My Own Personal Cirque Du Soleil: When Is It Time To End The Juggling Act?
Welcome to our new column, Reset. Written by Karen Taylor Bass, this column, published each Tuesday, Reset is about life lessons learned and finally mastered mentally, spiritually, and physically. We’ll be taking a closer look at the real challenges faced throughout the journey of life, no matter how successful a person is.
I’m ultimately a big kid at heart and absolutely love the circus. However there is something to be said about juggling – giving others too much time, energy and face time. Managing my own daily circus act as brand mom, wife, PTA president, and chief do-it-all came to a halt recently when prepping to attend a PTA Central Council meeting. It actually dawned on me that I had the option of not attending and putting myself first.
Finally, I was tired from a full day and had to ponder: Did I sign up to be uber-involved in the PTA, or was I simply being super-Karen? Truth be told, I actually signed up for the First VP position, then the president became ill and I had to step up.
Perhaps you’re not a mother, but you can still be a sister who’s over-committed. Your career is demanding. Maybe you’re the primary caregiver for an ailing parent. Or you need a job and you’re currently trying to be in the right place at the right time to get noticed. It doesn’t matter – we all spend time doing too many things at the cost of health, love and preservation.
Deya “Direct” Smith, author of Touch Yourself 30 Ways: To Boldly Live, Love, and Let Go! says, “If you are willing to sacrifice self, but give others the best of you, it might be time to check self.”
Reset. I poured a glass of wine, watched my favorite basketball team, the Miami Heat, and exhaled. Started to think, how can I be a leader if someone else is leading me? It was time to write a job description for my new PTA role, itemize talent vs. time and present it to the PTA board.
Tips to Reset the Juggling Act:
Self. You are the most important person and when you put that on display, folks will stop adding to your workload.
Repeat. The more you practice saying “No,” the easier it will roll of your tongue.
Prioritize. Take a realistic look at your schedule, see how much time you can allocate to an activity or leadership role in an organization.
Delegate. You are a leader, empower others to step up and shine.
Tone. It’s not always what you are saying. It’s how you relay it to others.
Thank you, remixed. Keep it simple and sweet. Thank everyone for thinking so highly of you. But politely pass on the additional opportunity for the moment.
Karen Taylor Bass, has pressed RESET; boldly living life now as an Author, PR Expert, Brand Mom, Corporate and Small Business Coach and Adviser. Follow her @thebrandnewmom on Twitter.