9 Fine Men We Were Sad To Find Out Were Gay Or Bisexual
Look. I’m all for people being open and honest and comfortable about their sexuality. Lord knows I’m not a fan of folks thinking it’s acceptable to knowingly parade the streets on the “down low,” endangering themselves and others. But I would be lying if I pretended like some of the men in Hollywood who’ve come out as gay or bisexual over the years didn’t have me shedding a single tear and doing the Florida Evans out here (“Damn, damn, DAMN!”). Of course, the chances of me getting with any of these men before I knew of their actual sexual orientation was slim, but I always had a crush or fascination with them to the point that I felt a little sad. But I am happy for them! For the sake of an interesting slideshow though, here are nine fellas I used to crush on that broke my little heart when I found out they were gay or bisexual.
The White Collar cutie and the dude that thousands of 50 Shades of Grey stans petitioned over to play Christian Grey is very easy on the eyes, right? However, in 2012, after being hush hush about his love life, Bomer accepted an award and publicly acknowledged that he was gay by thanking his partner, Simon Halls, and their children. When speaking on it later, Bomer said he wasn’t hiding anything. He just didn’t want to be defined as the “gay actor.”
“I never really endeavored to hide anything. But there were times I chose not to relegate my history to the back page of a magazine, which to me is sort of akin to putting your biography on a bathroom wall.”
I still adore Frank Ocean’s music, but saying that I was shocked by news that he was bisexual was something of an understatement. After speculation that he might be gay started floating around as critics heard previews of songs from his album Channel Orange, Ocean decided to forgo waiting to share his sexuality via his album’s liner notes, and instead wrote a deep post on his Tumblr about it last July:
“4 summers ago, I met somebody. I was 19 years old. He was too. We spent that summer, and the summer after, together. Every day almost, and on the day we were together, time would glide. Most of the day I’d see him, and his smile. By the time I realized I was in love, it was malignant. It was hopeless.”
The Prison Break actor has always been a cutie in my eyes, but I couldn’t help but notice all the speculation about his sexuality over the years. He was seen hiking around with a man, and before I knew it, he was defending his sexuality in InStyle magazine, saying that he was anything but gay. “I’m not gay, but that rumor can’t be killed.” However, earlier this year he decided to finally come out when he was invited to attend the St. Petersburg International Film Festival in Russia. Poor treatment of gay men and women there bothered him, so he declined the invitation with a formal letter that revealed his orientation:
“As someone who has enjoyed visiting Russia in the past and can also claim a degree of Russian ancestry, it would make me happy to say yes. However, as a gay man, I must decline.”
Keith Hamilton Cobb
The former Young and the Restless and All My Children soap star used to catch the eyes of many women back in the day with his long locs, those eyes, and that body! I still look at pictures and shake my head at the glory of it all. Cobb, now 51, revealed to People magazine that he was gay in 2010. When he did it though, he acted like it was the most obvious thing ever.
“I never denied I was Gay…I mean I’m nearly fifty, never was linked with a woman. The few ‘red carpet’ affairs I attended were set up by the studio; an obvious set up. This can’t be a surprise.”
Several of my co-workers are pretty adamant that they never saw it coming that CNN anchor of Anderson Cooper 360° was gay. Most of us had been too busy staring in his bright baby blues to really notice anything else going on with him. But in 2010, he allowed writer Andrew Sullivan to publish an e-mail Cooper had written, which stated the following:
“I’ve begun to consider whether the unintended outcomes of maintaining my privacy outweigh personal and professional principle. It’s become clear to me that by remaining silent on certain aspects of my personal life for so long, I have given some the mistaken impression that I am trying to hide something—something that makes me uncomfortable, ashamed or even afraid. This is distressing because it is simply not true…The fact is, I’m gay, always have been, always will be, and I couldn’t be any more happy, comfortable with myself, and proud.”
Some might say that after listening to “Livin’ la Vida Loca,” folks should have known about Ricky Martin, but as my Panamanian/Jamaican coworker said, “I guess I was in denial because sometimes Puerto Rican men are just like that.” Well, he was more than just colorful or flamboyant. Ricky Martin is gay, and despite being in a long-term relationship with Mexican TV host Rebecca de Alba up until 2005, he let the world know he was digging strictly the fellas in March 2010 on his website:
“I am proud to say that I am a fortunate homosexual man. I am very blessed to be who I am.”
Okay, so Don Lemon isn’t so popular today, but a few years ago, he was just that really cute and talented news anchor/journalist. You never knew anything about his personal life (though those who worked with him were aware of his dating life), which is customary for most folks delivering the news, but in 2011, after a few years and lots of attention from the ladies at CNN, Lemon revealed in his autobiography that he was gay. When speaking on it to NPR, he was initially worried that his job could be on the line after delivering such personal news:
“My livelihood is on the line. I don’t know if people are going to accept me, if I will have a job. I don’t know how people will feel about this.”
Clearly things have worked out just fine.
So I wouldn’t say that I’ve had a real crush crush on Guillermo Diaz, aka, Huck from Scandal and Guillermo on Weeds (though he is handsome), but he’s such an entertaining actor, that I was just surprised in general to know that he’s been very open about his sexuality for years now. The actor, from Washington Heights in NYC, said his upbringing often forced him to keep his orientation a secret–but it did help with his work as an actor.
“I went to school in the Bronx. I learned to constantly try to cover up the fact that I was gay. That facade of being somebody I’m really not just to protect myself definitely helped with acting.”
The man with the fabulous eyebrows (seriously, they’re mad cute and neat) who has played Spock in the recent reboot of the Star Trek franchise and was a regular face on the last two seasons of American Horror Story came out as gay in 2011. He says that he did so because he realized that there were quite a few suicides happening around the country by teenagers who identified as gay. He told Reuters that being in the public eye, he just didn’t want to hide, but wanted to set a proud example.
“It wasn’t about formality or stopping rumors because I don’t really pay attention to rumors in the first place. It was a very specific move that I made because there was a rash of teen suicides at the time [the victims were gay].”