My own limited research has shown me that women tend to take texting far more seriously than men do. We’ll agonize over word choice, the intention behind our tone, how the recipient might perceive our tone and even where to place punctuation. I know I could be exposing my own neuroses, but I’d bet good money that I’m not alone. In fact, I’m guessing that quite a few of you are starting to get a little anxious right now, debating about whether or not you should send a “Happy New Year” text to your ex. It’s a loaded question right? Well, when in doubt my momma always told me to make a pros and cons list. So check out the reasons why you should and should not text your ex.
You wouldn’t mind reconnecting
If you feel like homeboy might be the one that got away, by all means go ahead and reach out. Striking up a conversation with a man from the past and the fear of rejection can sometimes make you nervous but holidays have a way of softening people. This would be the perfect time to put your feelers out there. If you’re lucky his response will shed some light on whether or not he’s still interested.
You’re truly over it and you want to be friends now
If you know that you know that you know you’re over your ex romantically and would like to keep that person as a friend, then by all means go ahead and wish him a Happy New Year. But don’t be surprised if he interprets your reaching out to mean something else. Which brings me to my next point…
You know how to say no
The Happy New Year text opens up some floodgates. And you have to really know what you hope to gain from this exchange before the waters come rushing in. So, if you just meant to be friendly and he’s asking you what you’re wearing right now, you have to know, beforehand, that you’re strong enough to shut the flirting down…immediately. If even a tiny part of you entertains telling him what color your panties are, then you probably aren’t over him. And shouldn’t text. If, on the other hand, you’re confident in your shut down skills, text away.
You genuinely want to wish that person good luck and good fortune in the new year
If you’re still cool with this person and you know 2013 was a rough year for him or her, there’s nothing wrong with letting that person know you care about their happiness and are hoping things start looking up.