How to Make the Most Out of Being Single

February 14, 2011  |  

Singleness is not a chronic illness nor does it equate to a miserable existence.

So much emphasis, especially for women, is placed on romantic relationships and finding the man of our dreams. From day one, we are given baby dolls and Barbies in preparation for our “destiny,” to become a wife and mother. Of course, there is nothing wrong with remaining open to love and keeping your eyes out for potential suitors, so long as singleness is not viewed simply as the hiatus (or waiting period) between adolescence and adulthood.

Every day, every minute, every second of our lives is precious and meant to be full of purpose. While single, there is so much opportunity to put time into charity and self-development. In order to be successful in a lifetime commitment, you have to be in the position to bring a whole you to the table.

Most of us need time to get to know ourselves before we can deal with the issues and baggage. As a single person without the distractions of a spouse and children, you can make those much needed daily appointments with you and the mirror. The time alone is your chance to mature from a girl into a woman. Confidence and sexiness come from knowing yourself, being comfortable in your strengths and weaknesses. When you can identify with who you are, the direction of your life becomes much clearer and it is easier to narrow down a focus. In understanding your wants and needs, sifting through men also takes on a no-nonsense policy.

The freedom gives you the ability to explore the world and culture on a whim, trekking through Western Europe, a nationwide tour of museums, whatever your heart (and bank account) desires. The responsibilities that come with marriage and family are wonderful but individually limiting. Be spontaneous and take in as much ethnic food, foreign culture and education as you can. Never played a sport? Take a tennis lesson or two. Love Japanese fashion? Take trip to Tokyo. Do you have an interest in fine art? Attend an auction. It doesn’t matter if you can’t buy anything. It’s about the experience. If you’ve lived a timid life, thrust yourself out of your shell.

Be sure to pay it forward and take your exuberance to the community. Pour into the lives of other young women and girls. As a single woman, you have the time to be a big sister or mentor. It is a window of opportunity to share your testimony.

Single ladies, the world is your oyster. Indulge before it’s too late.

Want to know more about LaShaun Williams? Check out her blog Politically Unapologetic, where she shares thoughts on pop culture, love and life. Follow her on Twitter @itsmelashaun.

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