From YourTango
What is 4play anyway? Well to start off, it’s a noun, but it is so much more than that, and if you pay attention and learn the art of epic 4play you might not even make it to the bedroom. (The backseat or the broom closet might just have to do)!
According to the Urban Dictionary, 4play is touching, kissing or licking each other in a stimulating manner, in order to become “turned on” before having actual sex. However, in most public places this kind of 4play isn’t too acceptable, especially the licking part.
But that doesn’t mean you need to wait until after your date to put 4play skills into action. Non-physical 4play is a bigger turn-on than twerking to Justin Timberlake’s latest in the club. Trust me on this ladies, subtlety is Hot. Keep the twerking for your alone time. He’ll think it’s much sexier if you only twerk for him.
There are just a few simple steps for 4play that starts before the bedroom, and they start with you getting in touch with yourself.
1. Get in tune with your sensual side.
You can do this by getting in touch with your six senses. Oh… you thought there were five? There is one that many people don’t talk about, and we’ll get to that later. Clueless in how to connect with with your sensual energy? Learn more 4 more subtle seductive communication tips. There are the five senses that we all know: taste, touch, smell, hearing and seeing — and using all of these is a big part of 4play. You’ve got to be tapped in to be turned on.
Try this exercise: next time you are eating your Caesar salad with grilled chicken, really pay attention to what is going on around you. Notice the heat of the chicken as opposed to the coldness of the fork, and the crispy, crunchy sounds of the romaine and croutons. Notice the textures too.
Whenever you do anything, be really aware of the way things look and feel around you while you have. See the sun shining and be aware of the shimmery ice cubes in your drink, what the condensation feels like on your fingers. Licking the condensation off of your glass is not quite what you want to go for hwew. (Remember subtle is Hot, at least in public).
When you tune into your body and live in the moment, you can get more in touch with your sixth sense. When you are in tune with what is going on with you and your body, you can tap into your intuition, and trusting that part will allow you to be more open with you man. Trusting your instincts will turn both of you on.
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