“When I’m Ready To Be Married, I Will Be Married”: Jennifer Hudson Says Stop Worrying About Her Engagment

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December 9, 2013 ‐ By
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We told you recently that the beautiful Jennifer Hudson is the face on the cover of Essence’s January issue. While she opened up about playing Winnie Mandela in the film of the same name, as well as her role as a drug-addicted mother in The Inevitable Defeat of Mister & Pete, she also touched on her engagement to David Otunga. The couple has been engaged since September of 2008, and recently there were rumors that they tied the knot, but both of them confirmed that no such thing has taken place. So in the issue, she answered questions about what’s going on with her wedding date and why she’s not rushing to walk down the aisle after five years of their engagement and a son with the man she says she just loves being with in the issue. Here’s what she had to say about all that from her interview with Essence:

Back in 2012, when Oprah Winfrey interviewed the couple, she pried a time frame out of them–the big day would happen sometime in 2014. Based on that estimate, the sound of wedding bells should at last begetting closer, but if they are, Hudson isn’t exactly running her mouth about it. “Yes, there was a date set, and that date has come around again every year,” she says. “In fact, the date may keep rolling around.” 

“We’ve never broken up,” she says. “When I’m ready to be married, I will be married. It’s that simple. Everyone should just chill. Our relationship is very strong. We’re both huge family people, and I’m only going to get married once. So I’m not rushing into anything.” 

There you have it! What do you make of Hudson’s response to all the rumors about her relationship? Is there anything wrong with taking your time with an engagement, or is it a sign that one party isn’t really ready to marry the other?

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  • Froggage

    I can’t even with Jennifer Hudson. “Everyone should just chill?” You don’t want people in your business, stop making your business public. Stop telling Oprah how amazing Punk is in bed while Punk is out there complaining about being in your shadow, refusing to sign a pre-nup, working overtime to come up with new reasons not to marry you. She’s talking all tough now, but if you really aren’t ready to be married yet, why get engaged and knocked up? I wish she could be as strong about dropping this loser as she was about tearing it up with Weight Watchers.

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  • Poppy Jones

    I luv Jen, and she is at this time my favorite artist, and, well my favorite female everything. But here’s the deal sister gurl, u can tell everyone else to chill (about getting married), but the Lord. And since you are suppose to be under His jurisdiction ( a christian) I would think that you would want to do things according to the way He wants you too. Listen up! There is more than one way 4 God to skin a cat…
    If it is about a pre nup get some knowledge to protect yourself and your child (you’re a smart woman) find out what you need to do, and get it done. I sure hope this message get’s to Jennifer Hudson some kind of way. True God’s gifts to you or never revoked, however his blessings may stop flowing, and you do not want that to happen. Stay on the winning team. You shine like a star, even more than Beyonce who have been performing 4 a minute longer. All I’m saying is: GET IT TOGETHER, GIRL.

  • mays

    for her to say she only gonna get married once says everything about their relationship. She wont marry him for sure.

  • chanela

    but you can have a BABY by someone though? WOW! so mind blowing how backwards people are in today’s world
    .

  • KB02

    He won’t sign the prenup or (prenup issues), I remember her saying that in an interview like 3 years ago. Ummm…I wonder if this will be Kandi and Todd.

    • Jan

      well if he won’t sign the pre nup then leave him clearly it isn’t in for the right reasons

    • Froggage

      He clearly doesn’t want to marry her; I think this fool thinks he can do better. The real question is whether she’ll get wise and walk away or whether he’ll finally have to dump her (or get caught cheating).

  • Benson Davis

    J-Hud, just showcase your sing and acting talent to us, you don’t owe these people anything. It’s your personal life and I can care less what;s going on.

    • Chey

      Wrong.

  • Rosemary Davis

    Who cares wheather she gets married or not and people should stop making it their business if she is content with shacking up as opposed to being married but what it shows it that she will continue to be milked free by her baby’s father why would he committ too her he gets all the benefits that a married man get being single.But the truth is Jennifer would marry him today if he asked her but she sits back waiting and hoping and before she knows it like Oprah the years will have come and goneand you are still waiting and hoping and please don’t none of you come back with Oprah never wanted to marry she like Jennifer settle for less but deserved morer

    • Guest

      Thank you! People need to worry about their own lives and mind their goddamn business! Why should I care what other people are doing, I have a husband, 3 kids, a job and friends, I don’t give a damn what other people are doing and others should too.

      • MLS2698

        You know, god-damn is a word I NEVER USE. But I see why you disagree so much…you use that word freely in this blog, and have no respect for Christan values…

        • Benson Davis

          What are you, the comment nazi or something, Goddamn!

          • MLS2698

            Lame…

            • Benson Davis

              You’re more of a lame for policing people’s comment, that’s what’s wrong you, worrying about how other’s live and what they type in a comment. So what she/he said “goddamn”, why are you letting that bother you?

              • Guest

                Thank you, what an insensitive butthurt that thing is!

                • MLS2698

                  ” butthurt”. Is that English?

              • MLS2698

                Yes, I am the Gossip police. Now move on…

          • Guest

            I know right? Pure example of someone who doesn’t have a life.

  • MLS2698

    Well, you were the one who announced your engagement. Don’t make an announcement if you don’t want others to know…or make comments.

    • Chey

      Right! Boo f*****g hoo…are these people forgetting that they’re in the spotlight 24/7 now? That’s just something they’ll need to get over.

    • Major

      That’s EXACTLY how I feel.
      They were the ones publishing engagement photos and making announcements everywhere.
      It’s only natural for people to wonder why they aren’t married yet.
      It’s not like they’ve only been engaged for a year and some months, they’ve been engaged longer than they were actually just dating!
      I mean they both wear rings (I think), are seen out in public, have child together, they may even live together.
      According to her, they’ve never broken up: what part of her isn’t ready for marriage?
      They’re already playing marriage.
      I just can’t with people like this.

      • MLS2698

        I think she is having a STELLA-GOT-HER-GROOVE-BACK-THEN-FOUND-OUT-HE-IS-GAY, moment. But she doesn’t know how to get out of it without the public finding out…

        • anonymouse

          I don’t think he’s gay…..I think that after she lost weight that she started feeling herself and the dynamics of the relationship changed. I remember reading somewhere that it’s hard to be around her because she is obsessed with her weight and eating.Perhaps she thought that she could upgrade after losing weight like she did to her old boyfriend. but I don’t think that single hollywood guys are checking for a woman with an attitude and a kid. So, the endless engagement continues……

          • MLS2698

            IDK. I always thought he used her for a come-up. He was on ” I Love New York “, right? It’s like, knowing her got doors opened for him to be able to wrestle.

            • anonymouse

              yes, he was on i love new york, but does she have that much clout?? After the Oscar, there’s only been WW commercials and her movies and music are not doing THAT great. For some odd reason, I think he really cares for her, but she’s the one that’s holding off on making it official

            • LiiSH

              He is pretty well off, a Harvard grad and lawyer. I was thinking she didn’t want to get married anymore because its such a family oriented day and all that stuff went down with her family being murdered.

  • 9Boots

    J Hudson should stop running around all over the place claiming to be a Christian. J-Hud if you are a Christian you know good and well THE LORD is anti shackn up and yes, I’m going to assume she is fornicating too. Give no appearance of evil

    • Chas

      omg go sit somewhere

      • 9Boots

        Chas, I have a bench for you

    • MLS2698

      People don’t like the truth….hush…

      • Chey

        Word.

      • 9Boots

        They’re gonna have to start getting used to the truth. The days of ignoring the lies of from these fake Christians and reprobate black people are over. It’s a new day!

        • MLS2698

          I’m for any person claiming to be a Christan moving forward to do what God requires. But when Jen mentions how ” Blessed ” she is, and how God is a part of her life…just, no! She must do better, especially when she is so visible. She should take the time to make it right in God’s eyes, and for those who may be struggling and looking for an example to follow.

          • DeeDee Denise

            Exactly…just like Meagan Good stepping on stage half-naked claiming to be a Christian….they can’t serve both, either they are or they are not. If they are not sure then they should not claim to be a Christian and wait until they are sincere…not perfect…but sincere.

            • MLS2698

              That’ right. Just hold the comments about being a Christian, and do some soul searching as to whether it’s God’s will, or just something she wanted. And with that, it may mean stepping back from the relationship, altogether.

        • Chey

          So true! Only the suspect ones have a problem with someone telling the truth.

    • Chey

      Here’s my up-vote!

      • 9Boots

        My Girl Chey!

    • Guest

      Will you get out of that woman and her man’s bed and mind your own goddamn business?! She can care less you or anyone else think, at the end of their day it’s their lives.

      • Chey

        Whooooa! You got all worked up over the f*****g truth! Hope you don’t consider yourself a Christian. I’m not sure if God would approve of you speaking to one of his children like that…maybe you don’t believe in God, which is fine. In that case, I offer my sincere apology, I shouldn’t have been so taken aback!

        • Guest

          Yeah, the REAL truth is she don’t care what you think! You’re not paying her bills, her mortgage or putting food in her child’s mouth so she can care less. Let the woman do her instead following some man made a** book. At the end of the day God is the only one that can judge and he sure damn well don’t need a PR person. Go get a life!

          • 9Boots

            You can get a life and stop stanning for J-Hud

            • Guest

              You can get a life and worry about what’s going on in your own goddamn life and stay out of others! Not stanning, just sick of retarded a** biblethumpers telling others how to live their lives, so STFU!

              • 9Boots

                Is J-Hud paying you? Your opinion is irrelevant whether you like it or not, she claims to be apart of a particular faith, and that faith has rules. Get yo life.

                • anonymouse

                  ironically, the same people will call Christians hypocrites for living together, but now it’s ‘don’t judge’. They’re confused or something

                  • 9Boots

                    Yes! They stay “double minded”, can’t pick out what the truth is,even if it fell on their heads.

              • Chey

                “biblethumpers”? Is that the best you can do?!

          • Chey

            Oh @Sagittarius81:disqus (yes I caught that a**) You don’t believe in God, otherwise you wouldn’t have an issue with the truth. You wouldn’t be making excuses. i’ll judge you here on earth!

      • 9Boots

        Nope. Too bad, if she does not want to be held to the Christian standard then she should keep Jesus out of her mouth and stop frontin with her phony gospel sound. Behavior like this is grounds for getting kicked out the church. You’re either in or your not, there ain’t no compromising.

      • anonymouse

        apparently she DOES care…….giving out all of these defensive interviews and such.

        • MLS2698

          Lol! True.

      • chanela

        then why do you even read anything on madam noire? isn’t this website BASED OFF OF posting other people’s business?

        if she doesn’t care what anyone thinks then why are you so worked up about it? just because somebody gives their opinion about something that the person TWEETS about, doesn’t mean that they are butting in to their lives.

        btw, the correct term is “she COULDN’T care less” get it right!

  • Sagittarius81

    I think people need to stay the f**k out of other people’s personal lives and worry about what’s going on in their own lives, if they have one. Hey my opinion, I have to agree with the woman.

    • Really?!

      Well said!!!! I agree with JHud also.

    • I don’t get it..

      But here’s the thing I don’t understand she announce her engagement you expect people not to ask about it? Hello that’s one thing I don’t get about certain celebs they complain everyone is in their business but than they are always on twitter or Facebook posting everyday. You really want privacy stop talking about your private life and get off twitter.

      • chanela

        THANK YOU!!! smh

      • LiiSH

        Right. There is an issue of announcing and re-announcing the date and in the meanwhile having kids and whatnot. People will be curious.