Everyone has a physical preference when it comes to choosing a significant other. Whether it’s a specific body type, hair style, or skin complexion, we all have those one or two physical features we look for in the opposite sex, things that make us go, “Damn!” But we all know that beauty is only skin deep, so while we have a certain look that we all go for, that doesn’t mean that a person who fits our physical expectations are suited for us personality wise. (Especially if you like those pretty boys. Girl, watch out!) And it just so happens that there are men out there who don’t fully tickle our fancy when it comes to their looks, but make the most considerate, attentive and loyal mates a woman could ask for.
So what do you do if you meet someone who you know will treat you like a queen, but he just doesn’t cut it for you in the looks or personality department? Do you ignore your natural instincts, wants and needs for a chance to explore something with a person who doesn’t quite fit your persona or taste, but makes you feel good? I’ve found myself in similar situations, the most recent being with a guy whom I’ve known for a few years. He’s not what I’d typically go for on the physical side, but I felt that could be overlooked if he’d given me reasons to ignore my lack of physical attraction. The guy is a true gentleman, and I know he’d go all-out to accommodate my needs and make me happy, but there are certain aspects of his personality that irk my nerves, which only amplifies my lack of carnal desire. But in the back of my mind, I’m thinking, ‘He’s really a stand-up dude. Should I just ride this thing out and give him a chance?‘
I know I’m not the only one who’s ever been in this predicament, but most times, women use guys like this for financial reasons—or just to have a good time and get some free meals and movie tickets—stringing them along with no intentions of ever taking things to the next level. (I’ve seen it happen quite a few times.) So I’m curious to know what the MN readers think about situations like this? Do you give the nice guy a try, the one who adores you and values your worth as a woman, despite the absence of attraction? Could you make it work? Or do you wait for the next good guy to come around? One who’s just as virtuous and kind, but that you also feel a physical and natural attraction to? (And we all know how hard that kind of connection is to find…)
Let me know your thoughts below.
