Help! I Never Acknowledged Him In Public, So He Put Me In The Booty Call Zone

April 15, 2014  |  

 

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Dear Abiola,

Is there a way to move out of booty call zone? I’m frustrated and lost. I love him but I know it’s partially my fault. I am a successful up and coming lawyer. I was also the booty call for two years until I started to refuse a couple of months ago.

When we first met I used to reject any talk about relationships. After we had sex for the first time he asked about us being together and I refused. He invited me on dates several times and I declined. Stupid me. I was afraid of being in a relationship. He used to ask me to come over just to hang out even on my periods to show me that it was not just sex he wanted. I used to not even acknowledge him in public.

Then I found out he was sleeping with a girl I knew at the same time. Apparently, he would call me first then when I declined he would call her. This got me really upset but because I liked him I didn’t show it. We stopped for a while, then started to have sex again.

He used to sleep over. We would get dressed for work together and act like a little family. Now it’s just confusing.  If we see each other at parties, he gives me a nasty stare when I am talking to another guy. He stopped talking to me in public because I used to not acknowledge him and he said he’s fed up of me hiding. He also has hooked back up with his ex sexually.

Help! I want him as my best friend and husband. I want him so badly but I think now I’m just stuck in the booty call zone.

Signed,

Frustrated, Lonely & Hopeless

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