From Essence
Dr. Sherry,
I’ve been a married women for 15 years and two years ago I found out my husband was having an affair. It was hard, but I forgave him. A few days ago I found out he is having a new affair with someone else. We have two children ages 17 and 15. He is a deacon and very active in the church. I need and want to leave. Our children know something is wrong. We hardly talk or even look at each other. He is not a bad man but he just found someone else. I lost my father and my oldest son less than two years ago. Life is too short to not be happy. Any advice you have will be appreciated. Please help!
Dr. Sherry’s response :
I am very sorry about the loss of your father and son. I am sure that must have been emotionally tough for you to deal with two deaths of loved ones in less than two years. Now, before you can fully heal and complete the grieving process, you are facing another death – the end of your marriage. You see, your marriage is on life support and you are struggling with pulling the plug. Because your husband is a deacon and very active in church, this will be even harder for you to do. Unfortunately, church congregations often knowingly or unknowingly put pressure on women to present as the “proverbial” virtuous women regardless of what is really going on at home.
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