Akon Believes Polygamy Is The Answer To America’s Startling Divorce Rate

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November 12, 2013 ‐ By Jazmine Denise Rogers
Akon

Source: WENN

The divorce rate in this country is pretty alarming. Although there are probably a ton of reasons why relationships are failing, recording artist and producer Akon believes that a huge reason is that men weren’t created to be monogamous.

“If America adopted that [pologamy] culture there would be less domestic disputes. The average guy in the world has a main girl and they got a side chick. And then they got a jumpoff,” the “I Wanna Love You” singer told TMZ.

He went on to say that this difficulty with being monogamous stems from men’s “natural” desire to “breed.”

“At the end of the day as a male we are natural breeders by nature. We can’t even escape it if we wanted to. Let’s say you put 1,000 guys on one corner and one bad chick walk passed. You gon’ see 1,000 heads go, ‘Damn.’ They don’t even know why they doing it. They’re natural breeders. It’s in their genes, they can’t help it. Even if you’re walking with your girl and you’re holding her hand and you see a bad chick walk by and she lookin’ at you like, ‘Boy you better not look,’ you gonna wanna look so bad and you don’t even know why that urge is there, but you’re a natural breeder. It’s what we do. Men are put on this earth to breed and the reason why God put multiple women on this earth is for that.”

Oh, and if you’re stomach isn’t turning yet, he also said that women should learn to “scientifically understand men” to foster better chances for relationship success.

“When looking at reproduction, there’s always going to be more reproducing that actual reproducers themselves. There’s more to it scientifically, but as humans, women need to take more time to understand men. If they can do that I think things will work out better for us.”

As for marriage…

“Marriage just solidifies a relationship between a man and a woman spiritually under God’s eyes.  So, I can be spiritually attached to her, and still be spiritually attached to [another woman], and still be spiritually attached to [another woman.]

Now, when you’re talking about commitment, understanding, loyalty—that’s a different conversation because what happens now is that people are having relationships, boyfriend and girlfriend, and treating it like it’s actually marriage. You’re just dating. The whole purpose of dating is so you can date this one, and date this one, and date this one until you find out, ‘Okay, this is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. Okay now, I commit to what’s called marriage.’ You find that one woman that supplies everything that you desire in a woman, of course that will be a motivation to stick with that one woman, but I don’t know no one woman that can satisfy every man’s one need. It’s impossible. Just like there’s not one man that can satisfy a woman’s every need, but women aren’t built to breed like that or mate with more than one partner. Women aren’t built that way, men are.”

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  • Jan2606

    Akon use to be a okay Singer until he open his mouth degrading women. I use to listen to his song beautiful and you could put the blame on me oh of course we can blame you for being a sexiest pig. For having five wife’s and not paying child support your sick Then he a Aids advocate of course you are with so much women your practically a nasty sex toy yuck. The wives are the blame too they should be ashamed of there selves how can you let any man treat you like a blow up doll.God has a better purpose for you he wouldn’t gave us brains if he didn’t. Religion is people perspective on God. No body have seen God and I refuse to believe his plans for women is this if he’s love.

  • Ann

    Oh God, the old ”Men are still cavemen” excuse… Please stop with that bs! You have iPads, right? And medical care, and airplanes; you take a shower, brush your teeth, cook your food… You have evolved; that excuse only works for the Cro Magnon men that existed hundreds of thousands of years ago!

  • Guest

    And all this because of…Akon? I’m sorry but I can’t take this man seriously for any reason at all. It just seems he’s looking for anything to get in the news. Word of advice, Akon: stick to ‘music’…it certainly has to be better than your poor attempt at sounding deep and scientific. Hopefully. Yeesh.

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  • rainbow

    It’s always men saying polygamy, because they are the only ones who benefit. I’ll pass

  • 00_00

    It always has to be about guys and their sexual habits. I know a lot of women that have higher sex drives than men, yet you never hear about their being polyandry for women in the U.S. to decrease divorce.Womens sex drive increases after 30 it is a known fact while men’s sex drive decreases and sex organ fails unless there is assistance from (cialis) What Akon says is truly sexist. Men can have side chicks and women have to deal with it that is a load of bull**** Why can’t their be two sides instead of one being geared to support the habit of men and justify their actions. The argument should support both sides to be valid.

  • Mia

    I wish I could have more than one husband. Im currently dating three guys 2 white and one Mexican. I’m not having s3x with them, Im enjoying the attention tho. Alot of free meals.

  • Sandbrn

    Thank God not all men are this way. If you set your standards from the beginning and do not waver or falter you will weed out the “serial breeders”. It is a matter of personal choice on both sides, if you don’t mind being the main chick, side line ho or last minute jump off then fine, do you….but if that is not a place you choose to occupy then let it be know from the word Go.

  • smoinpour

    I don’t think polygamy is going to resolve divorces…

  • 1Val

    Akon’s money has given him a false sense of empowerment. LMAO!!! Any woman with an ounce of sense in her head would tell a man who espouses his rhetoric to kick rocks. He is hilarious!!!

  • Marie

    This guy is just a pig who has no self control, end of story!

  • Christine

    I didn’t know Akon was this stupid.

  • Ms_Sunshine9898

    First and foremost, polygamy in Islamic was created to be “beneficial” to the woman in the sense that if she no longer had a husband or son to provide and take care of her, she could marry a man who would if he had the resources to do so. So because cultural motives determine women aren’t fit for working outside the home and providing for themselves a man can just step in a take over? This system was created in a man’s favor so he’d have an excuse to take on more wives. Don’t let a woman do for herself, but force her to have to become a sister wife in order to ensure she has what she needs for herself and her children so that you have a rainbow coalition in a variety of wives. Please stop the madness Akon and men of polygamy. . .

    • efflorescing

      before you attempt to give a history lesson, make sure you state actual facts…contrary to what you claim, Islamic legislation did NOT create polygyny (which is the term, not polygamy)…rather, the Islamic legislation limited the amount of wives a man could have to 4, if he so chooses, instead of limitless…this is not required, but an allowance, for men can have just 1 wife…

      reality: polygyny has existed across the globe in many cultures for thousands of years before the Islamic legislation…european societies fairly recently enforced monogamous relationships for the benefit of the affluent, not for women’s rights (how could they be thinking about women when women scarcely had rights in europe?)

      additionally, historically, it was not uncommon for muslim women to own businesses and be highly successful…the prophet muhammad’s (peace be upon him) first wife khadijah was extremely wealthy due to owning her own business…so again, your statements do not coincide with fact…

      in some cultures, the interpretation of anything can be skewed to mold to people’s desires…this is not limited to polygyny or the mistreatment of women…heck, look at the acceptance of homosexuality in our society wherein people can’t even quote bible passages without being condemned for hate speech…

      if it’s not for you then fine, no one is trying to convince you…but why do you think all women in polygyny are forced? if women choose this for religious or personal reasons, what is your problem? it’s more honorable for a woman instead of being confined to being the years long side piece…it simply gives a better option instead of a degrading one if the people so choose to do so…

      • Ms_Sunshine9898

        your tired argument, though true proved everything I was just talking about. . .

  • lockstress

    Why do people assume that polygamy should be limited to “men” only? I love men and am attracted to various types alike. Why can’t i have more than 1 man? I am BIOLOGICALLY capable of handling more than 1 at the same time let alone individually. Go somewhere… MEN!
    My husband can have as many wives that he can take care of….ONLY if I can have another husband or 2 to fill the void! Fair is fair! lol

    • Nate

      U sound like a hoe. I’m not justifying what he said, but a woman’s body isn’t meant for wear and tear. If a woman had been with multiple people, then u could tell. Her body will look depleted. Look at magic Johnson. Nobody knew he had sex with multiple people until he came out saying he’s HIV positive.

      • amina

        You sound dumb as all the fucks.

        Have you ever seen real black men sick with AIDS?

  • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

    at lot of women think they’re in monagamous relationships & they’re not…by that same token i don’t think they would be happier if they accepted the fact that the man they’re with is cheating with other women & will always cheat…i think men & women need to be honest with each other about what they expect & what they’ll accept…i want a committed monagamous relationship if he wants to have relationships with other women then let me know…so i can leave him alone…because we don’t want the same things…point blank period…if he finds a women that’s willing to accept that situation then more power to him.

  • Beentheredonethat

    I would be happy to share my mate if the duties where also shared; further it takes the pressure off of me to be every woman. So bring her home and put her to work, can’t have all the pleasure without the pain.

  • GUEST1

    COME ON Y’ALL – you knew this was coming after everything that transpired over gay marriage. Who is to judge how others live their lives, right?

  • Matilda Tripp

    Polygamy is ABUSE TO FEMALES.
    Eff this tard.
    Is he one of those illuminutty Sayanim spreading the perversion amongst the goyeem for a buck?

  • efflorescing

    i’m wondering for all the women who have made severely disparaging comments & vehemently disagree with what akon said, do you have respect for martin luther king jr? who was an…adulterer?!

    by no token of the imagination was his devoted and dedicated wife honored nor respected by him philandering…but is that overlooked because of his service to the civil rights movement? his commitment to his wife should have been one of his top priorities after his service to the Creator…but even he could not keep his goods in his pants…

    i find it remarkable that so much venom can be spewed toward a way of life that many people choose wherein a man is responsible for and takes care of his family and honors his wives…yet public servants can be raised on a pedestal & praised while their adulterous ways are somehow forgotten…all that talk about women being subjugated and less than men seems to only apply when a man wants to have more than one wife (a wife, not mistress, girlfriend, one night stand), and overlooked/dismissed if a man is cheating and his wife stays with him…somehow, the woman in this position exudes strength and courage…

    furthermore, for all that talk about how this lifestyle (of being in committed relationships) leads to hiv and other stds…then why are stds not prevalent in multiple divorcees? did coretta scott king have stds? jackie kennedy? hillary clinton? hiv & stds are severe and real, but have spread due to promiscuity and immoral & unnatural sexual behavior…do you really think you need to be worried about a man who has been married for 20+ years to the same women spreading viruses?

    (and again, not all polygynous relationships are ideal, as not are all monogamous, so i’m not advocating for those wherein women and girls are victims)

    • Miss J

      You can have respect for a person without respecting all of their actions and behaviors.

      • efflorescing

        are you the one who singled out the taliban earlier? as if muslims are the only one’s who practice polygyny and in a dehumanizing way? come now…your ignorance speaks volumes and it’s offensive…polygyny is not an exclusive islamic tradition nor not always done badly…

        none of the venom that is spewed regarding polygyny and women being subjugated and men’s hyperactive libidos is mentioned when it comes to men like mlkjr or other men in high positions…somehow, it’s excused and overlooked…respect for someone who couldn’t even treat his wife with dignity, respect and honor?…that was his commitment to her before God…this was not a simple bad habit, like let’s say, smoking, but a duty to be loyal to his wife…if it’s accepted due to who he was (or those other men), fine, that’s your prerogative…what, though, is the problem accepting that people choose polygyny and not soley for the man’s sexual gratification or subjugation of women?

  • JRoc85

    Akon is a JACKA$$!!! People tend to forget AIDS & HIV is VERY real, & Akon’s mentality promotes further promiscuity & spreading of STDs!!!

  • lifeisred

    He said that he doesn’t know one woman that can satisfy every man’s needs and that’s how he justifies polygamy. And he said the same for women, no one man can do the same, but that women aren’t built for that. So it’s okay for a man to do whatever and whoever to get all his needs met, but women are supposed to just ******* up and deal with it?

    see give your all to a man and he still isn’t satisfied no one will ever be able to satisfy your every need just like I’m sure he will never be able to satisfy a women’s need that is not what being in a relationship is about it’s about sacrificing for that person because you love them will they always make you happy no but the answer is not just to go stick and lick every single female who want that’s why their are so many kids running around now who don’t have a home

    He is deeply rooted in some culture that believes that women are less than men apparently. If you are supposed to just sit home and wait for him to come home from sally and sue house then what kinda marriage is that….none I will ever be in. unless he want to end up dead somewhere.

    no wonder I hear about women marrying their dog and having a friend with benefit on the side men are a mess at least dogs are loyal will be by your side protect you as long as you love them provide food/water you can give that to a man and he will still find a problem and instead of looking at himself as the issue he will turn around and blame you smh

  • Abbas BAKER

    He is absolutely right! I am coming from an African culture that embraces polygamy and stigmatizes divorce. My grandfather was married to 4 wives, and father to 3. They lived a life way happier that this miserable being we call life.

    • Matilda Tripp

      And shat all over the women. Polygamy harms females.

    • Ms_Sunshine9898

      I’m sure each of those wives enjoyed inequal rights as well . . .

  • lifeisred

    Well I’m a woman and I don’t think any one man can satisfy all my needs so I need 5 men:

    1 who makes me laugh
    another who can cook
    another who will pamper me with gifts
    another who is honest
    another who is incredible in bed

    But what would people say if I got 5 husbands? Oh my it would be the end of the world, and I come from a muslim background but ain’t got time for this, legally having several partners is just a way of making it acceptable to be a ****

    smh

  • ak1

    Always the ugly men talking

  • Just saying!!

    This is incredibly disheartening to me that I can’t even tolerate it. I mean I’m getting watery eyed over here to think people think like this. How ignorant can you be. This wouldn’t bother me so much if it went BOTH ways. But no one ever says, men can have multiple wives and women can have multiple husbands, it’s only men have multiple wives and that is the most vile, animalistic crap I’ve heard in a long time. Pure savagery.

    • Herm Cain

      Wow calm down don’t get your panties in a bunch because his mentality doesn’t match the fairy tale you envision you can go tit for tat about what’s fair or look at the reality in what he’s saying women know realistically they are not wired to move like men I would sleep with a different woman Monday through Sunday if I had the opportunity your typical average women thinks that’s disgusting and is harassing some man for a commitment as I type this

      • Jae Bee

        “women know realistically they are not wired to move like men”

        Again, how do you explain the many years of DNA tests that the Maury show has produced if women are not “wired to move like men”?

  • Just saying!!

    What a ****ing ***hole. Usually I give people a few times to screw up but this is so absurd that I’m already done with this dumb ****.

  • efflorescing

    many women do choose to enter into polygyny as a status of honor, i.e, being a wife, instead of being a side chick, mistress, etc….i’d pose the question, how many women in monogamous relationships are happy? people can make assumptions about a culture in distant lands they only know about from the media…or you can look right here in your backyard…

    i’ve heard firsthand and seen countless stories over the years of many “monogamous” marriages threatened by the man’s constant “need” to indulge in relationships with other women, i.e. cheating…numerous women have been left with the decision to either stay or leave…how many women do you know who have gone through this? from the woman you know down the block to many first ladies of the united states…

    my point is, that if you think deeply about men’s behavior, what akon is saying makes some sense…you may not agree, it may not be for you as a man or a woman, but it cannot be denied that many men do not fit the mold of monogamy…it is not a new concept, but one that has been in existence, across the globe for thousands of years…monogamy as the norm is a relatively new concept enforced by european societies…

    btw, i’m sure many of you have seen or heard of the show “sister wives”…none of these women were forced into marrying their husband and none are subjugated or forced to be on the side lines as a lust piece…they are all equally wives and honored as such…again, it may not be your thing, but it does happen with respect, decency, commitment and willingness more often than some think…

    • Just saying!!

      Women that are not happy in monogamous relationships probably want multiple partners. This logic that women want to be submissive is just more prove that men think with their p*nises and not their brains and want an excuse to justify their foolish behavior.

      How about that men that aren’t happy in monogamous relationships need to be one of multiple husbands to have some sort of control in their lives?

    • Just saying!!

      And in terms of having honor and not being a side chick, you can do that by being married to one person.

      Sorry to say but many women in polygamous relationships tend to be controlled and brainwashed. And from what I have seen of Sister Wives, there was a lot of jealousy amongst the women, but they all accepted it because they felt they were supposed to. Complacency does NOT equal happiness.

      • efflorescing

        no one is denying having honor in a monogamous relationship…but you cannot lump all of polygynous relationships together and claim women are subjugated, abused, etc…for every argument you give to down people’s choice to choose polygyny, that same argument can be used in monogamous relationships…because the truth is, there is dysfunction, disappointment, heartache, abuse, and many other negatives in the spectrum of relationships…

        i love seeing success in monogamous as well as polygamous relationships…if in any situation, the women are treated with dignity and honored, what exactly would someone’s issue be?

    • Ms_Sunshine9898

      Why be bothered with a man who expects you to commit 100% to him but can’t give you the same because his need to go and see what else is out there? That ain’t monogamy, that’s just your dumba$$ hollerin’ “But I love him!” Any man who truly loves you will love you and you alone because he won’t feel a need to go feel complete by someone else. Let’s not make excuses. . .

      • efflorescing

        read my comment about martin luther king jr and then come back with your argument…

    • 9Boots

      The BRAIN is the biggest sex organ. Wanting to have sex with everything that moves is a CHOICE not a biological demand. Your body will never die from not having sex, and will never die from not having multiple sex partners however you will die if do not eat nor have water, that is a biological need. Desiring to have sex with multiple people is a choice NOT a biological desire. There are people that are sexually attracted to objects, animals, children, and the same sex and non of these attractions are biologically required to exist. They are CHOICES!

      • efflorescing

        surely, you must not be responding to me…because i haven’t attempted to justify lustful conquests…so what are you talking about?

        you attempt to trash a respectable lifestyle choice and debase it to the level of promiscuity…there is a huge difference between a man maintaining more than one woman as a wife, seeing to her emotional, physically & financial needs and a man seeking s*xual gratification, without responsibility, from various, random women…

        unlike what you’re trying to depict, it’s not all about s*x…think deeply & realistically and be honest with the biological way men & women are created…examples which i stated earlier, we have limited eggs,
        compared to men’s sp**m count…generally, she’s designed to carry one man’s child (there have been some exceptions, though, but they are just that, exceptions)…also, usually a woman will reach the end of child bearing age when a man is fully able to continue reproduction…the rule of nature is reproduction and biologically & historically, men have had more than one wife to ensure survival of nations…

        so come off the desultory s*x talk…

        • 9Boots

          You stated “i’ve heard firsthand and seen countless stories over the years of many “monogamous” marriages threatened by the man’s constant “need” to indulge in relationships with other women,..”.

          “my point is, that if you think deeply about men’s behavior, what akon is saying makes some sense…”.
          Both of these statements said ‘need’ and ‘behavior’. I addressed those statements. These needs and behaviors are choices and not biological.

          • efflorescing

            if i have to explain to you why i put “need” in quotations marks, then you have COMPLETELY missed the point…and since when did behavior translate to sexual conquests?

            the ignorance is abundant…you are the one who liked an earlier falsified statement regarding islam supposedly creating polygamy, so there is no point having a rational discussion with you…

            • 9Boots

              First of all you are the one defending the position. You are working overtime to justify the lifestyle. Bottom line. The act and desire to have mutliple spouses, and multiple sex partners is a choice NOT a biological need. So your asinine statement is a farce.

    • ijwmdp

      As someone in a happy polygamous relationship, everything you said is correct. It isnt for everyone but nothing is meant. People should respect others choices even if you differ. Much respect to you and yours!!”!

      • efflorescing

        i’m very happy for you & your family…may it be preserved and protected!!

    • Jae Bee

      “it cannot be denied that many men do not fit the mold of monogamy…it
      is not a new concept, but one that has been in existence, across the
      globe for thousands of years…”

      “btw, i’m sure many of you have seen or heard of the show “sister wives”…

      Well, I’m sure many of us have seen the Maury Povich show as well…what does that say about women not fitting the “mold of monogamy”? It’s not a new concept…women have been having polygamous relations with many men, across the globe, for thousands of years. Their only issue was that in a patriarchal society they could/would be severely punished if such behavior was discovered because men are jealous creatures.

      • efflorescing

        now that’s just ignorance…comparing a decent family structure to pure buffoonery, lewdness and indecency? where constantly women are on there crying, trying to find out who “the baby daddy” is? i read an article the other day where a woman, a successful lawyer, who professed her addiction to sex with multiple partners also had to have numerous abortions…you think each man went with her to those appointments, held her hand throughout? she more than likely dealt with it alone…is that dignity? is that what you recommend for women? absurd!

        i stated earlier about the physiological, indisputable differences between men and women…we are just made differently…biologically, women are not made to spread themselves among many men…

        • Nope

          Your whole logic is a silly appeal to emotion that doesn’t work. “held her hand throughout” and “is that dignity”? I’m sorry…who cares? Why do you assume the mother is supposed to attach some high emotion to getting rid of the fetus anymore than the man who you probably agree wouldn’t have taken care of it if it had been birthed (so essentially it would have been left to die if it up to him)? Obviously if she had a bunch of abortions they weren’t that damaging to her. In fact, I bet any guilt she might have felt was socially forced on to her to make her feel bad about her actions and without societal judgement she’d be more relieved than anything else.

          The physiological, indisputable differences between men and women are overstated. If they weren’t, society wouldn’t be so desperate to enforce the differences to make them appear natural.

          I mean, if biologically women are not made to spread themselves among many men, why put it in girls minds from such a young age to seek one man to be with forever and have a dream wedding? Why shame women relentlessly when they do act on their need for variety? Why tie men’s ability to have sex with a lot of women directly with their self esteem? Why shame men as less masculine when they admit to not desiring to be promiscuous?

          Fact: Many women want to have sex with various men as much as many men want that with women. The biggest DIFFERENCE is that women are punished extremely harshly for acting on it. Men are celebrated for it. Really tired of chauvinist men who are all about trying to brainwash women about what we want and what we should expect and accept from them just to suit their fantasies.

          • rainbow

            Preach!!!!!

          • efflorescing

            you make absolutely no sense…have you had repeat abortions? so how can you say that so casually? i know of women who’ve had abortions and even years after, they may think about that day…more often than not, women will always remember ANY invasive procedure or experience to her body…a promiscuous woman has to deal with the aftermath alone whereas a promiscuous man can go about his business (that’s the illogic in comparing a structured family to a lewd lifestyle)…

            furthermore, i stated biologically, not people’s opinions, desires, whims, cultural practices, etc….challenge the facts i stated about a woman’s reproductive system, not the ill fated rhetoric you’re trying to argue…

            fact: in my posts about the issue, i’ve repeatedly mentioned polygyny as an honorable structure for people who choose it…never have i glorified or condoned any sexual conquests or promiscuity amongst random people, men or women…

            you need to redirect your post & spew your arguments to another forum wherein men repeatedly cheat on their wives, or wherein men talk of being addicted to sex…because lady, you have totally missed the mark directly your nonsense to me…

            • Jae Bee

              “.have you had repeat abortions? so how can you say that so casually? i
              know of women who’ve had abortions and even years after, they may think
              about that day…more often than not, women will always remember ANY
              invasive procedure or experience to her body”

              Can you say, “Strawman”?!

            • Nope

              You asked me if I’ve had repeated abortions….um, have you?? And if you have not, who tf are you to make the claim that you did in your previous post that any woman who does is going thru some mental anguish for doing it. Gtfoh.

              And I find it pathetic because in the very next sentence you entirely rejected the idea that a man could ever have any feelings towards creating a child than indifference and can go on about his business? Your mind is so warped its disgusting.

              Picture this, there is an ENTIRE WORLD of people who push your same exact thoughts and preconceptions onto women and men (that men are indifferent to children they create, that women must experience some deep dark feelings about anything regarding children or sex). But you think that has no effect??? You think all the ‘differences’ you are seeing between men and women are biological despite how clearly differently you treat them for the very same actions? You are delusional and brainwashed.

              And fyi, a tampon is invasive sweety. So is a pap smear. And I most certainly could never recount to you each and every time I went thru those processes. Stop forcing your feelings onto women and forcing non-feeling onto men and then calling it biology.. You sound ridiculous.

              • efflorescing

                comparing abortions to inserting a tampon? or another surgical procedure to a pap? “you sound ridiculous”

                and since you’re perusing this forum so tough looking to bash anyone who does not fit your feminist agenda, look where i stated the actual biological differences, not your baseless assumptions about my feelings…your critical thought process & intelligence is clearly not evolved if you surmised that i am debating that men are indifferent to children they produce…

                whew, to quote an earlier post…”feminazi”…

                • Nope

                  Feminazi huh? I would call you a “desperate, man pleasing bird brain” but then I’d be saying I believe you’re a female. Which I don’t.

                  And I already dissected the nonsense that you called “stating the actual biological differences”. I see you didn’t touch it probably because you read it and realized you really have no fking idea about biology but you’re in here trying to tell every woman about her body from her uterus to her heart to her brain.

                  Go away, bro.

                  • efflorescing

                    you dissected nothing…your rants are lunacy, which is evident in your resort to using expletives…sigh…i’ve never challenged what a woman chooses to do with her body, because ultimately, it’s her decision…you have totally gone off the deep end and couldn’t even stick to the point…it’s not your fault; i blame the current society norm in overuse of social media (e.g. twitter) or texts and the lack of intellect people have to use in actually dissecting real discourse and extracting main ideas…later bro…

            • Jae Bee

              “furthermore, i stated biologically, not people’s opinions, desires,
              whims, cultural practices, etc….challenge the facts i stated about a
              woman’s reproductive system, not the ill fated rhetoric you’re trying to
              argue…”

              Am I the only person that missed the “facts” about a woman’s reproductive system? It’s just interesting to me…unless we have a bunch of doctors/gynecologists on this board, I’ve never met so many men who “knew” more about a woman’s body (or her sex drive) than she did herself. Amazing!

              • efflorescing

                are you saying that women’s egg count is as much as a males s***m? or that women typically carry more than one man’s child? or that women & men both stop the ability to reproduce at the same time?

                as a woman, if you are not aware of or understand these basic facts about a woman, that’s scary…and clearly, you’re not reading my comments because i’m not debating a woman’s sex drive…you and your girl go on with your “feminazi” rants…

        • Jae Bee

          “now that’s just ignorance…comparing a decent family structure to pure buffoonery, lewdness and indecency?”

          I think your idea of a “decent family structure” is pure buffonery, lewdness and indecency–not to mention ignorant and misogynistic to boot! It’s all about perception. The Maury Povich show clearly provides examples of women who do not fit the “mold of monogamy”. However, these women are not unique. Had it not been for the societal pressure/structures placed upon women and their sexuality, I’d venture to say there’d be a hell of a lot more women who’d probably have multiple partners at any given time (biologically speaking you would stand a greater chance at producing biologically superior off-spring than if you were to only mate with one partner). If women were so biologically different than men when it comes to sex drives we wouldn’t have concepts like “cuckolding” or shows like Maury which prove that women are having polygamous relations with (many) men. The fact that society demonizes these women when they are in fact behaving in the same way that many men do speaks to a sociological issue NOT a biological one.

          You say that there are “indisputable” differences between men and women when it comes to sex, but I have yet to see any research that shows that the differences are truly biological versus societal expectations that have been passed down through generations, that are placed on women by men who don’t want to share “their women” with others.

          • efflorescing

            “You say that there are “indisputable” differences between men and women when it comes to sex”

            please learn to read and dissect the main idea in discourse…because i’ve never argued about sex…

    • Ms_Sunshine9898

      Me. Happily married to an Islamic husband from Morocco, and polygamy is not even an option. . .

  • Miss J

    This psuedo-scientific foolishness has been used for centuries in various forms to justify things like polygamy and the subjugation of women. You can hear similar themes from the Taliban and from cultures that view their female children as essentially having no value. Men do not have any more biological need for multiple partners that women. Men have in most cases had fluidity within society to engage in such behavior in various forms.Women in most cases have not, but that does not indicate no urge was there. Now that women have more economic freedom and less social constriction they are free to engage in the same biological urges men have long had the freedom indulge. Akon’s comments and similar ones have no basis in science.

    • efflorescing

      from a physiology perspective, a woman is the receiver, e.g. she receives the male’s into hers and his s***m into her body to bear children…it is what it is…additionally, we have limited eggs, compared to men’s s***m count…generally, she’s designed to carry one man’s child (there have been some exceptions, though, but they are just that, exceptions) as s***m fight each other and only one can go into an egg…also, usually a woman will reach the end of child bearing age when a man is fully able to continue reproduction…

      just some food for thought as biologically, we are created different from men…not inferior, but different…our bodies are not made for the same purposes as theirs…

      historically, it has served well for men to have more than one wife to increase the population as each species is made to reproduce and…one of the principles of nature…(and more than one wife as in family structure, not just men running around forni-cating with any ole body)…

      • 9Boots

        The desire to have sex with mutliple people is not physiological. Physiological needs are needs that are required to live such as water, food, sex, waste elimination etc.

        • efflorescing

          read my above comment because you are deflecting from the real issue is here…polygyny is not about simply fulfilling men’s sexual desires…

  • Wow

    Funny how he put that disclaimer on all of that B.S about sharing mates was only for women to do and not men. How many women in polygamous relationships are happy? They accept it because they’ve been subjugated and bred to accept it that they are there for the purpose of bearing children and pleasing one man, and what they get in return is a place to lay their heads, food, and clothes. Who wins in this polygamous clusterf*ck other than the men in a society especially amongst Af. Amer. where the women usually have to work and contribute to household finances while also having to freak him like crazy, and birth babies? Akon isn’t talking about anything other than having an endless supply of a$$ at his disposal without having to contribute anything other than his hyper sexual libido and a bunch of game.

    • stewwie

      “How many women in polygamous relationships are happy?” That is a good question….
      I earnestly believe most women would rather share an alpha mate than settle for a beta male. Think of the rapper Future and all his baby mamas, which now includes Ciara. Why else would a beautiful talented women who have many pursuers volunteer to be his next baby mama !

      • Wow

        It’s very clear that these women continuing to allow this man to run through them is less about them wanting to share him and more about them not wanting the other to have him to herself. They aren’t sharing him they are competing for him to choose one of them. Beautiful and talented women aren’t exempt from low self esteem and low standards nor from partaking in chickenhead like behavior. But that doesn’t make them in a polygamous relationships because the only one truly ok with this arrangement is the guy. The women are too wrapped up in competing for his emotions that they don’t see that they are all being played.

        Men love the sex aspect of polygamy but NONE are all too willing or able to financially support a harem or women or provide for any children that may come of these multiple unions. I think the allure of calling a relationship polygamous for most men is the “hold” that it has over the women to remain faithful while he is still able to screw anything walking. It’s about control. Single men and single women have sex as often and with whomever they please without all the added baggage of adding other folks and other feelings in the mix. But that would also put both the male and female on equal footing being as they are both single with no obligations or commitments to anyone. Men evidently don’t want the financial responsibility of a polygamous union but they want the needed security or sexual loyalty of having several women being beholden only to him while he is free to “breed” with as many women who will allow him to. So is it really polygamous unions that they seek or simply men who are too emotionally insecure in themselves to be able to handle the concept of “what’s good for the goose is good for the gander”.

        • stewwie

          That is the thing about modern day “polygamy/ baby mama” phenomena…., the men don’t necessarily have to provide for the women, except maybe is she has his baby, even that is only because the goverment force them to do so. Second, the majority of the women who are baby mamas are supported by the tax payer….i.e us.

          At the end of the day, it is the women who allow it….., so as I said above, it must be that this women rather share an alpha mate than get married to a beta male. That is the only logical conclusion for there choices (unless you think they are morons). The are not competing at all, They have pretty much accepted the arrangement and they knew he had multiple baby mamas before getting in to it. They are very much okay with it, they even took photos together and party together….

          • Wow

            Wow this is a sad indictment on the future of our community. Both men and women who are spreading these ignorant genes to and for. Who in their right mind no matter how much sex they have in the brain ha the mentality that it’s ok for men to go around having babies by multiple women because they won’t have to take care I them anyway. It’s evident from looking around at the fatherless children that this is a going sentiment in many parts of the black communist but to hear that as justification for why men are entitled to this mindset is sad.

            • stewwie

              You can condemn the morality of this men all you want but they are acting in there own selfish interest. It is the women who are let this men do this to them and their children. A women is suppose to be pick and get a commitment from a man before being impregnated by him.

              • Nope

                You are under the impression that these women are actually monogamous to the man. This is untrue in probably 90+ percent of the time. Even in times were men made women economically dependent on them, every family has story about a brother or sister or 2 who came out looking way different than everybody else.

                Basically you are ignoring the likely situation, which is that these women are using the man for what he provides financially and also getting some on the side as well. After all, if a guy is out sleeping with multiple partners and keeping multiple homes, its not as if each woman doesn’t have ample time and opportunity and resources (his) to do her own thing.

      • Just saying!!

        Clearly it’s men that need to better understand women and stop thinking with their ****ing penises. This is such filth. A disgrace to the earth.

        • stewwie

          The men are acting in their own best interest, it is the women who need some self esteem and demand to be a wife before becoming a baby mama or Side Piece.

          The problems is that this women want the few men who has the social statues and money, so they share instead of leaving.
          It seems as, If a woman want quality, she have to share…because he has many other options.

          • Just saying!!

            See that’s where you’re wrong. A lot of women DON’T want commitment. To say that isn’t an option for women is just filth and denies that women have desires as well. Women that want one partner will either marry a man with some sense or get another woman, which in this day and age isn’t a bad idea… Who can blame them! Lmao

            • stewwie

              Wait I am confused,…. Are you saying it is okay to be a baby mama or Side Piece to this men? This women are not dating other men, so they are in a commitment polygamous relationships.

              As for getting another woman, they should go for it… lol

      • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

        His D*ck game must be off the charts.

  • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

    Yes and his rationale is EXACTLY why there is such a high prevalence of HIV in our communities and the African countries. Sick!

  • stewwie

    He is absolutely right on the basics…. but it is politically incorrect to say it (unless you are anonymously commenting online) lol….

    Also he is Not very good at articulating his thoughts and his pseudo-scientific unedstandig is very cringe worthy.

    • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

      What basics? How many men in this country could and would support multiple wives and their kids? Not many. So they do the next best thing lie, cheat and scheme with multiple women.

      • stewwie

        He is talking about alpha males like him.

  • Candacey Doris

    Nope.

  • coolyfett

    Naw Acon, dude should know this will never work. America is the king of Feminism, aka UP with the women and down with the men. But I dont fault a wise man with money for leaving America so he can leave that sort of peaceful life in another county. You just cant have that sort of peace here in America. Sorry man

    • Jbrown

      I hear what you’re saying, man. What I think you’re seeing is how messed up patriarchy is in this country (same issues happen in other countries) ‘Cuz it promises a level of power and authority that is based on oppression and dominance, but when that ain’t realized it makes dudes feel inadequate, crazy, and stuff. Women contribute to patriarchy as much if not worse in some situations. The idea that you gotta own or have power over women shows a weakness in a dude. Don’t fall in love with that idea of power over anybody. White folks do that mess to us and we then reproduce that idea and enforce it on our women. That junk is wack!

      • coolyfett

        I don’t want power over any woman, but I wouldn’t mind having 3 or 4 women that would want to sex me and share me with other women, that would be awesome, its just something a man cant do in America and have a peaceful life. As soon as a man accomplishes the goal of having & enjoying multiple women at once. Thats when all the pitchforks come out in an attempt to ruin that said mans joy & happiness, forcing us to just be with one chick to avoid the angry mob. The Porcha Steward -Slash thing is a perfect example of that. Happy man is happy with relationship set up and the mob (Atl housewives) come in and ruin it. That’s why its always best to keep your relationships private so no one can critic or judge choices you make. If I had 2 or 3 women that shared me sexually I wouldn’t tell a soul, because those outsiders would ruin the joy. peace

        • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

          Then you need to up your bread. There are women who will screw you and share you with her girlfriends. As long as you are fronting her rent and keeping her in designer duds and you don’t mind breaking her off with some child support for 18 years when she secures her money with a child. You cool with that right?

          • coolyfett

            Im an American Black Man…what bread? Did you forget who runs this country?

            • Mia

              He is rich dummy and half white.

              • coolyfett

                @Mia the president doesn’t run the country, yes all Presidents are wealthy what does that have to do with the average black American male being wealthy? The ones with the real power are wealthy too, but you will never know any of their names. Peace

            • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

              LOL! True.

        • Miss J

          So you would be cool with all of those women doing that as well?

    • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

      OH they’re doing it here BIG time! They just aren’t wifing their baby mommas, girlfriends, or jump-offs. The HIV rates back this up.

      • coolyfett

        Im talking about normal straight men, not the bisexual undercover dudes that attract a lot of women. I meant the normal dudes.

        • Is It 5:00 Yet?

          Your chances of contracting HIV increases if you are sleeping with multiple people. Regardless if it’s with men, women, or both sexes.

          • coolyfett

            UMMM…ok?

  • Benita Marie Hannah

    Ok, based on whats written in this article I think he means polygyny, which is many wives. Polygamy, which is many married, is where the husband and the wife get to have partners in addition to the one they are with. His perception that women aren’t capable of having many needs like men do is ridiculous. I’m sure plenty of women out there have needs just as complex as men. To say that men have many needs that not just one woman can satisfy maybe true but I’m sure a lot of women feel the same way about men. It’s called polyandry. I think people that feel the need to “breed” with many people should just stay single.

    • stewwie

      I think by “need” he meant sexually,…he is saying men are design to want to mate with as many women as possible, while women seek commitment from one alpha man.

      As for “polyandry” It is a rare form of marriage that exists in some corner of the plant.

      • Nikia D-Shiznit

        Women are not wired that much different than men biologically. Women cheat just as much as men, which means that women enjoy variety as well. Since he is talking about a situation where ONLY men get to have the privilege of many partners, he should shut up.

        • stewwie

          First of all,… You are wrong, there is a huge differences between men and women biologically. Second, yes women do cheat nowadays at the same rate as men, that is because of the advance of science and technology like birth control pill and social safety net from the government. In the old days a woman wouldn’t risk such behavior because it meant pregnancy, poverty, and dead for her and her offspring. Women did use to cheat in the old day too… but only after getting married first.

          I don’t think he minds women wanting many partners, because that means more sharing and more women available.

          • Miss J

            The structures you cite are societal constructs – not biological. Men have always had fluidity within society and could engage in such behavior. As you state, women did not, but that does not indicate no urge was there. Now that women have more economic freedom and less social constriction they are free to engage in the same biological urges men have long had the freedom indulge. Akon’s comments, nor yours, have any basis in science.

            • stewwie

              Apparently you don’t know anything about evolutionary biology and evolutionary psychology so,here is a crash course….Even today most women do want love and commitment before sex. What is evolutionary for women has change much… for the most part it is still provision, protection and higher social status. Here is a simple fact; men exchange love, provision, protection for sex and a chance to reproduce, while women exchange sex, nurturing and their womb for provision, protection from a man.

              Most males are promiscuous Genetically, it is the most practical
              course of action. The more females with which a male mates, the greater number of offspring containing his genes are possible. In addition, the cost of sex in terms of time and energy is onsiderably lower for the male than the female. It is therefore in the male’s (and thus the male’s genes’) best interest for the male to mate with as many females as he can. IN most species, females bear the brunt of the cost of sex in both time and energy: Among mammals, she must not only produce the young, she must rear them to the point of self-sufficiency. Thus, unlike the male, she doesn’t have the choice of promiscuity, of creating as many offspring as possible as quickly as possible; she cannot abandon offspring as soon as they are born, or her genes die with the infant . All this means she must be highly selective in her choice of mates if she wishes to produce the highest quality offspring in her reproductive lifetime. If she selects just any male that comes along, she could waste all the time and energy that pregnancy and rearing require on a possibly weak or nonviable offspring. Her criteria thus are aimed at getting the best possible male. What is important is the quality of genes he brings and the help, if any, she will have while carrying, bearing and rearing her young. Her criteria, therefore, are more complex than the male’s. Not only must he be physically acceptable, but should satisfy other factors that may contribute to her and her offspring’s welfare.

              • Just saying!!

                Sounds to me like your logic is based off of the same old cheavenistic bull *** where men want an excuse to have multiple partners but want to keep everything to themselves. Clearly male privileges still exist as you feel SO entitled to tell women who they are and want they want and/or need. That in itself is disgusting and I don’t understand how any woman could want you. Go sit down somewhere. Smdh

                • stewwie

                  It is call science, go check it out before ranting like a feminazi….

                  And remember to take your pills tomorrow… lol

                  • Really?

                    wow what a sexist and rude shows levels what kind of person you are you think it is funny joking about taking pills nice what goes around comes around marriage isn’t about fulfilling every person desires and needs it’s about sacrificing for that one person who you care deeply about will you always make that person happy will they always make you happy of course not but if you are willing to put in the effort it can work that’s the problem so many people are giving up on relationships today no one wants to work and think the answer is sleeping around pathetic

                    • Drew

                      One word: punctuation

              • 9Boots

                evolutionary biology and evolutionary psychology are junk science!

                • stewwie

                  Yes, if your are a feminist and it disproves all your false dogma by using the scientific method research and data.

                  • Jae Bee

                    “Yes, if your are a feminist and it disproves all your false dogma by using the scientific method research and data.”

                    I’m sorry, I’m missing where all the “scientific method research and data” was provided (i.e. no citations). The “science” that has been provided thus far appears to be nothing more than opinion provided someone who is full of $h1t trying to sound intelligent.

          • http://www.astridanaturals.com/ Maia Singletary

            So, basically you are saying women cheat because they have the freedom to.

            Isn’t it the same for men? They cheat more because there are little to no consequences, because it’s easier for them and because they can. When it comes to impulse, I don’t see a difference between genders. Only a difference in people’s perceptions.

            Your argument that women cheat more now because of birth control only proves that when things are equal, we are not that different.

            • stewwie

              No, I didn’t say women didn’t cheat in the past but they did it in much more secret and It had many conscuenses for them.

              Why do you think women are the one who still demanding commitment from only one man, even if in today’s environment they can engage in the same behavior as men….ask yourself why ? The answer; Biology….

              Not to mention; you are agree with him…

              • Nope

                “Why do them women still demanding commitment from only one man, even if in today’s environment they can engage in the same sexual behavior as men”

                So you are saying you neither fully completed your books on evolutionary psychology OR sociology?

                There is basically nowhere on earth where women can engage in the same sexual behavior as men, nowhere. Most societies have it set up so that women are punished, either physically or socially (thru shaming, name calling, and even denial of employment) or both for not behaving within very strict confines sexually.

                Pre-colonial Africa is probably the only place where what you are saying happened widespread, and because of colonization it is hard to know for sure the extent of that.

                • stewwie

                  We are talking in the developed world context…. No one is punishing women in America. They can pretty much do what they want and some do, but the majority don’t. Have you watched MTV lately? Female promiscuity is encouraged to the degree it can be controlled. As for shaming and name calling,..it is primarily other women who do it. Evolutionarily speaking, The reason behind women shame each other is because of competition. Women are more likely to bully other women for things they deem “incorrect”. Whether it be in regard to race, to fashion, to weight, or sex. From my observation that the biggest obstacle to sexual freedom for women were other women. Women are also the biggest opponants to legal prostitution….ask yourself why ?

                  For men (Evolutionarily speaking), the reason for for this shaming is childhood legitimacy. The primary beneficiaries of legitimacy are husbands, who’s resources and provision will go towards raising the child, yet who have no guarantee the child is actually his. evolutionarily speaking Legitimacy is beneficial to women, but successful cuckolding is MORE beneficial to women, because they can get impregnated by who they want and then get another man to raise the kid as his own. This is one reason why promiscuous women are not looked upon as good future wives by men. Past behavior is often indicative of future behavior, and he wants to limit the risk of the woman cuckolding him.

                  • Nope

                    “No one is punishing women in America. They can pretty much do what they want and some do, but the majority don’t.”

                    Now I know you’re just making things up as you go along. Women who are even viewed as sexual promiscuous, not even confirmed but VIEWED, have their names and reputations dragged thru the mud routinely. They are considered bad people and not taken seriously. Kim Kardashian, as much as I hate her, has been involved publicly with 4 guys total, yet her name has been drug into the mud. She is considered a hoe and no one takes her seriously. Teenage girls get shamed to oblivion for engaging in sexual behavior. When it comes to light, they are physical, mentally, and emotionally bullied to the point where we see several stories about them killing themselves because of the resulting ostracizing. So yeah, you’re going to have to do more than lie and pretend what’s real isn’t real to win this argument. Women CLEARLY can’t do whatever they want without punishment when it comes to sex. Certainly not even close to the extent that men can.

                    “For men (Evolutionarily speaking), the reason for for this shaming is childhood legitimacy. The primary beneficiaries of legitimacy are husbands, who’s resources and provision will go towards raising the child, yet who have no guarantee the child is actually his”

                    Ah haaaa. I knew that if we talked long enough and I called you out on your nonsense enough, we’d get to the truth of the matter. And this part is the truth. It is all about paternity. That is, monogamy, and its enforcement on women, is all about offspring paternity. It has absolutely nothing to do with women being biologically wired for it or even more wired for it than men, (as I’ve proved in previous posts that there is no biological evidence for it), it has to do with men ensuring paternity.

                    Otherwise, if it was just about having as much sex and variety as possible as men say they want, men would encourage women to have multiple partners. At the very least they wouldn’t care. I mean why not right? That would obviously equal more sex for them because more women would be uninhibited about expressing themselves sexually unlike how they are now. But men don’t want women to be sexually expressive except with them because it will help them ensure paternity.

                    And that, my friend, is THE ONLY REASON, this is being attached to women. It has nothing to do with biology on women’s part. We are even more built for multiple partners and variety than men are.

              • Wrong

                You act as tho men do not demand for women to be faithful. Obviouly they do. Why else are men only permitted multiple partners. Also, you’ve said nothing to support your theory that women do not want what men want.

                • stewwie

                  Men in the past did demand faithfulness, but not this modern day breeds. That is why you have 59 percent of black women who have more than one child also have multiple babies’ daddies. Also, the STD rate suggests most of this women are not very faithful. Not to mention, the high number of paternity fraud.

                  The reason men were permitted multiple partners in the past were because men provided and protected women. So, a rich guy can provide and protect multiple women. In return he got all the sex he wanted and many children.

                  I have in lengthen elaborated why men and women have different biological imperative, some where down……..look it up.

      • taz

        men and woman are sexual beings who like variety. Simple as that. Who says all woman want is commitment and blah blah blah all the time? Woman like sex too. It maybe hard to believe stewwie but its true.

        • stewwie

          Woman do like sex but not as much as men. Men have a stronger sex drive. Studies also confirmed that, on average, men think about sex more often than women.

          Do men want sex more often and with more partners, compared to women? Statistically, the answer across the board is yes. In the modern age of birth control and social gender equality, that
          notion might not sit well with scores of sexually active women, but the
          host of data nevertheless bears out scientific theory.

          As for commitment…come on now, women are the one who always want to get in to relationship. If it was up to men, there would be no commitment at all.

          • lifeisred

            Well I’m a woman and I don’t think any one man can satisfy all my needs so I need 5 men:

            1 who makes me laugh
            another who can cook
            another who will pamper me with gifts
            another who is honest
            another who is incredible in bed

            But what would people say if I got 5 husbands? Oh my it would be the end of the world, and I come from a muslim background but ain’t got time for this, legally having several partners is just a way of making it acceptable to be a ****

            • stewwie

              5 husbands, you are a freak girl….lol

              It is not about what is right or wrong….it is about who women prefer as a partner and supply and demand. If women didn’t prefers this men they couldn’t get away with it. The men who have a lot of option can get as many as they want. Morality has nothing to do with it, but biology does.

          • Ash

            Well then you may want to alert all the hundreds of dating websites, those of which have a designated section outlining what you are seeking in a partnership; no strings attached, dating, long-term, etc. I suppose you can speak for all those men, you know, since they do not want commitment and all. Another asset offered to us through evolutionary science is an advanced frontal lobe system, enabling us to reason and decide the course of our lives, not to be solely driven by primal urges.

          • Nope

            “Woman do like sex but not as much as men. Men have a stronger sex drive. Studies also confirmed that, on average, men think about sex more often than women.”

            There are no studies that say this. If you’re talking about studies that say men have more testosterone than women, that’s all they are saying and nothing more. In fact its likely women’s drives are probably even stronger than men’s because we are far more sensitive to testosterone so if we had the same amount as men we’d be even hornier than men with the same amount.

            As far as men thinking about sex more than women, again, you’re talking about reporting studies. Men are far more likely to report more sexual behavior and sexual thoughts than women because women are shamed for it in larger society and men are praised for it. So even if men thought about sex once a minute, they’d report thinking about it once every 10 secs just to show how masculine and virile they are. Doesn’t mean its true however.

            “As for commitment…come on now, women are the one who always want to get in to relationship. If it was up to men, there would be no commitment at all.”

            Men introduced the concept of monogamy!! You have no idea what you have been talking about all up and thru this comment section. Just stop it. And obviously there would be commitment, you’ve just spent all your time trying to convince women that’s what we really want because you desire to have women commit to one man but not act on our desires to be with other men.

            If women agreed today right now “okay men you can have sex with multiple women, but so will your girlfriends with other men” they’d ALL reject the idea. You know why I know this for fact? One word: PATERNITY.

            • stewwie

              “There are no studies that say this…..” just Google it (I can’t give you the links here). There is an overwhelming scientific consensus who proves that.

              “Men introduced the concept of monogamy….”

              Only judo-christian men did, for religious and social purpose….even that was less than 2000 years. May I add very unsuccessfully.

              Are you kidding… men would love it if women said okay men you can have sex with multiple women from now on.

              • Nope

                “”There are no studies that say this…..” just Google it (I can’t give you the links here). There is an overwhelming scientific consensus who proves that.”

                No. The studies you are referring to say that men have more testosterone (thought to be the hormone that controls sexual desire most). Unfortunately, what agenda’d researchers bury under this tidbit is that women are FAR FAR FAR more sensitive to testosterone. Meaning, women having less testosterone merely points to the fact that we simply need far less to garner the same effects. A simple fact is that if you put as much testosterone in women as men (even adjusting for height/weight differences) women would express EVEN more desire than men at the same levels.

                But please, I would love for you to attempt to point me to this invisible study that says men have a higher sexual drive than women naturally.

                “men would love it if women said okay men you can have sex with multiple women from now on.”

                Way to conveniently leave out the second part of the sentence in which the men would also have to agree that their girlfriends also had sex with multiple men.

                • stewwie

                  Just Google this and read it before commenting…

                  “Is There a Gender Difference in Strength of Sex Drive? “

                  • Nope

                    I’m already familiar with this article. It is a few researchers analysis of other studies, not a study itself. And it says just like I said it would, that their reasoning behind saying women’s sex drive is lower is because women have less testosterone. A very simpleton way of looking at it in the first place, but nonetheless I’ll address it.

                    You can look up for yourself and see that women are far more sensitive to testosterone than men are, so they need not have as much for the same effect. Its like saying because one person has a larger stomach they experience hunger more strongly. It doesn’t work that way.

                    The biggest thing that they kept trying to lean on was the frequency of which men think about sex, etc. But that is also societally influenced and they kept trying to ignore it/downplay it. First of all men are going to be more likely to report that they are having a lot of sexual thoughts (whether true or not) that’s a given. But also in addition to that in society men are primed for sexual thoughts much more often than women.You can’t compare the amount that you see half naked women in ads, in television, in movies, on billboards, on everything to stimulate men to the amount you see half naked men to stimulate women.

                    Finally, just to get it out of your head that its a biological/nature thing and not a societal/nuture thing, women who report low libido have much more success regaining it thru sexual therapy and not thru hormones. That means its clearly a social thing. Once those women are able to break down mental and emotional barriers they have been taught and experience in sex they reinvigorate their drives to a normal level.

      • lifeisred

        He said that he doesn’t know one woman that can satisfy every man’s needs and that’s how he justifies polygamy. And he said the same for women, no one man can do the same, but that women aren’t built for that. So it’s okay for a man to do whatever and whoever to get all his needs met, but women are supposed to just ******* up and deal with it?

        see give your all to a man and he still isn’t satisfied no one will ever be able to satisfy your every need just like I’m sure he will never be able to satisfy a women’s need that is not what being in a relationship is about it’s about sacrificing for that person because you love them will they always make you happy no but the answer is not just to go stick and lick every single female who want that’s why their are so many kids running around now who don’t have a home people can control themselves they don’t want to work hard in a relationship would rather leave like a coward

        He is deeply rooted in some culture that believes that women are less than men apparently. If you are supposed to just sit home and wait for him to come home from sally and sue house then what kinda marriage is that….none I will ever be in. unless he want to end up dead somewhere.

        no wonder I hear about women marrying their dog and having a friend with benefit on the side men are a mess at least dogs are loyal will be by your side protect you as long as you love them provide food/water you can give that to a man and he will still find a problem and instead of looking at himself as the issue he will turn around and blame you smh

        • stewwie

          He is basically saying men and women have different need when it comes to sex. And he is right….That is why Monogamy is not working for us. It is easy for women to be Monogamous but it is very hard for men to be one.

          The thing is, Monogamy is one of several mating systems observed
          in animals. However, a pair of animals may be socially monogamous but that does not necessarily make them sexually or genetically monogamous. Monogamous marriage in humans is a purely social construct free of any biological predisposition.

      • Benita Marie Hannah

        I’m sure in polygynous relationships the men are not having orgies every night either. I’m not agreeing or disagreeing with polygyny/polygamy/polyandry but to me there is a difference in those relationships and straight up promiscuity. I couldn’t do it but who am I to judge those that do.

    • Steven Tilmon

      He did say women have needs just as men do, 2nd to the last sentence, re-read it.
      There’s a reason men in the so-called Middle East have had ‘harrams’ of women, King David had 700 wives, male lions have ‘prides’ full of lionesses, as well as many countless male animals throughout the history of the world have multiple females to breed with…Akon has a point that can’t be denied or dismissed.
      This article must’ve been written by a woman, or a soft sensitive man, because the part about the turning stomach gives away all the clues.

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