Holiday Cheer? Should You Break Up With Someone During The Holiday Season?
Now that Thanksgiving has passed, the next big holiday that most of us are looking forward to is Christmas and then New Year’s Eve. But if you’re in a dead-end relationship or casually involved with someone you aren’t really feeling, you might be feeling a bit apprehensive about how to proceed and pondering whether or not you should break up with someone during the holiday season. It can be murky territory and pretty uncomfortable. But it literally might be the only major thing on your mind: “Should I break up now to avoid the next holiday or should I wait until after the holidays to drop the bomb?”
Now if you’ve been in a relationship for a while and it’s on the rocks, chances are your partner knows that a breakup is inevitable. But if you’re newly kicking it with someone and you’ve recently realized that the relationship really isn’t going anywhere, at what point do you pull the plug? Now, I’m not talking about breaking up with someone just so you don’t have to buy them a gift….that’s tacky. I’m talking about not wasting more time on a relationship that has run its course; it just happens to be around the holiday season that you’ve come to your senses and you don’t want to keep wasting each other’s time. Even if the other person doesn’t feel the same way you do, or doesn’t know that a breakup is eminent, I feel the best thing to do in this situation is to break up immediately…even if it is a festive time of year.
I know some may think that’s cruel, but I say rip the band-aid off now. It may hurt the other person, but it’ll put him (and you) out of his misery. There’s no need to try to fake the funk, buy gifts that you really don’t want to give, and spend time with someone you really don’t want to spend time with. Holidays are usually for family, so they’ll have their family to comfort them if they’re that upset about it. You can bring in the new year with a clean slate, and they’ll get over you just in time to find a new boo for Valentine’s Day.
Holding off a break up simply for the sake of a holiday will just drag it out – there will never be a good time. You can’t say, “Well, breaking up before Christmas is mean…I’ll wait til New Year’s.” And then New Year’s will come, and you’ll want to wait til afterwards so that they don’t end the year on a bad note and deem you a jerk for making them bring in 2014 with a broken heart. So then Valentine’s Day rolls around, and you don’t want to be an even bigger creep for doing it right before or after Cupid’s Day. And if you’re Irish, maybe breaking up around St. Patrick’s Day is in poor taste too. Then Easter…when will it end?!
Just get it over with already. You shouldn’t feel the need to carry the emotional burden for the both of you out of guilt. The most selfless thing you can do during this most wonderful time of the year is to release someone from a relationship that has no future. It’s the best gift you can give him…and yourself.