“Let My Kids Know I Loved Them”: Woman Found Stabbed To Death By Her Ex After Posting Eery Message Online

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December 3, 2013 ‐ By

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Late Saturday evening, 25-year-old mother of two, Michelle Rowling was found in her apartment stabbed to death. Already a sad and terrifying turn of events, it was uncovered soon after that Rowling, of East St. Louis, knew that an attempt on her life was coming.

Rowling had been dating 25-year-old Montrell Cooper on and off for more than three years, but her ex-boyfriend became so abusive that Cooper eventually wound up serving time for a domestic dispute in August. Ironically, he did jail time in 2012 for another domestic dispute where he reportedly stabbed her in the neck. For some reason, Rowling testified on his behalf in order to help Cooper get his sentence reduced to probation. This time around, after the incident in August, she didn’t testify, but was uncooperative in helping prosecutors with their case against Cooper so he was released on probation. The day he was released from jail on November 25, she posted this message on her Facebook, alarming friends and followers:

Michelle Rowling FB

When a follower told her to call the police, she responded with, “THE POLICE. ………….LOL IM GONE B GONE BOUT TIME THEY COME.” Unfortunately, by the 30th, Rowling was found in her apartment after police received a disturbance call, stabbed several times and bleeding out. She was rushed to the hospital, but died upon arrival. Now her family accuses Cooper of being behind the attack. The police can’t find him, but they did find his abandoned car. Anyone out there who knows of his whereabouts is of course asked to contact the police.

Sadly, Rowling’s children are now without their mother and are staying with family at the moment. It’s unclear if Cooper was the father of her two kids. One can only wonder what the people who saw her warning post on Facebook are thinking now that what she foreshadowed has occurred. Too sad.

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  • Windows2thesoul

    And why the hell this didn’t make on CNN? Nancy Grace, where the hell are you??

  • Windows2thesoul

    DAMMIT! WHY? WHY? WHY? do these black women stay with sorry @ss DBRbm when they can do so much better then that AND bail them out of awful situations? This makes me angry and sad at the same time. DAMN black women…wake the f*^%$ up!!

  • ImJustSayin

    Interestingly, I haven’t seen anyone mention another way to avoid intimate partner violence – stop beating/killing women.

  • Live_in_LDN

    For everyone saying she should have testified against him, ideally this is the right thing to do. In reality though, she was probably extremely fearful of testifying against him and him getting off free of given a minor assault charge and being out in a couple years to them take his revenge.

  • Camicric

    I thought this was related to destiny’s child for a second. Sad story though

  • jaye brooks

    Yes, it’s very sad and unnecessary. I want to know why did she testify on his behalf to get his sentence reduced to probation?! He should have still been in jail. And why was she “uncooperative” and didn’t help prosecutors to get this animal put away like he should have been instead of being out on the streets and able to kill this young lady! Women, when you have a person who has been abusive to you and others it’s your duty to have him locked up so he won’t hurt you again! And then get a gun license and arm yourself so you have a better chance of surviving these maniacs! I feel so bad for her two young children also. Crazy world, with crazy people

  • Marvalyn IcUhaten McLemore

    How many women waste the courts time by filing charges then changing their minds. Some women like playing these domestic games with the men in their lives. Many feel having any raggedy, crazed, abusive, unemployed man is better than being single, please! I wonder if she had survived would she have tried to keep him from doing time in jail, hhhmmm? More than likely she would have and allowed him back into her life, smh? This could have been prevented if she wasn’t acting on his behalf. Another tragic death that could have been prevented, seriously?

  • Stacy Nelson

    YEA….911 is a joke. FLAVOR FLAV been told that! but, i wonder why she didn’t feel the need to have any family stay with her or keep an eye on her surroundings. what fucks me up is that, the fool stabbed her in the neck already??

  • yep

    theyve caught him he turned himself in

  • Concerned Reader

    Sad mentality plaguing too many of the world. The innocent are more concerned with saving criminals and (potential) murderers than themselves. In her posts she was very unconcerned with her well being, as an innocent woman, as if somehow death is welcomed? Well, there is no honour in death. You go into the ground, decompose and stay there until Jesus comes. In a few years people don’t talk or think about you so much anymore. You should be able to live out your life and die of old age without fear of being murdered.
    I keep seeing this time and time again… the innocent are afraid of protecting themselves. For example, there was this guy who was saying something to the effect that if a thief came into his house, he would rather let him hurt/kill him than do something where he might end up in prison. Sounds familiar? The innocent are more afraid of the possibility of jail…. than being murdered.
    Anyway, I feel badly for her family and friends and I hope the di rt bag, s c um filled, loser, lowlife is executed, as he deserves.

  • cookie lane

    Some of these men do not care about O.P’S (Orders of Protection) It sounds like two things happened to this young woman, she was caught in the cycle of abuse and she for whatever reason shielded him from the consequences of his criminal behavior, who really knows why because she knew he was dangerous, and she should have left town got out of dodge, and/or went into a shelter, had he been convicted he would have done a few years in prision she could be in a new town moving on now. Sad, this should be a wake up call for women in D.V relationships, but sadly, as some people have commented we will see these cases again. I pity the children I really do.

  • mel

    see that’s why us women need to stop the violence the first time or when you see signs of abuse, and stop dealing with that person because no child should hv to be without it’s parent over a relationship….God bless those children

  • Kayla Fowler

    So Whenever Cher Lloyd sing with ur love on 5th floor in the Cher Lloyd’s hotel rooms there are 27 floors.

  • Live_in_LDN

    i think you misread my comment. i didn’t say all domestic abusers are thugs. i said, whenever there is a story about black domestic abuse, the majority of comments (not me) blame the victim and say its her fault for chasing thugs, which is far from the truth as i know from my personal experience and your story that abusers are good manipulators and come in many different costume. Thanks for sharing your story. i hope you and your son are safe now and continue to look out for each other x

    • Rissie75

      I’m so sorry! I def misread what you wrote and after reading it over I understand what were saying….After seeing so many blame the victim and not the abuser I just assumed, I apologize. And thank you :-)

  • RC

    Eerie is the spelling, not eery. Your proof reader misses a LOT. There are spelling mistakes on almost every posting. I like the content but the spelling errors are pretty glaring sometimes.

  • xRene-Naomix

    You are one of the lucky blessed ones, stay strong.

  • xRene-Naomix

    This is truly sad, she’s so young and beautiful and know unwillingly she has left her two children motherless. She should of testified against that no good man, but she chose to ‘help’ him, now look where trying to do help him gotten her…DEAD. If it would have been me, I would have testified against him, told them to put him in a with a down low cell mate and no window and then throw away the key.

  • Kristen

    So I’d be more of a fool to keep quiet about his abuse than testify on his behalf like she did? How did you miss the part where by doing this she kept him out of prison?

    Testifying on his behalf CLEARLY kept her safe. *sarcasm*

  • Rissie75

    sorry again readers :-)

  • Rissie75

    sorry, not sure why this posted so many times…I was having problems posting it, guess I tried too many times.

    • Resa

      it’s ok. It can never be posted too many times.

  • manda

    The law does anything my ex hhusband shot my car up while I was in it I wrote a statement and identified him he got off with prohibiting a weapon which is a ankle monitor that’s a main reason people don’t press charges you already have to deal with that you snatched on someone and him and his family will retaliate if not then WHEN HE GETS OUT OF JAIL the police don’t give a damn a about a black girl and that’s the way it is my God sister was killed by her boyfriend who was stalking her she had a restraining order this man was even calling her from his number but wouldn’t say anything the police WOULD not arrest him because they said because he wouldn’t say anything it wasn’t direct contact the police are a joke and unless you have been in a domestic violence situation no matter what your race you don’t know the half

  • coolyfett

    Such an attractive young woman, but thugs are the in things so…..not surprised here.

  • JaceS

    Until you’ve been in HER relationship, you can’t say what she should’ve or could’ve done. People handle et deal with situations differently, that’s what makes us all different. Ideally, abuse victims leave their tormentors, abusers go to jail, etc. But thats not always the case. It doesnt matter race, color, or creed it depends on the person, people handle situations differently et sadly in this case it ended in death. I guess what I’m trying to say, is it’s not always easy to leave. It should be but it’s not.

  • James

    This is what happens when you stay in an abusive relationship. It always ends badly.

  • guest

    I am SO glad you survived. Just wanted you to know that your post was read and your story absolutely matters.

    • Rissie75

      Thank you :-)!!!

      • Resa

        Rissie I saw your post earlier; and was looking for your story.. You are without a doubt a survivor and i am so proud of and happy for you. No, abusers are not necessarily thugs by society’s definition; but come in all genres. To include businessmen, doctors, lawyers, celebrities…. the list goes on and on and on……….. The frustration is in how the victim gets blamed as if she fell in love with an abuser who had a neon light flashing on his head saying “fall in love with me, I promise to love, cherish and beat the hell out of you.”

        • Rissie75

          Thank you! A lot people don’t understand what we actually go through, but instead of learning about DV they rather place blame on the victim. They don’t realize placing blame keeps us from coming forward because we believe no one will help, and sometimes that means calling the police. Breaks my heart but I put that hurt into speaking to women and children living in DV shelters. Sharing my story and learning their stories helps me to move forward in life.

  • Blue Diamond

    Just know life is no joke!May she rest in peace!

  • Kristen

    What. In. The. Hell. Why didn’t she feel strong enough to legally go after this fool? And why say “LOL IM GONE B GONE” by the time the police comes? This is no laughing matter. It’s your life!! Sounds like she refused all help for herself and children and decided to help him instead. Shame. He’s still alive but you’re willing to die by his hands?!

  • ew

    “Eerie” is the spelling. Outside of that, this is a tragic story. You get the sense she had no hope.

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  • Jan

    wow another young woman gone….ladies once a man shows you that he is slightly violent or unhinged… LEAVE…if he will beat you …he will kill you

  • kj519

    It’s sad but she was stupid if he attempted to kill you once that should’ve been enough to get him locked up and for her to move, I feel sorry for her kids and her family

  • applesauce585

    Sadly, this younglady didn’t know “her own VALUE” and that she deserved better!! smh

  • GUEST

    I WAS IN A ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP WHN I WAS 19 THE GUY BEAT ME BUSTED MY LIP N GAVE ME A BLK EYE AFTER BEATIN ME HE LEFT DA SENCE I CALLED THE POLICE N PRESSED CHARGES IT TOOK TWO YEARS FOR HIM TO BE CAUGHT N ARRESTED I WAS AFRAID TO GO TO COURT N TESTIFY BECUZ A WOMAN WAS SHOT N KILLED N OUR COURTHOUSE BY ABUSIVE EX I WAS AFRAID BUT I DID N THIS NINJA HAD THE AUDACITY TO TELL THE JUDGE I HIT HIM FIRST N HIS LAWYER WAS TRYN TO PRAISE HIM AS IF HE WAS A GOOD FATHER WHN IN FACT HE NEVER SEEN HIS KIDS AND TALKED BOUT HW HE CONTRIBUTED TO SOCIETY BY WRKN GTFOH I WAS PISSED BUT HE ONLY GOT 2 YRS……..

  • Alliyah

    This is so sad

  • guest

    Her daughter is his and he has turned himself in.

  • redeemed

    Prayers for her kids and family, Lord comfort them. What is this power men have over some women to make them totally insane? OMG sweet JESUS, Lord Have Mercy!!! Not just abuse but all kinds of other things women do for men that’s totally insane. What is this? Ungodly soul ties? Women be careful whom you give your body to. When you sleep with someone your spirits become one and that kind of thing is hard for some women to let go and shake off and that’s when u get caught up and trapped in an ungodly soul tie and it becomes insanity. Be very careful.

  • Carllotta Jones

    I totally agree with you Chelle cause look at the woman that’s still sitting in jail up to now for what “self defense ” it’s just sad, may her soul RIP and those poor kids I pray they get the help they need to over come this terrible ordeal smdh

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  • disqus_K58XwTIflZ

    “That was” makes no sense- “One can only wonder what the people who saw her warning post on Facebook are thinking now that was she foreshadowed has occurred.”

    • MNEditor2

      It was a mistake. Supposed to say “that what.” It’s fixed. Thanks

  • reeceecup™

    I feel for the children. I just have no sympathy for her because she chose to stay with this piece of trash, instead of leaving.

  • Live_in_LDN

    I’ve noticed on a lot of blogs that report on black Domestic abuse victims, these women are not treated as victims but as ‘thug chasers’. SMH
    Abusers isolate their victim and separate them from their friends, family, coworkers, etc. That’s how they work and that’s how many of them are able to do it for years and years.
    I feel very sorry for the children and I hope they have a loving extended family who will take them in.

    • TwoCents

      A victim is someone who does not have a choice. “Feeling” like you don’t have a choice and seriously not having a choice are two different things. Life plays out by the decisions and choices you make and allow. This story is tragic but again, why did she choose not to testify?She knew the consequence was death and still she chose that over keeping him behind bars? From what I can see this only happens to a certain kind of person regardless of race. origin, or creed. If these men know how to “operate” than they most certainly know the kind to go after.

    • Rissie75

      Why is my reply in moderation MN??? I really want my story shared on this reply….*sigh*

    • Rissie75

      I was beat by my ex husband that was business man with 3 degrees and far from being a “thug”….my story won’t post for whatever reason, but I hope it does and you read it….you can’t tell anyone who is or isn’t a victim.

      • Rissie75

        Still my post :-)

  • Lintz Zinji

    things happen in life, beyond the points we can even imagine…R.I.P

  • unique

    it says on his facebook he added 3 friends 16 hours ago cant you just investigate his ip address and find out where he is i mean come on hes probably looking and watching wat everyone has to say its obvious so do some investigating and catch this murderer for the family a boarder check would be a start

    • Naja Hamilton

      @unique, after your comment I had to see it for myself. You were right he’s made three new friends and they’re all WOMEN !?!? What does that mean what’s the mind set to want to engage him now?? I weep for so many of our girls and women who haven’t embraced or learned their value. Many say it but still to many of refuse/disallow ourselves to believe that; we are worthy of happiness and to be cherished, we are valuable as peers, partners, business associates and lovers but most of all…Black Girls Rock. Such an empowering movement but when I saw those three new Facebook friends and saw that they were all women, black women I felt confusion and a bit of sadness. Like you I hope his internet activities can assist in his capture.

      • guest

        “You were right he’s made three new friends and they’re all WOMEN !?!? What does that mean . . . ”
        It means that the cycle of low self-esteem continues. I’m not going to comment on this story in particular; I’ll just speak in general terms. The fact is Black women are not raising their daughters with positive self-images or a strong sense of self. Granted, the same is true for women of ALL races, but as a Black woman myself, I’m most interested in what is plaguing our community. Girls grow up looking at how their mothers behave. And while it’s true that Black fathers have significant influence in building self-esteem in their daughters, mothers probably have even more. And the influence affects things as minor as a hairstyle choice to things as significant as choosing a spouse.
        We pay a lot of lip service and cheer like hell when we hear things like “Black Girls Rock,” and we should, because indeed we do. But ‘rocking’ means being a woman who is secure in herself, who doesn’t accept a man who mistreats her or her children, who is independent and can provide for herself (whether married or single), who has sense enough to know that violent, evil men — no matter WHAT they might provide for you — are not to be tolerated or celebrated in any way, shape, or form.

        • Naja Hamilton

          What you commented shows the possible future ramifications of this tragedy; she had a daughter wit her alleged killer. What has the daughter learned and believes is a natural and normal man and woman relationship? Has hitting become a normal byproduct, punching, slapping, drawing blood? Lastly what did her son learn about how to love, care for and cherish women? Your words made me think and question, sadly.

  • mbri

    Ok she dead yall, damn. I guess from someone who was strong/lucky/blessed or whatever enough to get away …I guess only we know how it feels to be stuck in abusive turmoil ..YOU are the real reason we don’t seek help or get away b/c of the shame it brings.

    • Rissie75

      That was my reason at one point….but they don’t get it. I just pray they don’t ever have to step foot in our shoes :-(

  • Christinetina Creighton

    Just a theory: as with any domestically abused, a threat so detrimental. The abused emotional retreat, feeling of no way out. If you testify I will kill your kids and family all that you love. I will destroy and alienate all you hold dear… You will forever remain in fear, turmoil, and devastation all the days of your life… She put herself in harm’s way, a shield for her loved ones bringing this Danger into their lives… <3 "(

    • Rissie75

      Thank you…You said it the BEST! This is what most abused women feel but too many mistake it as being stupid. I know first hand…

      • Christinetina Creighton

        I too am a survivor…

  • BestMan

    Women…stop messing with sorry azz ninjas! No one deserves what this woman went through but when you keep accepting b.s. like what she went through and keep sticking around you’re telling that man you’re ok with how things are going down.

    • BestMan

      Women rather have a thug or some swagged out dude rather than someone who is nice and can speak with some intelligence and sense. Quit having babies with these dumb azz ninjas and force a man to be a MAN when he step to you. Prayers go out to the family but women need to wake up!

      • Tanisha Hicks

        All abusive men aren’t thugs.

        • Felisha Crooks-Sweet

          How do you know that all abusive men are not thugs? If you would have said all thugs arent abusive, then the statement would have made sense.

          • Kristen

            There are such men that readily go to work and provide for their families, make sure that the kids have warm meals every night, clean and new clothes, go to church every Sunday, claim that they love their wives but still give their wives bruises and knots across their bodies. Those men aren’t thugs. But they are abusive.

        • Naja Hamilton

          The really masterful abusers are visually and conversationally the very last person you would think of, sort of like serial killers; not overtly threatening, a nice guy great neighbor; we’ve all read those type of sorties/articles. So I get what you mean as far as image projection.

        • BestMan

          This is true Tanisha. However, i do think the odds go up with this type of situation when you are dealing with a man who may be considered a “thug.” When i refer to a thug i don’t mean the way a man may dress but his actions. This man has had run ins with the law before and has affiliated with gang activity(from a report i read). Women must understand that even he a man is not heavy into illegal activity..it doesn’t matter. People today are getting hurt and killed over the smallest things that mean nothing. What i’m saying is that…women need set standards and stick with them. No women can’t force men to do anything but you all have the choice what men you choose to deal with and those you do not. I’ve seen some smart women just give in and lower their standards just b/c they are lonely or don’t want to keep waiting for a man who will treat them like they should. Women..you’re worth the wait and when a real man sees that he will pursue you like you should be pursued. Stop settling for these sorry azz ninjas.

      • Keland

        No woman should have to ‘force’ a ‘man to be a man’. Do you men realize what you are saying when you imply that men need women to behave properly? Women do not control your ‘manhood’.

        • Naja Hamilton

          ” Do you men realize what you are saying when you imply that men need women to behave properly?”
          @Keland,I do, it implies that males are mindless primates and are lacking certain self control and personal responsibility. So on certain occasions when violence erupts between a man and a woman we should/could assume that the women behaved improperly and understand he wasn’t forced to be a man (Mike Tyson, Chris Brown, Terrence Howard). This is additional conformation of your above statement about no protection.

          • Leila

            What did Terrence Howard do? Sorry, I don’t usually keep up with celebrity news – unless of course it’s shoved down our throats the way that Chris Brown story was…

            • Naja Hamilton

              Terrence Howard has been to court a few times for domestic violence allegations it’s been said many times that the guy has issues.

    • Keland

      Men…Stop being abusive a$$ ninjas.

    • coolyfett

      I see what you mean.

  • Kat

    Maybe she feared for the safety of her kids if she testified against him. We don’t know what this idiot is capable of doing or what type of connections he had. Just maybe!! I don’t agree with her decision, but we don’t know.

    • GsDrover

      /watch?v=lTIZT0lU7yE

      .

  • Say What?

    Hang ‘em!

  • CrossWinds

    You should not ever facilitate bad behaviour from the outset. If you do, it just grows like cancer…….At the first hint of obsessive, possessive behaviour, Get out of that relationship…….

  • Drew

    If Michelle had only watched a marathon of “Snapped,” she would’ve learned that muthaf**ka Montrell something good before he did his worst. SMH

  • Mia

    He did time in 2012 for stabbing her in the neck and is out in 2013? WTH?

    • Rissie75

      Exactly!!! They shouldn’t need her to testify, HE STAB HER IN THE DAMN NECK!! What else did they want…smh this is just too sad

      • GsDrover

        /watch?v=lTIZT0lU7yE

    • GsDrover

      /watch?v=lTIZT0lU7yE

      m

  • BabyBlue

    Poor kids.

  • KamJos

    Was there no one to protect this woman?! I mean she had to resort to facebook?! She should have had a gun so she could at least protect herself. This didn’t have to happen.

    • Keland

      Most Black women don’t have anyone to ‘protect’ them.

      • Drew

        There’s always protecting yourself. You know, as a last resort and all…

      • Tee

        Question: Do you know most black women? You should only speak of those you know or came across because you don’t know most black women you or the 13 others that liked your comment.

        • Naja Hamilton

          @Tee, I think what Keland was referring to is the institutional legal and media system as a means if protection. Where many times women of color have to explain their part in being a victim; what did you do to get robbed, what did you do to get beaten, what did you do to get raped, what were wearing. We are rarely viewed as possible victims and as a result many of us do not feel protected and sadly don’t seek help.

          • Keland

            Yes, precisely.

          • mosha

            No! Couldn’t be in this story the police nd legal system did their part it was the victim partially did her part

            • Naja Hamilton

              He stabbed her in the neck and she didn’t want to press charges, are those the actions of a mentally stable and rationally sound person? Self preservation is the first law of nature as well as the compulsion to protect one’s offspring. She displayed an inability to do either. We must do a better job in our community educating about mental health and how to spot the signs in others and ourselves; without harsh judgment, shame and blame.

          • coolyfett

            Im really sorry to hear that. I never knew sistas went through that.

      • Guest

        This was THE most ignorant statement!!! Most black women don’t have anyone to protect them?? What about the MILLIONS UPON MILLIONS of white women who get killed by their husbands who don’t bat an eye to get rid of them for their younger love affairs? Come on now. People need to stop acting like things like this don’t happen to their own kind or culture!!! White people will kill their spouses/significant other/children in a NEW YORK MINUTE when they don’t want to pay alimony or child support, if they find another lover, start sleeping with the nannies, their office secretaries or a child. They dispose of one another like garbage without remorse or hesitation on a DAILY!

        • Angie

          This statement also seems ignorant…

          • Rissie75

            Interesting…why do you say that?

        • Keland

          Um, I don’t know why you responded to my comment stating that it is ignorant when your entire comment is in response to what I did not say or imply.

          • Guest

            Keland I will take this opportunity to apologize to you for misreading and/or misunderstanding your above statement. It was very early this morning as I was getting ready for work and I mistook your statement as a normal idiot statement that most “Caucasians” make on these social websites every time they see a crime that is committed by blacks. They try and act like we are savage beasts towards one another and I have seen many many unnecessary comments regarding Obama anytime it’s a black crime (which Obama has NOTHING to do with black crimes smdh) so I was just making a generalized clarification that it isn’t just us black folks who do these things to one another, but all cultures (whites especially) so again I apologize greatly for misunderstanding your statement. I am just so tired of white people only commenting negatively on the black stories on all social websites, but you hear crickets on the white stories that are either similar or worse. Happy Holidays and Happy New Year!

            • Stacy Nelson

              right on! hell, whites are the ORIGINAL SAVAGES!

            • Keland

              Okay, I forgive you.

              • Black Man

                This is a sad story, but it did’t have to end this way. Where were this woman father or other family members?

                • Keland

                  How should I know?

      • mosha

        WHAT!?!? LMBO R U SERIOUS?

      • coolyfett

        What about brothers and cousins who are NOT locked up yet?

    • Trisha_B

      She could have protected herself by testifying against the man. He would have been in prison after the 1st incident. She probably had people who tried to help her in the past, but why keep trying to protect someone who just going to keep going back in a bad situation?

      • Tee

        I totally agree and she could have found a safe haven for her children and herself.

      • KamJos

        Everyone should be familiar with the mental state of women who suffer abuse right now. They can’t always “just leave”.

        • Trisha_B

          She didn’t have to “just leave.” He would have been in jail for attempted murder for stabbing her in the neck. She actually had the law on her side. You know how many abused women would have loved to have the law there to lock their abuser up? She would have been free from the man, but she took up for him! She didn’t just refuse to testify, she testified on his behalf! smh….& that “LOL” comment that she made on Facebook is just mind blowing to me. Nothing “LOL” about her situation

      • Chelle

        Sad reality is even testifying against someone does not always keep them away. I know several women like her. Restraining orders and the men still got them . Fear is a powerful thing. In this case it was paralyzing and resulted in her death.

        • Rissie75

          I hear that was actually her biggest fear. They say where she lives, police help is zero to none. I’ve never been there, but that’s what I’m reading from people who actually live her city. Sad if true.

        • Trisha_B

          Your missing the part before the restraining order. I completely understand what your saying about the women getting these restraining orders, but the men still come after them….But in ’12 he stabbed her in the neck & he was locked up. She was safe from him. But she took up from so he can be free

          • Keland

            Was she really safe from him? He could have had someone else kill her.

        • Katherine

          The police don’t do nothing untill u bout dead trust me I know I been through it so if u havent been through it wit the police then u cant say what she was going througg

      • Resa

        Our statements of would’ve, could have are all in hindsight at this point; She did neither and lost her life in the process. Judging her actions is not going to bring her back; WE can only hope that her children and family will somehow recover from this tragedy.

      • Resa

        yes, and it’s very frustrating but you never give up on someone. I rather say I at least tried to help, then to say I completely gave up on a friend or family member who had lost all sense of self- worth. would you want someone to give up on you? Think about it before replying. Don’t care about how many likes you get . ( 72 ) so far. Would you really want someone to give up on you? You’ve made so many assumptions about this person whom you don’t know ; and sadly enough many are still ridiculing an already deceased person. Like I said earlier I don’t understand while she allowed these things to happen. but I am not the one to judge her. My prayers are for her surviving children and family. God has the final say.

        • Trisha_B

          Would i want others to give up on` me? No. But if im constantly putting myself in a bad situation & my loved ones finally said enough is enough, I would have a huge reality check. I would honestly sit back & reevaluate somethings. B/c the last thing I would want is my loved ones putting themselves in harms way to protect me from something i can protect myself from

    • DREWDOWN0124

      She could hve protected herself by testifying and putting this derange person away…But she chose to protect him instead of herself!

      • KamJos

        Because she was abused! This is not uncommon knowledge that it’s hard for women to leave their abusers. That’s why they need help!!

  • heyheynow

    Man I don’t understand how women get caught up in these crazy love spats. Like the first time he beat you up why wasn’t that enough? What is it that made you testify on his behalf? Was it is sex is talk game that good. I just hate when anyone can have children because now these children will be permanently scared because I’m certain they will not have the proper counseling that they need.

    • Nigeria Riggins

      I guess it’s self esteem and self worth. Not having a father to teach you these things and how a man should treat you. Just my guess though.

      • Keland

        A woman could have a father and still end up dating an abusive man. I don’t understand why the father explanation is used as much as it is.

        • mosha

          It is said thst girls find men that are like their father nd if the father is around like it’s suppose to be then he will show the daughter first hand in how he treat her mother

      • coolyfett

        Some of them love the thugs man. Them nerdy guys are much safer, plus they take care of their kids from what I have seen .

  • AnonNY

    Omg. That is awful!! Prayers to the kids and family. So sad.

  • Trisha_B

    Feel bad for the kids..& that is all

    • VIPTONI

      Trisha_B me to, I can’t feel sorry for someone who refused to do what they needed to do to stay alie.

      • Dante Holland

        Yall dont understand that this dude was determined to make her life a living hell nothin was going to save her and whats worst is she predicted exactly what the police would do smh too sad i feel sorry for them babies.

        • Trisha_B

          He would have been out of her life for attempted murder in 2012 if she would have testified against him instead of on his BEHALF! This is not a case where the law was letting him off & the police did not come after she called. There were 2 incidents (& probably a lot more) where the police was there to save her but she made excuses for him. If he got locked up, she probably would have hired him the best lawyer to get him off & put money on his books….Do you see her reply on facebook?! “LOL” Really? Her friends are worried about her & she replies w/ LOL smfh. I’m sorry, i sound harsh. But there are females out there that love these thugs & seem to love getting beat on. She clearly didn’t want to save herself or thought about saving her babies

          • Renee

            She didn’t rely LOL, she replied IJS…which translates I’m Just Saying…

            • Trisha_B

              No, read the comment she made below that

            • Lovin London Hurt

              No it was lol, but u can still tell she was afraid.

              • Renee

                Sorry Ladies the snapshot I received of her posts must have cut that off. I apologize for being wrong.

          • xRene-Naomix

            She was prolly shitting herself so she laughed it off to try and make the situation seem like it didn’t bother as much, she new her fate and chose to accept it cuz she knew that he would find a way to get back at her somehow.

          • Resa

            Trisha, I’m with you and the same ?s are twirling around in my head. It’s makes us very angry to see someone unable to just use good common sense to save themselves; and you have to wonder why didn’t she speak up at least for her children’s sake if not for herself. “Tell my children I love them.” totally senseless if you do nothing to protect yourself so you can be with the children. It will never make any sense to any of us; even if we could walk a mile in her shoes. Like i said earlier there;s a syndrome where people have been abused for soooo long they just lose all self esteem. She was defeated long before he killed her

            • Leila

              It’s so easy to sit behind your MacBook and make judgments about a young lady who was more than likely afraid. If she really wasn’t concerned about it she would never have updated her facebook. I pray that you no one you know is ever in a situation of this magnitude.

          • Stacy Nelson

            yep

          • currvalicious

            I agree. I feel for the children however, maybe she didn’t have any fight in her., Not following up w/the prosecutor, testifying on his behalf. I guess it’s the “Battered Women’s Syndrome” that the experts always talk about. It’s like she just gave up and excepted her fate, which is quite disturbing to me. It makes it hard to feel sorry for her (which I still do) but I just don’t understand it. Couldn’t she have relocated w/family or friends living in other cities? Seek refuge underground w/a battered women’s organization? Do anything except give up, stay in your apt & wait for death to come knocking. B/c she knew he was coming.

            • Leila

              If in fact she did give up and just waited for her demise why would this lessen your sympathy toward her? She didn’t need your sympathy anyway. Can you imagine what she must have endured psychologically, spiritually, physically, and emotionally?! Do you really understand the battered women’s syndrome that you spoke of? It doesn’t sound like you get the gravity of it. But that’s okay. You shouldn’t have to. Just keep sitting in front of your computer making snap judgments about a situation you really don’t know anything about. America is is jacked up. People die and then others get online and pic a part the victim. Yes, she was a victim. Smh. Pray for her family. Pray for her children. God would much rather hear that than your meaningless ramblings.

          • Leila

            Your lack of ability to see beneath the surface is astounding!!!

          • Leila

            So you think she was just shooting the breeze and laughing this off?! Please throw your computer (or smartphone) away and invest in some books. Here’s a tip: books are free at the library!! Do you even own a library card?!

        • mosha

          Ppl r always quick to point their finger. This is tragic my heart goes out to the family especially the children. Bottom line it was all preventable! I just lost my cousin in a similar manner nd the truth of the matter is that “paper work” means something! I cnt fing another way to say this without it sounding horrible but she continued to aid ways for him to come back. That’s why it’s important for fathers to show daughters how a man should love and mothers show how much to put up with

    • Rissie75

      So sorry you feel that way…please take a look at my story below…..I wish woman would understand more that it’s deeper than you think. WE’RE NOT STUPID PEOPLE, I promise you that.

      • Rissie75

        I’m ok that one person thumb me down….but I’m blessed to know that at least 18 others understands or trying to understand DV. That means more to me than the ONE person who didn’t :-)

      • Resa

        no you are not stupid. you are a victim and you feel trapped, but believe me you are awesome, wonderful, beautiful, intelligent , a gift from God who deserves to be treated like the daughter of a King. You are the opposite of everything negative and ugly that he or anyone tells you., Love, real love does not hurt you. i pray that you will have the strength to find your way out of whatever situation that makes you feel you deserve to be mistreated.

    • Resa

      I feel sorry for her demise also. She was a victim of domestic abuse syndrome. Of course we can say why the heck did she stay with him? It’s hard to fathom how someone can tolerate an abusive relationship, especially when you’ve never had to endure such behavior, whether mentally or physically. my prayers are for her family and her children.

    • mztoronto

      you are too a harsh… there is such a thing as battered woman syndrome… everything is not always black or white!!!

  • Guest

    Omg this is so sad. R.I.P. Wish she would’ve press charges against his behind and left him completely alone.

    • Paris Cymone

      Ikr, its always the ones we’re trying to help & give a chance to who come back to hurt us

      • Leila

        Perhaps you and women like you should stop trying to help and protect the very men who hold you captive. I understand the battered women syndrome very well, but I just really need women to love themselves a little… no, a lot more. I need to them to surround themselves with positive older women who will take the time to show them how to carry themselves as ladies and not as some lowlife’s punching bag. Michelle was worth far more than she knew. She was valuable, but she allowed this guy to destroy her identity. Jesus would never want this for His daughters. You ladies will never grasp the depth of His love for you all. I just wish we all saw ourselves the way God sees us. It breaks my heart to hear this kind of news. Sad all over again. *sigh*

    • NicoleRigby

      unfortunately.. pressing charges filing restraining orders etc… its all just paperwork. it wouldn’t have stopped him from doing what he did. They wouldnt have held him forever..

    • GsDrover

      /watch?v=lTIZT0lU7yE