So here it is…the man of your dreams has found you. You are everything he could ever ask for in a woman. At least, that’s what he claims. You’re physically attractive, educated and classy. You cook, clean, take care of business in every way, give him the world plus more, and you show him unconditional love and affection. In his eyes, you are deemed as the perfect woman. The one he’s going to spend the rest of his natural-born life with, have children with, and finish out his days with while living the American dream…but then you find out he has been unfaithful to you. Not only that, but he has cheated on you with a woman who is nothing like what he claims he wants in a partner. She’s the woman who is the total opposite of you, and is interested in being messy, rather than being monogamous. The only question at this point you can ask him and yourself is why? Why did this man cheat on me with a woman like her? While it is never good to compare yourself to another woman, no matter who she is, one can’t help but to wonder why some men are unfaithful to women whom they desire to settle down with, and step out with women who they couldn’t imagine a future with? Well, there are several answers to this question.
The first reason men are untrue to their main squeeze with a different kind of woman is because they want to deal with someone who is easier. While most men prefer a woman with spunk, many men choose to take the simple way out with a woman who won’t challenge his wits, question his actions or hold him accountable, as long as he’s giving her what she asks for, which isn’t much.
Drama, drama and more drama! Believe it or not, some men enjoy the company and pleasures of women who create and keep up drama. Why? Because they see it as keeping excitement in the relationship, and there is something different about it that brings something new to his reality. While most men don’t like to deal with it, many do…and then later complain about wanting a drama-free life! Go figure.
When men become dissatisfied with their initial commitments with their main squeeze, they become bored and start searching for someone totally different to make up for what is lacking in their primary relationship. Whether it’s in the bedroom (which it usually is), or simply wanting a change from their normal routine, a man will selfishly step out on his girl to meet his own needs.
It could also be that a man is intimidated by the woman he’s with. It is unfortunate how some men are intimidated by the success of the women they are involved with. Not only that, but they can be rattled by the person she is in comparison to who he is and what he has accomplished. So what does he do? He canoodles with a woman who has weaker tendencies, or one who has ‘less’ than what he has to boost his own ego. Not only is this unfair to his companion, but its also unfair to the one he’s creeping with. Why? Because he doesn’t value either of them, and the only thing he’s concerned about is recharging his fragile pride.
Many men feel like they can be themselves, or be someone else. More often than not, men have the tendency to put on a facade for women of higher standards to make themselves seem as though they are more than who they really are. As a result, it puts pressure on them, therefore causing a man to look for someone he can be his true self around, or someone who won’t require as much from him.
The last and final reason men cheat on women with women they wouldn’t commit to is…because they can. Men will only cheat with women who are willing, no matter who they are.
Ladies, when your mate decides to be untrue to you with a woman who has less standards than your own, don’t be upset or question who you are. Why? Because a man is going to do what a man is going to do and with whomever he wants to do it with.
Has your significant other cheated on you with someone who is the complete opposite of you? How did it make you feel?
Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For? Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin.