but she acts like she does). I hate it when these so called experts have all the answers, to burning issues, and they have not experienced what they are speaking on. Please stop encouraging our sisters to send themselves flowers, if you are a rational person, you would not think its ok to send flowers to yourself.

    Just a thought

  • Moses Neuman

    I think these are excellent ideas. I believe that if more women took these incentives then theycould better understand their self worth, and would stop dating these men who have no vision, or purpose in life.

  • MSTEXAZ

    Honey I do that already I work hard and, splurge in me and my son we doing just fine but still would like to find a good man just not going to hold my breath lol

  • theworldoftiffany

    I agree with Robert, I thought this article was going to say something else. I guess it's like Steve Harvey books, many of us already knew and were familiar with what he 'taught' but there are a few (poor things) who are unaware so this article will apeal to them. I do all this already…it's time for a man, a wedding and some babies :)

  • Robert Smith

    Madam Noire, I understand the intent of your article but please don't phrase it in a misleading way. I'm sure you know the dire strait that the African-American community is in with the high rate of unwed mothers single parent home and poverty. Don't encourage young women in any way to think that they don't need a man. They need a man. The African American community and it's women are the only people on earth that would say something as crazy as "I don't need a man". I could go on and on. Help save them don't contribute to their destruction. Family first.

    • Desmond

      Amen

    • Guest

      I don't think the author was saying "leave men alone" or go have all these children out of wedlock. I think she's simply saying that women need to enjoy their lives the best they can whether or not they have a man-and I think she's right on! I think those are two separate things. Yes, having a relationship can bring great benefits and companionship and the black family unit is not necessarily what it used to be in certain respects. But does that mean if you are single, that you should be depressed and put your life on hold until you meet a man? Should you postpone going on vacations and trying out that new restaurant that you've always wanted to try simply b/c you have no boyfriend at the time? We are given one life and it can be gone in an instant, so I think it's a bit unwise to leave desires unfilled simply b/c you are single, waiting for your Prince Charming to come. LIVE YOUR LIFE and make yourself happy whether you have a boo or not!

  • http://www.bathroomfreestyle.blogspot.com Kool.Kid.Kris

    "The Fact Is (I Need You)" Jill Scott

    I can pay my own light bill baby
    Pump my own gas in my own car
    I can buy my own shoe collection
    I've been blessed thus far
    I can kill the spider above my bed
    Although it's hard because I'm scared
    I can even stain and polyurethane
    But some things just don't change
    I need you yeah
    Sometimes so hard to say oh
    I need you
    Some things remain
    I could buy my own groceries baby
    Get my hair tight, my nails right
    I can floss my own bling bling
    Write the words to the songs I sing
    I can even raise the child we'll make
    Make sure he's loved and knows what God gave us
    I can teach him how to walk and stand
    But he needs you to help him be a man
    We need you
    So hard to say
    We need you

  • http://Ernestjbennett@yahoo.com Machete

    That’s a pile of bull crap…..women do this any way…..the many women without a man have a problem with getting along with men period. Just be a woman.

    • menissance

      "WHERES MY WIFE AND DAUGHTER!!!" LOL