I’m In My Forties And Haven’t Had Sex In Years

March 18, 2014  |  


From YourTango

Dear Dr. Romance
I am in my forties, and hadn’t had sex in years. I met someone and we CLICKED. We had sex on the 2nd date, I know you can’t unring the bell, and I’m betting that was probably a mistake, but there is a serious physical attraction between this man and myself along with the ability to talk and laugh about anything.

My daughter has figured it out of course and is not pleased, we’ve talked about it a little bit, and I’ve explained that there’s a bit of difference between her teenage experience and mine. They haven’t met yet, because I don’t introduce anyone to my daughter until I know they are really going to be a part of my life for along time.  What do I do?????  A Single Mom in a not so Unique Situation (I think)

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  • MsLadyE

    The only way this woman’s daughter “figured it out” is that she TOLD her daughter what happened. She shouldn’t have told her teenage daughter anything about it. Children have no business in adult situations because they aren’t equipped to handle them yet.

  • 9Boots

    People wonder why the daughters of unwed mothers are three times more likley to produce children out of wedlock. This is a perfect example.

    • Chey

      They don’t hear you though!

      • 9Boots

        You and I, and the rest of us that get it are going to continue to tell them until their ears fall off. LOL!

  • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

    How did ur daughter figure it out & ain’t u grown?…more than grown at 40!…chile boo u f*cked so what…u act like this nucca took ur virginity or something keep ur daughter in her childs place & keep it moving

    • JenJen I’anson

      Totally agree with you, keep your child out of adult conversations and business

  • Live_in_LDN

    You had a itch that needed scratching. As long as you protected yourself, there is nothing wrong with that.
    You are in danger of catching feelings with this dude as you are so starved of physical intimacy, the first dude who satisfy you, is going to cause your heart to flutter and can blur your judgement of if he’s actually appropriate for the long haul.

    I still don’t understand how your daughter figured it out, unless you told her or left rubbers all over the house? She might figure out that you have been dating a man but the s3x side of things?

  • bigdawgman

    Is her daughter psychic, or did she bring the dude home? Children imitate what they see, they half ignore what you tell them. Better hope you don’t catch any boys in her room one night….

  • 9Boots

    Sin is sin no matter what age you are.

    • xxdiscoxxheaven

      I actually agree. How can you advise a teen not to have random relations when you do it yourself?

      • 9Boots

        Yep. Many people think as long as you are not a teenager then the rules change for adults. However adults are the number one entity jackin up the world with their backwards behavior.

  • juicyco

    her daughter is not pleased??? um ok