Questions You Should Ask Your “Rainbeau Man” Before You Get Serious

February 1st, 2011 - By Christelyn Karazin

More Americans are dating and marrying interracially than ever before in American history, according to a Pew Research Study released in June 2010.  Interestingly enough, the report indicates that Black men are marrying Becky, Su Lin, Maria, or Harnisha 22 percent of the time.  But black women still lag behind in the swirling pool, intermarrying at only 9 percent, but those numbers are up from 4 percent since, well, the last time they checked.


Many African-American women are reluctant to try “something new” for a variety of reasons, ranging from lingering scars of slavery, an unfamiliarity or reluctance to intermingle with other cultures, and–here’s the biggie–unflagging loyalty to the brothas.

But here’s a news flash in case you missed it–black men seem to have ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEM dating all races, cultures and creeds.  So if you’re thinking you might just see what all the hoopla is for yourself, and you’re interested in being more than a “jump-off,” you might want to stealthily ask your rainbeau interest a few questions before you fill all those eggs into the basket.

Warning: “Don’t really ask direct questions, instead make comments that encourage him to talk, and be sure to leave him a lot of time to come up with his answers.  If you’re really verbal, you might be too fast for him, and unintentionally shut him down, especially about delicate or uncomfortable subjects,” recommends Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., “Dr. Romance” psychotherapist and author of Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage.

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  • counter racism

    “interracial” soulmates do NOT exist.  A mate has a complimentary body. The first male and female soulmates came from the SAME BODY and will be from the same stock group family of people. If you are a female of African heritage, your soulmate would also be a person of African heritage. You may have the same interests and ideals, as you would likely have with at least 1,000 other people, but that doesn’t make THEM your soulmates  The idea of a SOulmate is a Hebrew idea from the Hebrew book of Genesis. And as an African female a European male can NEVER be your soulmate, nor can you be his. In the context of what a soulmate actually is. Adam and Chava were not ‘interracial” they came from ONE body and were then CREATED male and female. 

  • http://www.InterRacialDatingHq.com Inter Racial Dating

    I haven't been reading post lately and i was amazed by the statistics though. Actually, i am a pro inter racial dating and quite mesmerized by that information. May people accept it somehow..

  • The Cynic

    Some more info on the Pew Research study http://pewresearch.org/pubs/1616/american-marriag…

    The survey found that acceptance of out-marriage to whites (81%) is somewhat higher than is acceptance of out-marriage to Asians (75%), Hispanics (73%) or blacks (66%). The survey also showed the flip side of the same coin: Black respondents are somewhat more accepting of all forms of intermarriage than are white or Hispanic respondents. More than seven-in-ten blacks (72%) say it would be fine with them if a family member chose to marry someone who was white, Hispanic or Asian. By contrast, 61% of whites and 63% of Hispanics say they would be fine with a family member marrying someone from any of the other groups.

  • The Cynic

    ” Interestingly enough, the report indicates that Black men are marrying Becky, Su Lin, Maria, or Harnisha 22 percent of the time. ”
    This is the number of BM who married out in 2008! Ppl who actually got married that year. All & all only 13% of Blk dudes were currently married to a non-Blk chick that year. Why did she forget to add that little point? Propaganda…

    Blacks and Whites are the LEAST likely inter-racial/ethnic couple in the US. Only 11% of IR couples are b/tween Blks and Whites. That is a real statistic from the Pew Research Center's "Marrying Out" publication. I wonder why that wasn't cited…

    In 1825 Africans made up 49.8% of Brazil, Mixed-race 17.8%, and Europeans 23.4%. Now only 6% of Brazilians identify as Black. How did such a thing happen? Why is it that all of these blogs beat in this IR dating crap on a daily basis? Why does mainstream news like ABC, The New York Times, The Economist, etc. constantly report on single BW, IR marriages, and biracial kids? What is the purpose of this?

    • Blah Blah

      Black women outnumber black men by 1.8 million. The vast majority of black men don't bother getting married. That in and of itself is a problem for black women who DO want to marry. There is a higher percentage of black men who have NEVER married than black women who have NEVER married. Of the few black men who do marry, 22% marry women who aren't black.

      As for your survey (below) who cares. Two people connect as individuals, not as percentages. If you don't want to marry IR, then don't do it. If you don't like reading reports or blogs on it, then don't. Others do want to read about and be in IR, and there's nothing you can do about it so just get over it.

      • counter racism

        of COURSE there is a higher number of black males who have never married!! DUH, it’ isn’t like the Prison Industrial Plantations are the place for ROMANCE AND MARRIAGE AND FAMILY REARING!! What trips me out is how much we like to talk about black males not getting married more than black females ( which STILL is not a reason to get in bed with a White Supremacist) because it is RECORDED BY DATA and history that no matter HOW much White men DO marry, the black female is the LAST ONE THEY LOOK AT as WIFE material ( because they are Racists and don’t want “black” babies. The marriage habits of black males are CIRCUMSTANTIAL and conditional. The marriage habits of White men are CULTURAL and historical. We can do PLENTY about the constant “interracial” gutter sex garbage.. we can COUNTER IT AND EXPOSE IT FOR WHAT IT IS.. Genocidal propaganda which White Supremacists have used against  black people for HUNDREDS OF YEARS. to eliminate us. 

    • counter racism

      If you google, “The Elimination of the Negro” and if you WILL find out JUST WHAT THE PURPOSE of all this interracial CRAP aimed at black females is.  Read J.A. ROGERS, Sex & Race vol.3  and read quote after quote of White men from the 20s and  30s speaking of WIPING BLACK PEOPLE OUT AND GETTING RID OF THE NEGRO by USURPING black people’s reproductive abilities (keeping them from producing black children) by finding a way to get BLACK FEMALES TO MARRY WHITE MEN and bear children with THEM instead of black males. It was noted that THIS WOULD NOT ALTER the “White Stock” because White men would essentially still be knocking up White women with their seed & producing more little Racists while black female’s wombs would be used to breed anything BUT more beautiful black male and female babies.. A world of yellow, buffer class, watered down Africans who could eventually be mated with more White people producing what Eartha Kitt, Grace Jones, Donna Summers and others have produced until you get to grandchildren who look JUST LIKE WHITE CHILDREN.    GENOCIDE! iT WAS DONE TO NATIVE AMERICANS, but apparently as black males and females we are too RETARDED to recognize what is being thrown at us.. among ALL people why in the HELL would I want to breed with WHITE PEOPLE? 90%-92% OF ALL people on the planet are NOT WHITE and have color protection on their skin. WHY WOULD i WANT to mate with someone with RECESSIVE GENES? ….unless i was psychologically programmed to hate myself and want to BLEACH my genes out by having white men’s babies? I PRAY for the day when all.these black people who CLAIM they think they are “black and beautiful” will BELIEVE IT ENOUGH to keep recreating it. 

  • Isaiah Robertson

    I don't knock anyone that decides to date across racial lines, but as for me, brown is the finest sugar there is!
    http://www.isaiahtellsdatruth.com