When He Shows You Who He Is, Believe Him

January 10th, 2011 - By Demetria Irwin

On Sunday night’s episode of “What Chilli Wants,” we saw Chilli once again trying to get some romantic attention from her “friend” of many years Floyd Mayweather. Just looking at Chilli’s body language when she’s around him let’s you know that she loves him dearly and would gladly welcome any definitive, more than platonic effort on his part. She wants (wanted) a grand gesture of sorts and she was willing to even take a small one.

Chilli wanted their trip to the amusement park to be more of a romantic one-on-one date, while Floyd treated it like a boys’ night out. He was literally throwing footballs over her head to his security team. Can’t get more unromantic than that. Over the past couple episodes whenever Chilli asked him the whole “What are we?”  and “Will we ever be more than friends?” type of questions, he either non-nonchalantly dodged the question with a joke or answered in some semi-flirtatious yet still ambigious way.

He would not flat out say “Chilli, I will just be your friend forever. Don’t waste any time worrying about what I want,” but he did show her that’s what he meant through his actions. Yes, buying $14,000 earrings is a tad more than friendly, but if he is that flashy, he would have made some grand romantic gesture by now.

Chilli seems to have gotten what she needed to confidently move on to other prospects and still stay buddies with Floyd.  Good for her!

Have you ever had a man in your life who kept showing you who he was, yet you kept him around because you refused to accept it?  How long did it take you to see the writing on the wall? If you were Chilli, how would you have handled the Floyd situation?

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  • Andrea

    THANK GOODNESS SOMEONE SAID IT. I love Chilli, but I mean c'mon. In a way I feel like he's doing it to help her out. I think he loves her in his way, but he knows she's too good for what he's got right now. I mean what man do you know will admit something like that? What person would admit it in that case. Yeah, he should just say it, but he won't. Chilli remain good friends with him (pick up a darn tabloid mag too while you at it) and keep it moving in the relationship dept.

  • 60 plus

    Chillie, keep it moving girlfriend.. He does not want a committment with you. You have to much going on for yourself to have to ask a so call man, what are we. He alrealdy answered you everytime, really. No answer, or playful answers means he is trying to let you down easy without huring your feelings. STOP, please STOP, coming across as a desperate woman who is looking for a husband. We know your biological clock is ticking but you still have time for that. My sister had a baby at 42, Diana Ross drop two babies in her forties. Relax, injoy your show and continue on that ride. "What God has for you is for you."

  • TheChitownDiva

    I love Chilli! True, she is ditsy and delussional but she such a sweetheart. Give her a break! She's not hurting anyone. She's just trying to grow and learn and love within her own skin. Good Luck pretty lady. Do you and be happy always.

  • thesupersistah

    Some women hear what they want to hear and hang on to hope. I've been there. I've been desperate for a situation to work so bad that I overlooked all sorts of nonsense in the hopes that things "would change." They never did. Men are forthright, direct and possessive. If they want you they want you and you will not have to jump through one hoop for them to tell you so. Let's stop living in his world and live in our own. What he wants is unimportant. It's what you deserve that really matters.

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  • thefinerthings

    I am wondering if they ever went there…he should have been more upfront and was not…that makes me wonder if he is hitting that and doesn't want to let that part go…nevertheless, atleast he did not string her along for her to end up heartbroken…

    • Andrea

      I wonder the same thing. She acts like he hit. Did he??? Gosh!

  • kandykane

    My, there have been so so many. One thing I've learned if you have one moment of doubt about a guy follow that lead cause 99.9% of the time its your better judgement kickin in.

  • Mia01

    I agree with Arcelia! Chili has this long ridiculous list, but when the simple thing to do is Leave a man alone that doesn't want you, she keeps pressing the issue. Sweetie, sometimes when a man says nothing he's saying everything! Chili needs to get herself together, and stop playing herself on tv. It's uninteresting and boring! Chili has a God given talent to sing and write, it's time to do just that!! Men like Floyd have an limitless supply of beautiful women who have education, and some with money!! He can get any woman he wants just because of his net worth, why lower yourself on national tv to keep asking him the same question he NEVER answers: It's sad! Chili you need to get it together! You're contradicting yourself with this list of standards, but you should add to your list to stop dealing with men that can't committ because Floyd never was with you!!

  • The Phantom

    I thought she was dating a white guy. What happened to that? Oh let me guess, he just hit it and quit it like Halle Berry's "man" did.

    • Andrea

      Not all white men are like that. IGNORANCE at it's finest. They didn't work out, it's a dating show. They knew each other for all of 5 seconds and she had to choose between another man. Okay it's a competition. It didn't turn into a love match. I doubt this one will either. Oh well. It's nice to date.

  • DJA

    @Cody– you are right. Floyd being with Chilli will require him to step up his game and quite frankly, I don't think he knows how to bc they are on 2 different levels maturity wise. He's controlling and got issues and I don't see him controlling her and he knows it.

  • DJA

    Men like Floyd Mayweather are emotionally undeveloped. There's nothing more frustrating than a man who can't communicate or articulate his feelings, regardless of what they are. They are like kids. I have been in Chilli's shoes, and these type of men are confusing because on one hand, they do just enough to keep you hanging on, but on the other hand you still don't know what the relationship really is. I have learned my lesson to stay away from guys like this.

  • Cody

    I believe there is something in Floyd that really knows he can not give Chilli what she wants in a mate. And without saying he would like to keep her close but not allow her to know his inner person. I believe this is why he shuts down when being questioned by her. He appears to have a giving heart (spending money) and shows affection because he cares but her decision was right to move on & remain friends (hopefully without the attraction) that's very clear. There are some further unknown issues within going on with Floyd, which he does not wish to share.

  • Jai

    This is tv(entertainment purposes only) I do not take these reality shows seriously because they're scripted. LOL

    When he shows you who he is, believe him those are words to live by; real talk!!!

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  • Reesethe

    Same here I have done it before and what makes it bad is that I dont realize it until a few months later. Its depends on the guy though. If he is someone I really dont think has good qualities then I will drop them like a bad habit but if its someone who I am attracted to and see myself getting serious with then its harder for me to move on. The older I get the more I learn but it took me about ten years to realize it.

  • KJ

    Been there done that! Just recently too. These men will let you hang around as long as you're willing to. They will let you shower them with affection and will give you nothing in return but their pretty boy smile. Ladies, we have to call the shots! We have to know what we want and if he's not willing to give it off the bat then we have got to be brave and keep it moving. It's hard and scary but it will get us to what we want sooner. It'll save us our energy and save our spirits for someone more deserving. That is totally my New Year's Resolution.