Reasons Your Relationship Has Become Boring

May 20, 2014  |  
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Most relationships start off with a bang, including plenty of raw emotion, passion, and excitement, but for a lot of relationships, time can be damaging. As time passes, it’s common for relationships to be less exciting, especially as the initial emotions wear off and things settle into normalcy. With this said, there’s no need to beat yourself up if you find that you’re starting to feel like your relationship has become dull. When this happens, the important thing is to recognize it and fix it. Here are a few reasons your relationship has become boring.

There’s not much excitement

Excitement is what keeps a relationship interesting and fun. Think back to the last time you and your man actually did something that roused your senses — besides sex. If new experiences are becoming few and far between it’s time for you two to start going on dates again or plan a little getaway.

Stuck in a routine

Routines are convenient, but they quickly become mundane. If you know what you and your man are going to be doing tomorrow and next week, then it’s time to change things up a bit.

Boring sex

Sex can definitely make or break a relationship. If you and your man just don’t have that connection in the bedroom anymore, that’s a symptom of a larger disconnect. Talk about why the passion is subsiding and good sex shall follow.

Bad communication

Though you’ve heard it before, communication is the key to any successful relationship. Not only does a lack of communication lead to tension, stress, and frustration, it can also lead to boredom. Talking about the small things like the weather or even work all the time can become boring because it’s surface level communication, not dialogue that sparks meaningful conversation and deepens the bond between you.

No spontaneity

No one wants to come home to the same thing every night — even if it is great. Eventually,we all get tired of the same ol’ thing, so find a way to switch up your Tuesday dinner dates, surprise your boo with lunch, step outside of your box.


No matter where you go or where you look, there are always going to be men available to you. If you look at these men and wish you could be with them instead of your current partner, then it’s likely that you’ve settled. Settling is bound to lead to boredom since you’re yearning for something more.

The foundation isn’t solid

When the relationship is only based on a few things, such as physical attraction, it’s easy for things to become boring, quickly — mostly because you two don’t even know each other. At this point you need to decide whether you’re going to be friends with benefits or cut ties altogether.

Too much time together

Spending time with your partner is definitely important, but spending too much time together can be detrimental to a relationship. If you spend every waking moment together, you don’t get a chance to miss each other and there is never anything exciting or new to talk about. Spend some time apart to improve things.

Laziness has set in

Once a relationship gets comfortable and you and your partner have been dating for awhile, it’s pretty common for the level of effort put into the relationship to decline. When laziness sets in and you two aren’t trying to woo each other, things can become boring. Remember it’s both of your jobs to keep interest going.

You don’t share much in common

You two don’t have to have everything in common, but if you don’t share similar passions, hobbies, and goals with your partner, it could be hard to stay connected. You may start doing all the things you really love without your partner and then you have little holding you together.

You take each other for granted

When you’re accustomed to your relationship and your partner, it’s easy to get into the mindset that he will always be around and that there is no need to impress him as much anymore. But, nothing is guaranteed and taking your partner or relationship for granted is bound to make things boring. Buy him a card or make him dinner; it’ll keep things interesting.

You miss the single life

There are some people out there who get into relationships but realize that they truly miss the joy of being single so they put little to no effort into their relationship and things go south. It’s a roundabout way of getting what you really want, which is to be free, so as soon as you recognize the symptoms just sever ties.

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