Signs Sex Is More Than Physical For Him

December 13, 2013  |  
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Making love, screwing, banging, doing the horizontal mambo—it all means the same thing. Or does it? You can tell a lot about a man’s feelings for you by what he calls the act of intercourse, but if he seems to think the terms are interchangeable, you can still tell by how he goes about it. (So don’t worry: the guy you’re totally in love with who asks if you “wanna bang?” might be totally in love with you too). Here are signs that it’s more than just physical for your guy.

He kisses you on the head after sex

That kiss is purely for you: he gets nothing out of it. He knows it’s not going to turn you on, and it gives him no real “pleasure.” That is a kiss that comes from nothing but sweetness and care.

He gets upset when you get up too fast after

If you get up after sex to pee or get a glass of water, he whines sweetly, “Where are you going?  Come back quickly…!” He isn’t done with you just because the sex is done.

He holds your face when he kisses you

Ah, every woman’s fantasy: to have a man cup our face ever so gently with both of his hands, and kiss us lightly—even without tongue.

He’ll have sex even when he knows he won’t climax

Either because he just climaxed ten minutes before, or he knows in his current headspace he won’t be able to orgasm, he still musters up the strength (and something else) to have sex because you want to.

He wants to make out for a long time

He isn’t in a rush to get to the finish line: he enjoys every moment of physical contact with you.

He likes to touch you down there even when you’re not having sex

After sex, when you’re both satisfied, panting, exhausted and piled on top of one another, he still likes to run his hands over your womanly parts. He just likes having access to such an intimate part of you because it’s you.

He wants to do positions, just because they’re fun

He initiates certain positions that he knows don’t get him any closer to climaxing, but that he knows you enjoy, or that give him a great view of you.

He likes to kiss a lot during sex

If a man has feelings for a woman, kissing her can bring him closer to climaxing faster.

When he’s behind you, he keeps his face on your neck

When you’re in positions in which he’s behind you, he wants to keep his face on your neck or back—he wants your heads close together whenever possible, which shows a mental connection.

When he can tell you’re not in the mood, he doesn’t bug you

When he knows all you want to do is pass out, he gets into a cozy cuddle position with you and lets you fall asleep, not pestering you for sex.

He plays with your hair/ears after sex

He just finds every part of you so adorable that he still pays you attention after sex. Playing with your hair or ears is completely non-sexual—it’s just sweet.

He likes to watch you when you’re enjoying yourself

When something is feeling really good for you or you’re in the middle of an orgasm, you peek up (or down, or behind you) and notice he is staring intently at your face, taking in every twitch of your facial muscles. He gets joy out of your joy.

He makes eye contact often

Eye contact with a woman a man has no feelings with freaks him out during sex. But, like a kiss, again, eye contact with a woman a man cares about can bring him closer to orgasm, faster.

When he’s not in the mood, he still wants to touch you

Even when he has zero desire to do anything sexual, he still wants to cuddle you or just lay in bed with you, playing with your hands.

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  • Tip

    He kids me why we was having sex what do that mean

  • He kisses you on the forehead and holds your face when he kisses you??? Reallly??? are those your proof that sex is more than physical for a man? WTF??? That is some bullshit!! And you know it!!Lots of men kiss you on the forehead, hold your face, and kiss your neck while making love to you. That doesn’t mean it is more than physical for them. A man does these things because, in the moment he is feeling great, and that’s his way of expressing his emotions and feelings. And he does want you to feel good. Because, if you feel good, it says that he did something wonderful, and he is great in bed. I read a comment from a man on here. “I do all of these things, cause I want to keep hitting it” Case in point. Maybe next time you want to speak for men, here’s a thought? ask them if that’s the case and the answer will totally shock you!! Stop filling up the heads of gullible women with your teenage fantasies!! End of rant!!! LMFAO

  • Your bullshit upsets me

    Why does it always put me in the middle or end of an article?

  • Kat

    I’ve experienced almost every single one of these things with one-night-stands, and even friends-with-benefits…, it doesn’t necessarily equate he has deeper feelings for your. You just have to ask. Or you’ll never know for sure.

  • This list is so right. Exactly how i am when im in love.

  • AKA

    Wish my woman would have read this list before she tried using the “I never realized you felt so strongly” defense for her cheating.

    • bored@wizerk

      right. bull ish

  • Guessforthenext

    Welp, wish I would’ve read these sooner. Too late now. lol

  • Jim

    This list is so right. Exactly how i am when im in love.

  • AliRobi

    Anyone who noticed skintone instead of the purpose of the article is very ignorant!

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  • Khen Moultrie

    0 desire………………….NEXT!

    • The Truth

      Jealous much Khen???? LOL !!!!
      That woman wouldn’t have your sorry black azz anyway.

  • Casanova Brown

    Why does the image you are using have to have a white man with the Sista instead of a Black Men? WE love to kiss! I get so sick and tired of seeing White Men as the ALMIGHTY GOD that everyone should worship including his Jesus!

    • Brian

      It’s really not that serious.

    • walkingdeads

      My husband is white and I’m black and he does all of the above, [no lie or boast], so this article is tailor-made for us…. and in no way, shape or form does he act like he’s almighty god.

      You have such a twisted sad mind, I pity people like you, cause you’re so dead inside that there’s nothing left to rot and all you know to do with what remains is to try to poison everything around you.

    • Guest

      I’m sure you won’t have anything to complain about if it was an image of a “Brotha” with a white or hispanic woman. Black women are sexually desirable by ALL not just black men and it is about time we see more of this so deal with it!

    • Nyomi

      Omg yes i agree!!!! Im tired of it too. Keep speaking u got my LIKE.

      • The Truth

        Casanova Brown does not want your fat black azz, he wants a white woman.

    • The Truth

      The image shows a white man because N—— don’t like black women. It’s you that worships the white woman as the ALMIGHTY GOD.
      So shut the f— up and stop getting so jealous. You don’t want black women, yet you don’t want any other man to have black women.

    • Do you see how they never put a black man with a white woman? fishy

    • LL

      Oh get over yourself. Interracial relationships are no longer a big deal. People like you make the world a terribly ignorant place.

      • Get over it

        Y’all are being racist. They are just human beings. Get over it

  • britchick91

    good list

  • XxEvilTrollx

    lool at 13 thats so wrong, when a man does that its because he is dominating you and he wants too see the effects of his big fat D, in your facial expressions, and the more u moan and scream the faster and harder he thrusts because its the genetic act of domination. EVERYONE KNOWS THIS. this list too,…. too sugar coated. nevertheless for you ladies, aww yh of course his looking at you because he wants to see your joy thats what it is aww how cute…

    • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

      saw ur comment & went straight to 13 lol

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  • Shiva Amina

    Thank you. I was in a terrible mood today, and this only makes me more appreciative of my husband who just deals when I’m not the best company.

  • Nice lil compilation. I hope this is true for me one day…

  • You Need More People

    I do a lot of this list just to make sure I keep hittin it. lol

    • bored@wizerk


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  • Crystal

    This was one point!

  • enlightenment

    Awww. Seems like the author has a good man on her hands, as well…its why this list was so awesome! Cute list =D

  • Rebbekah

    Nice lil compilation. I hope this is true for me one day…

  • flowerinthemoonlight

    I guess he really like me.

  • hollyw

    Yeah… this list is good…and that’s all I’mma say lol.

    • bahamianempress99

      Whooo…this list. *fans self* Is it hot in here?