Why Women Stay With The Wrong Men

April 8, 2014  |  
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There are way too many women out there who spend way too much time trying to figure out whether or not they should continue to date a man who’s no good for thing. Sadly, even though the answer is sometimes an obvious no, a lot of women will stay in the relationship and hang in there, even if there’s no real reason to do so. Here are 14 reasons women stay with the wrong men.


To avoid being alone

Once you’re in a relationship and gotten used to all of its perks and benefits, it can be pretty hard to let those go and to be completely content with being single. A lot of women stay with the wrong men because they don’t want to be alone. Being alone is tough and, well, for most people, it’s lonely.

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Hope that things will change

People change. Relationships change. And for some women, the possibility of change is enough to keep them with the wrong men. Staying in a bad relationship with the hope that things will change and get better is pretty common, but where most women go wrong is not setting boundaries or time limits for when this change has to occur, which means they stay in a bad relationship for way too long.


His feelings

Women are sensitive, for the most part. For a lot of women, it’s hard to think about breaking someone’s heart. Maybe this man really likes you and cares about you but deep down you know that he just isn’t the man that you should be with. But, the idea of hurting someone is sometimes too much for some women.


Her feelings

Some women will stay with the wrong men just because they love them and don’t want to experience the sadness of a breakup, not realizing they’re doing more harm than good in the long run.



We all have insecurities about something, and a lot of women find security in relationships and the man they’re dating. Whether it’s a lack of self-confidence or the idea that you’re nothing without a relationship, insecurities can keep you tied to the wrong man.

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Willingness to settle

No woman should ever settle, but sadly, a lot of us do. We settle to not be alone or we settle because we’re okay with Mr. Right Now. If a woman is willing to settle with a man on things she considers non-negotiables she’s shooting herself in the foot.


He keeps coming back

So maybe you’ve broken up with him before but you two didn’t stay apart for long. He texted and called you, and you two eventually reconnected and decided to give things a go again. But, if you’ve broken up with a man, and you’re considering doing so again, doesn’t it show that you really aren’t looking to be with him? Just because he wants you back doesn’t mean you should take him.


The physical connection is strong

Being physically attracted to the man you’re dating is definitely a good thing. But, relationships can’t last solely on physical attraction. If this man doesn’t connect with you emotionally or if his personality just isn’t up to par, there’s no reason to stay with him. Don’t fall into the trap of staying with the wrong man because physically things are perfect, even though everything else is lacking.


Good is good enough

Dating and relationships are all about taking chances with men and hopefully finding that one man that makes your heart flutter. But, some women stay with the wrong men with the idea that this relationship is as good as it gets. Even though it’s void of all passion and excitement, you’ve put so much time and effort into it that it’s not worth the risk of not finding someone new who is better.


Financial binds

It’s not uncommon for couples to have intertwined finances and a lot of women stay with the wrong men because they are financially tied to him, be it a shared lease on an apartment or a mortgage.


Obliviousness to how bad things are

Love can be pretty blinding. It can be hard to take off the rose-colored glasses and see things for what they really are. Some women stay with the wrong men simply because they don’t realize just how bad things are. This is where outside opinions and advice really become handy.


The sex is good

While this may sound like something that a man would do, there are plenty of women out there who are guilty of staying with the wrong man just because the sex is good. Though it can be hard to find a man who you click with completely when it comes to time between the sheets, no relationship can survive off of just sex. One dimensional relationships never fair well.

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The biological clock

In your mind, you are running out of time. You’re at that age where you want to start having children and you feel more pressure than ever before to settle down with a man and to take things from there. Though your biological clock does continue to tick, there really isn’t a high sense of urgency. Yes you’re getting older, but you’re also getting wiser and better.


To prove other people wrong

Maybe your best friend said that your relationship wasn’t going to work, or maybe your coworkers have an office bet going about how long your relationship is going to last. Whatever the case may be, it’s not uncommon for a woman to stay with the wrong man simply to prove someone else wrong.

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