Kelly Clarkson Causes A Stir For Saying She Was “Pathetically Alone” For 7 Years Before Meeting Her Husband In 2012

November 22, 2013  |  

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Kelly Clarkson, 31, has caused something of a stir with some folks after an interview she did with Parade magazine. In the interview she described herself as being “pathetically alone” before meeting her new husband, Brandon Blackstock, in 2012. The two just wed in October and she’s now expecting her first child with him. Here’s what she had to say about being single beforehand, and her hopes for motherhood:

On Singlehood:

“I was single for almost seven years. Every Christmas, it was like, ‘Seriously, I’m still pathetically alone? Awesome. I’m still telling people I’m okay with it? I’m not.’”

On Dating Before Meeting Blackstock:

“I only had like three boyfriends my whole life before Brandon, and two of them were good, just not a good fit. I only had one real stinker that I wrote [music about] and made a lot of money off of.”

Blackstock’s Worry About Dating Her Since His Father Was Her Manager:

“He was like, ‘My dad’s gonna kill me if this doesn’t go well.’ I said, ‘So? We’re both adults. And it’s gonna go awesome!’ In my head, I was like, ‘I’m already married to you!’”

On Being Excited About Having Kids (Before She Found Out She Was Pregnant):

“My eggs aren’t getting any younger, so we’ve already started trying. I’m totally gonna have a girl. I’m manifesting it! And when I have a girl, you’re gonna be like, ‘That chick knew it! Everybody calls me fat all the time, so I can’t wait to have a reason, instead of everybody just being a jerk!”

I don’t know what was going on in her world before she met her husband for her to consider herself “pathetically alone” at one point, and I’m sure she’s not trying to say there’s anything wrong with being single (it could be a simple joke), but folks took it that way:

Pathetically alone” sounds really bad as if being single, not settling, or being alone is such a crime. I’m happily engaged, but not everyone meets their match until much later in life, if ever. Nothing wrong with being alone, alot of ppl panic and settle for some relationship that isn’t right for them out of fear of being alone.

Wow. Pathetically insecure. She needs to quiet down.

That’s not a particularly good attitude with which to enter into marriage. She’s beginning to sound needy.

Her entire self worth these days seems to hinge on being married. So where does that leave her if they end up divorcing?

Being single is not pathetic. Shame on women who believe they need a man to be happy.

Yikes! Knowing Clarkson (who is pretty outspoken), she’ll probably address all of this. But either way, it’s clear that Clarkson is happy to have found love and to start a family so congratulations to her for that. Hopefully it will all bring her the happiness she’s looking for because she’s pretty awesome, and that girl can sang!

What did you think of her comments?

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  • Krystle Crossman

    People really need to chill. You are all pathetically offended by something that wasn’t even meant towards you.

  • FromUR2UB

    Wow. People can’t say that about themselves?

  • Old Head

    Well now she is pathetically married. No one should ever describe themselves as pathetic. I think Kelly battles with low self-esteem and marriage is going to change that. She has always had father issues and self image Issues. If you ask me its pretty pathetic to marry your managers son and I’m sure her money is keeping their relationship together. I’m sure his father knew exactly what was going on and wants it to go well as stated above. I surprised noone spoke on it.

    • Mia

      What? How did you get all that? Have you ever been single for 7 years after you starting dating? That is a long time. She never said she was pathetic, she described her single life as being pathetically alone. I’ve been single for 3 years and I can’t even imagine what it’s like to be single for 7.

  • Love

    Some people are happy being single,and some people aren’t. She clearly wasn’t. Why should she pretend to be happy about it if she’s not? Wanting to share your life and experiences with someone isn’t a crime. God didn’t make us to be alone. I say good luck to her & I hope she has a long blessed happy marriage. People need to stop letting other folks business bother them.

  • SayQue

    Sadly she thinks that she is pathetic because she is single. Some woman are like that

  • Joan Ntsoane

    oh come on man. did i just waste my time reading this?!?! whoever wrote this article is just bored and has nothing better to do with their time. stop psycho-analysing and reading too much into what people are saying….

  • DoinMe

    Maybe for her, she didn’t want to be alone. People kill me acting like if someone wants to be in a relationship and not be single, something must be wrong with them. The ones talking all of the “I’m Happily Single” are more than likely the most lonely and miserable.

  • Lala

    Some people are happy single and some people are very unhappy. Don’t pretend like we all don’t want someone to find fall in love with and get married, some people are just more anxious than others she was one of them and she was unhappy, nothing wrong with that.


    why can’t people be honest w/o offending somebody? geez. Maybe she wanted to find love in her life? is that such a bad thing after 7 years while some of those people posting ish prob have a different dude in their rooms every other night because they can’t sleep alone.

  • WHY

    In these days, being alone seems not such a bad idea to me. I am 21 years old, and I have never had a boyfriend. I would like to have someone in my life but I am not in a rush to get there. I am still finding myself in this world and I just don’t want to rush in a relationship. I believe what Kelly means by “pathetic” is seeing others she know in relationships when she doesn’t have anyone. I kind of feel that way sometimes. I have gone this long without anyone that it seems normal to me. I would like someone in my life but I am willing to wait for that person. What Kelly said was her own personal opinion. She has a right it.

  • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

    Idk y people r mad she refers to herself as pathetically single that’s her definition of her life at that time..if u happily single then be so…& carry on

  • Yolanda

    I completely got Kelly’s point. Get a grip!

  • Tee

    People are too sensitive these days….geeeesh. Really? Uugh

    • Gabie Aldrich


  • funkynights

    sounds like those group of people are pathetically alone.

  • heyheynow

    I feel you Kelly girl Im not pathetically alone but these guys I’m dating and not meeting the one I’m pathetically dating lmao

  • ChiTown Princess

    At least Kelly was telling the truth how she felt, people need to stop judging this woman, she’s married and is expecting a baby, I’m happy for her.

  • MarriedMomOf2

    Well I don’t see what the big deal is, she was telling how she felt and was honest about it, I don’t see nothing wrong it. As long as she’s happy, I’m happy for her. People need to get a grip.

  • Kay

    I think what Kelly is saying is true to how she felt. Alot of times, women want to act like they are not feeling lonely or sad about not being in a relationship. She actually owned her feelings and how she felt about the situation. Why does it have to be a bad thing?

    • Nee

      I’ve been single (and celibate) for 3 years and I feel pathetically alone a lot!

      • applesauce585

        I was single for 5 years (my honey died in 2008) it is a welcome change to have love once, again!! Your time will come, just wait with a “good attitude” and “he will find you.” 🙂

  • Trisha_B

    If thats how she wants to describe her situation, so what?! Not like she was talking for everyone or was asked about someone else situation. She was speaking about herself smh

  • Chey

    Sounds to me like a lot of folks got their panties in a bunch over nothing.


      I was just going to comment the same thing. If that’s how she felt, that’s how she felt. Everyone needs to get a grip!

    • Gabie Aldrich

      I was going to type the same thing. 🙂