But Ashanti Had A Gag Order! Nelly And New Boo Show Their Love On Instagram

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October 21, 2013 ‐ By
Source: Instagram

Source: Instagram

Look at what we have here. It’s Missouri rapper, Nelly with his new girlfriend, LaShontae Heckard, (also known as Tae Heckard.) You might recognize her from a few episodes from BET’s “The Game,” as Jazz, Jasmine or Shelia. Earlier this morning Tae posted this adorable picture of she and Nelly canoodling in a photo booth. And she captioned it like this:

Him mad cuz I’m a beast in bowling. #cookienomilk #imlying #ialmostsliddownthelanewiththeball #hehadtosaveme #ibeatblueanddeemarietho

I’m not gon’ lie, they’re cute. But I would be lying if I said I only felt happiness looking at this picture.

Honestly, the first thing that came to mind was, “It’s a shame this new girl gets to publicly express her love when Ashanti had to repeatedly deny the true nature of her relationship with Nelly… for nearly a decade.”

I don’t consider myself an Ashanti fan, but I can’t help feeling sorry for the girl, she was always in the shadows. And then when the two started alluding to the fact that they really were together the whole time, Nelly was talking about how he couldn’t be forced into a marriage. Sigh…

Who knows, it may have been Ashanti’s idea to keep their relationship on the low but all of this looks suspect or at least shady doesn’t it?

Anyway, best of luck to Nelly and Tae.

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  • Alexis

    Dang, Ashanti groomed him for 10 long years just for him to do right by someone else. RING THE ALARM

  • Tru Words&Wisdom

    The honest truth is a man will keep you as his rehearsal chic for as long as you allow him to.Everything with Ashanti was just practice and a way for him to spend time. Sometimes we women allow men to treat us however they want to because we are afraid of losing them. If he really wants to be with you he would do nothing to hinder the relationship or its progress. Now Nelly seems as if he is ready to commit wholly to someone, good for him but wish men would be more forthcoming, TEN years is a lot to take from someones life…smh!

  • guest

    A man will only do what you allow him to do. Women need to have more respect for themselves and stop allowing men to disregard and disrespect them.

  • FromUR2UB

    I remember Nelly when he was with Kelly Rowland, and watching them on a show once, I knew he wasn’t the kind of guy a woman settles down with. When men know they are not good enough for the woman they’re dating, they project their insecurity onto the woman by messing over her. I could tell Rowland was way more in love with him than he was with her. Unfortunatey, he took up a lot more of Ashanti’s time, so it’s going to be tougher for her to get over him, but she should. She should also thank God that she didn’t have any of his crumb-snatchers so that it can be a clean break.

    • divinnalafeme

      When was nelly with Kelly Rowland ???? They never dated she dated his manager which was the inspiration for her new song dirty laundry. What are u talking about I’m going to need you to know that before you comment or create any assumptions on this mans life.

  • Cassandra Pickett

    In my opinion if he played her for a decade, she is better off without him in her life!!! Let Tae or whoever else have him!!!

  • DeepThinker

    I don’t think Ashanti was a secret to Nelly. They were at every public event together. Posted romantic vacation pictures together. They just did not publically discuss their relationship. Sort of like Jay and Beyoncé did during their courtship.

  • divinnalafeme

    I’m glad there are people in this comment section who have since and this an ignorant and biased article bc I have been a nelly fan since I was 11 from every interview to article I have come a cross of his to one thing was common nelly always claimed and talked about ashanti more then she did him they both openly discussed there relationship on his behind the music and in recent interveiws they have both admitted they still talked and will always be friends and neither of them has alluded to any cheating those were lies by the blog that operates and owns this one. They probably mutually agreed the relationship had run its coarse and decided to call it quits. Why you all make nelly out to be the bad guy and ashanti out to be the victim is beyond me. But what kills me is that your wrote this based on your own assumptions knowing that neither of them have given you any confirmation on any of this so please stop spreading lies and fallacies/ bossip disguised as madame noire.

  • Albatross

    From what I read Nelly was always really into Tae Heckard, but she married some football player. Once she got single they reunited. There’s no competing with what’s meant to be. Ashanti is attractive, kid free and successful. She is and will be just fine. It’s not where he is, it’s where he wants to be. I’d prefer my man to follow his heart vs stringing me along.

  • http://arafricaine.blogspot.com/ Arafricaine

    Ashanti was comfortable being his little secret for 10 years,tae obviously doesn’t play that so…

  • 1Val

    The rebound relationship rarely if ever lasts.
    After 10 years with Ashanti, Nelly is supposedly all in with new lady love.
    Nelly went from private to suddenly public with his love life. Could he be attempting to make Ashanti jealous?
    LOL

    • Trisha_B

      Supposedly, him & Tae had dated way back in the day. When his career 1st started out & she was doing videos, before he got w/ Ashanti.

  • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

    Instead of feeling sorry, chicks need to get their self esteem up so they aren’t allowing themselves to be a kept secret for 10 plus years. I know this may come as a surprise but their are literally hundreds of thousands of men, at least, who would have been happy to be publicly booed up with Ashanti and would have been more than happy to marry her. Stop living in scarcity.

    • 1Val

      Preach!!!

    • Honeybee12

      and remember before Nelly, when Ashanti first came on the schene there were rumors about married Irv and Ashanti…she’s always been private and “behind the scene” type of chick , hmph

  • DeepThinker

    Why is it that Ashanti considered the dumped and gilted one? Because she is not being seen with other men? She’s always been private about her personal life. Maybe she is taking time to get to know herself better or just does not want another relationship right now. She was with Nelly all through her twenties. She probably out grew him. Give the girl a break.

  • Trisha_B

    Ashanti is grown & has a mouth. If she wanted to speak on their relationship, she could have. Whenever she was asked about him, she would just laugh. At least Nelly sometimes hinted at something. Ashanti had Murder Inc. come inbetween their relationship. Plus her mother was EVERYWHERE they were at. What grown couple needs a chaperon?! lol

    Nelly & Tae are cute

  • kickash

    honestly the only thing i found interesting about this article was those ridiculously long hashtags…… but I don’t care about any of them i mean im from STL and i love nelly but they are all irrelevant people at this point.

  • bluekissess

    Ummmm I didn’t know people cared enough to care. Do I feel bad for Ashanti? No, she knew what was going on.

  • KIR12

    Older dudes love young, attractive, physically fit women. He’s just doing what he has to do to keep her happy. Ashanti is now a middle age woman. A good looking baller probably is not going to make a commitment to her. She doesn’t excite him he’s got his own. She’s going to have to double down and go for a baller in his 40′s maybe 50′s or an average 9 to 5 guy around her age. See Brandy…..

    • bluekissess

      Smh

      • KIR12

        smh back at yeah

    • Bits

      ummm 33 years old is not middle aged.

      • KIR12

        To the men your checking for it is. You better believe they’re sizing your a$$ up. lol

        • Megan

          You are a g@y bitter troll face it. You think you are fooling folks up here on Madame noire acting like a cheap thirst queen.

          • KIR12

            100% straight h0e. If you don’t like what I’ve said don’t read it. Loud mouth, agressive black bytch. And you think you’re going to get a white husband? B!atch you’re crazier Gucci Mane. Just say no

      • KIR12

        Black women are the only women who don’t consider mid 30′s middle age. You all are walking around 35 years old, t!ts sagging, belly, muffin top, fat in your face, back and neck and can’t figure out why a man with a good job in his 30′s doesn’t want to marry you. It’s because he can now see what you’re going to look like as an old woman. That scares the hell out of men in their 30′s.

        • Megan

          You hate black women so much go take your g@y @zz somewhere else. U talk so much you think I would not call u out. You are not venomous because you just want your opinion heard you are an f–ckng unhappy black g@y man trolling on a black woman site. You better change you named cuz im ripping your lame @zz every time I see you attemping to pretend straight yet let your hateful rainbow show by attacking black women like jealous queen. How dare u?

          • KIR12

            B!atch who in the fawk are you? Sisterblackerthanthou that loves white dyck? Or is it black dyck today? GTFOH Confused saveahoe. I’ll visit whatever site I want. H0e.

        • Aspeb

          I’ll be forty in a year…You should see my eighty plus gmom…

      • dlighted1

        No, 43 is middle aged. You are still a youngin at 33. Seriously what do you really know?

        • Bits

          surely you didn’t mean this comment for me when I clearly stated that 33 is not middle aged.

    • K

      Dude, I’m 33 and that ain’t middle age, so you gonna call people over 45 senior citizens too?

      • .:*whitneyeclectic*:.

        Not for nothing but…if I’m not mistaken people usually start getting their mailboxes inundated with things from AARP once they hit 50. Not many people live to be 100 hardly so, yeah, anything past 25 is kinda considered “middle age”. :/ Not to say that anyone 25 to 49 should start prepping for the old folks home but you aren’t exactly still in the first flush of youth between 25-49 either. That’s just my opinion though….

        • hollyw

          …and you are wrong. As a 20-something, I’ll tell you that “middle-aged” is not called so due to it being literally in the middle, age-wise, but physiologically.

      • KIR12

        To black women you are not middle age. To men most women over 30 are MIDDLE AGE. As I said earlier, if a woman is attractive to average and works out she can delay that label a few years but most black women are average looking and do not (they hate) working out.

        Average to below average looks with average to below body is most definitely considered MIDDLE AGE by men. Face it. Your t!ts are sagging or starting to sag everything you eat goes straight to your face, stomach, neck and back. Yet you think can compete with a 25 year old woman. lmao

        • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

          “Most black women are average looking”

          Well no duh dummy, in order for their to be an average it has to be the norm in more cases than not.

          I mean really do you even think when you type?

          • KIR12

            Some say most black women are ugly. I say average because YOUNG, fit, friendly black women under 30 with good communicationial skills can always make themselves look presentable even if they look like RGIII. lol

            Let’s be honest most black women look closer to Amber Riley or Fantasia than Beyonce or Megan Good. I call Amber Riley and Fantasia average some would use much harsher words. “shrugs”

            • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

              Riiiiiight. Who cares though? You think low of black women . . . . the world is still rotating. Regardless of race all any woman has to do is keep herself in decent shape. A nice hairdo and a friendly smile is all MOST women have to do to get just as much male attention as she wants. You know this right?

              • KIR12

                We’re saying the same thing. The problem in the black community is they’re COMPLAINING about not having a man while they’re walking around overweight, bad weave or wig (lol) attitudinal, baby mama, stuck in her ways and middle age. I have consistently said. Young, average to attractive, fit, friendly, feminine black women don’t have a problem getting a man.

                • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

                  “Young” women want young men. They do not want middled aged men. This is the disconnect we’re having here. You are under some disillusion that young women PREFER to date old men. They don’t I can guarantee you a young man with steady, average income will have waaaaay more dating options than a middle aged man who makes above average income. You need to get this through your head.

          • KIR12

            White men determine what white women are attractive. White women determine what white men are attractive. Black women want to determine what black women are attractive and what black men are attractive.

            Then you all get mad and want to dismiss someone who (accurately) points out why their is a disconnect between black men and black women.

            • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

              Firstly I’m not mad in the least. In my world, in my circle, I know tons of upstanding black men. We have healthy dialogues and most of them are happily dating or married to black women. They like their women in varying shapes, colors, hairstyles, personalities. Secondly, you are not the be all end all on what is deemed attractive. You really aren’t.

              • KIR12

                Black women need to stop trying to tell black women what they should be attracted to. That’s all I’m saying.

                • jmjg

                  And black men who aren’t attracted to black women need to mind their own business and stay out of the black community. We all know that the other communities will not allow you to interject yourselves into it. Your just a lost boy with no home. Now you are mad.

        • heyheynow

          first of all people awesome that black women are the only group that don’t like to workout. In terms of working out we are second behind white women and hispanics and asian american women are last. Nevertheless what are you suggesting that a woman should lock down a man before 30? I don’t understand your point

          • heyheynow

            assume*

          • KIR12

            I can believe the Hispanic but maybe the Asian women don’t have to workout because they have a different diet than black women. As a group Asian woman are already the thinnest and I believe they have the longest life expectancy. Workout means you need to lose weight.

        • Megan

          You no job having teenage gay boy child child with nothing to do but call a 30 year old beautiful women middle aged like a petty baby queen. U must be a 19 years old fat ugly and g@y boy who enjoys trolling Madamenoire like freindless outcast.

          • KIR12

            Straight Dumb B!atch and I have my own business. I said men consider women over 30 who are average looking and average to below avg body ie don’t work out middle age. That is correct. You Loud, aggressive, angry delusional woman who thinks she’s going to marry a white boy. Men look at women differently than women look at themselves, fact.

            Newsflash, white boys might fawk you but they hate women like you.

        • FromUR2UB

          Tch, tch, tch. And yet, you’d trade places with any 50 year old woman just to have your own sagging V and T’s. How you cry into your pillow every night because you don’t.

          • KIR12

            Huh? lol Don’t talk about your V and T’s like that. Yuck

        • Shame on U

          Don’t get it twisted because mens physique changes too now. Y’all develop pop pop guts, your Jewels sag, feet get crusty, pound game is weak cause you get tired easy. I’ll bet your balding pattern started at 25 huh?! Lol. Your mad because your suppose to have hair right now Lmao.

          • Alexis

            Well you know women give men passes for that. Women aren’t as superficial.

          • KIR12

            Men and want have different deal breakers. High on almost every woman’s list is financial stability. High on almost every man list is attraction. Some of you black women want a man that looks better than you. lol

        • Honeybee12

          can you list 3 black famous women that you find attractive and what you said earlier applies to all middle aged women…the goal is to maintain, not attain – for any American women.

          • KIR12

            Tell the truth. You mean non LSLH that I find attractive. lol Ok, Megan Good, Janelle Monroe, Tatyanna Ali, Tika Sumpter

            • t

              what does LSLH mean???

              • KIR12

                Light Skin Long Hair

            • Honeybee12

              CTHU, you are a mess!!

              They’re in hot demand. Light skins can give you hell, hope you ready.

        • Say_No_Go

          you sound like a blubbering fool.

          • KIR12

            You sound single and not understanding why men aren’t responding to you the way they did when you were in your 20′s.

    • DeepThinker

      Ummm. Ms. Heckford is 31 years old. Looks like she only has Ashanti beat by 2 years!

      • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

        LOL! In such a rush to make himself feel better about the rejection he receives from the “middle aged” women in his age range.

        • sha

          Yeah, glad yall shut him – KIR12 up already. Continually commenting like he was saying something and all it took was one sentence to sum all that BS up. Thanks ladies!

          • KIR12

            Wrong. Try again

            • Megan

              Wrong is a man on a Women’s gossip site. So yes she is right. Take serveral seats little kir kitty!

              • KIR12

                Go away white man concubine

        • KIR12

          Rejection from middle age women? lmao Do you realize how many middle age black women are out here? That’s too funny

          • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

            How many want your bitter a** is the question.

            • Megan

              Girl don’t pay this bitter queen no mind.

              • KIR12

                Agressive, loudmouth mammy white man bed warmer. lol

                • t

                  damn, give me a white/latino man anyday….

                • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

                  Wait, you calling her out for dating white guys yet you’re in here talkin about how much you don’t want black women?

                  Some of you dudes are ill in the head. Just ain’t got no sense of pride or self value in ya. It makes me embarrassed for you really.

                  • KIR12

                    I would date a black women just not some overweight, middle age, average looking baby mama wanting to get married.

                    People men and women will always do what’s in their best interest. Dating exclusively black makes no sense to me. Once you get past the emotional sympathy pity argument what really are the actual benefits to a black man and benefits to the life of his future kids to date exclusively and marry black?

                    • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

                      You do realize that black women marry later on average than other races right? FACT only 13% of black women have NEVER married in their life. So where is this chasm of unmarried, fat, ugly black women. It seems way more get married than not. Furthermore studies prove conclusively that those who do marry later in life STAY married a much wider instance than those who get married early.

                      Some facts to chew on.

                      Again you are hypocritical calling her a “white man bed warmer” or whatever derogatory remarks about her dating preferences, yet in the same breath exclaim how “stupid” it would be for you to date only black. Hello! do you suffer from some sort of psychosis?

                    • KIR12

                      I just asked you a Question. What are the benefits to black men dating and marrying exclusively black? The truth is I’ve yet to hear black women articulate a non emotional reason why black men should exclusively date and only marry a black women. Are black women better wives, better mothers, better friends, better lovers, are the kids better off?

                    • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

                      Let’s answer your question with a question, If you are satisfied and comfortable with your decision to open your dating pool why such disdain and utter disgust for black women who do the same? I for one hope you do date non black women exclusively and will therefore relinquish your lingering hatred for black women as a result. I just do not understand the hypocrisy in that regard.

                      I do not get black men who set up all day purposefully visiting websites catering to black women for the sole purpose of arguing with them and wanting them to care or be concerned that you are happy with non-black women. I do not understand that what’s the thought process? What’s up with that?

                    • KIR12

                      Huh, I encourage black women to date inter racially. I don’t hate black women. I hate hoodrats. I also, have a problem with black women complaining that they don’t have a man and the truth is a woman that no black man will marry is a woman that no man of any race will marry. The problem is not black men.

                    • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

                      So why go so hard on Megan? Your vitriol to her just doesn’t jive with what you’re now claiming. Doesn’t make sense. I’m much more inclined that the fact that you went in so hard on her and with such contempt means those are your true thoughts and feelings and this response is nothing more than PC fluff.

                      Anyways we are beating a dead horse here. Your average black woman needs to keep herself in reasonable shape and presentable and she will be approached by marriage minded men. Yes even the “thick” aka fat ones.

                    • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

                      Do you also hate white trash? How about low-life hispanics and Asians? Or is your vitriol saved just for the low-life black women?

                      Seems if you date openly and fairly you ought to spread the hate around don’t you think?

                    • KIR12

                      Why would I care about white trash, hipanics and Asians? Do they care about blacks? I rarely date women without a degree. I care about hoodrats because they destroyed the black community.

                    • KIR12

                      “FACT only 13% of black women have NEVER married in their life.”

                      Link please. And what is the age bracket. Stats can be used to confuse the naive and none critical thinkers.
                      Today 31 percent of African American women by their early forties have never married as compared to only 9 percent of White, 11 percent of Asian, and 12 percent of Latino women in the same age group. Black women have a problem. Those are procreation years when she is most fertile. I’ve seen this black women get married later nonsense. First they include 70 year old women who got married when she was 20. Also, if a higher percent of white women married young it would make sense that black women would past them at some point. Were not talking an infinite number of women. Who cares if a black woman got married at 55. I mean really?

                    • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

                      Are you with familiar with Google? Look it up.

                    • KIR12

                      I’ve never seen it I would greatly appreciate it if you would help. Or does this data not exist

                    • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

                      They won’t let me include the link but Google the News One article titled “70 Percent of Black Women Will Never Marry—Not True.”

                    • KIR12

                      “By age 55 and above, those numbers showed, only 13 percent of black women had never been married.”

                      Just as I thought this study was rebuked as flawed. It included black women 60, 70, 80+ who were married 40, 50+ years ago in their teens and 20′s. For the study to be accurate never married black women over 55 would have to marry at that same rate. It is not going to happen. Do you see the flaw? Now, of course a larger percentage of black women will get married than white women over 55 because the white women are already married.

                      My point that I will keep making is the only way to correct this problem is for young black women to lose weight, be friendly, feminine and get married in their 20′s to a man of ANY RACE. 80% of black women don’t have a degree and the majority of black women over 30 are close to or over 200 lbs. Those black women who got married 40 years ago(our mothers and grandmothers) were small and didn’t gain weight until they were married with kids (go see early so train videos or pictures from student protest marches). So now the majority of today’s over 30 black woman are on welfare (27%) OR, I SAID OR, broke living check to check on a menial skills job, many also with kids. There just isn’t a lot of men looking for that. I’ll say it again show me a black woman that no black man wants to marry and I’ll show you a woman that no man of any race wants to marry.

                    • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

                      Oh so when we say “70% of black women aren’t married” we aren’t talking about ALL black women just the ones from 24-29? Are you ill or something.

                      Its okay eat crow, It might not taste as bad as you think.

                      Like I said before black women get married later in life and by the time they are 55 only 13% have not been married. Chop it up screw it up as much as you want but the fact remains the overwhelming majority of black women will get married eventually.

                      Another fact, 70.1 of black women between 24-29 not married, 73.1% of black men not married by 24-29. I mean should we be having a townhall meeting about what’s wrong with black men? Your arguments are disingenuous sir, you don’t need any doomsday statistics to back up your justification for despising black women.

                    • KIR12

                      No hun. I saw this study it’s flawed. Look at your link. It says By age 55 AND ABOVE……

                      That stupid professor is using marriage rates for black women who got married 30,40 50+ years ago. And, most of them got married in their teens and 20′s.

                    • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

                      I just can’t with you anymore. I can’t you too stuck on stupid. Welp you’ve had enough of my attention. You’ve accomplished your goal quite thoroughly of expressing your disdain for black women.

                      Now run along there are non blacks you can be bigging up.

                    • KIR12

                      Don’t hate the messenger

                    • KIR12

                      Men don’t have a biological clock and the average 40 year old black man who takes care of himself can easily go find a woman in her 20′s to marry. Men and women are not the same. The average 40 year old black woman would be considered very lucky, extremely lucky to find a black man with a decent job in his 40′s who WANTS to marry her let along a black man in his 30′s. We won’t even discuss 20′s.

                    • KIR12

                      I brought her preference for white men up because she’s running around acting like blackqueensheba.

                    • KIR12

                      Today 31 percent of African American women by their early forties have never married as compared to only 9 percent of White, 11 percent of Asian, and 12 percent of Latino women in the same age group. Those are child bearing years! Parenting kids is the most important element of marriage.

                      We have educated professional black women and YOUNG poor uneducated black women embracing this ideology of the devaluing the importance of men (I don’t need a man) in the home. It creates a self fulfilling prophecy. When has anyone ever accomplished something they say they don’t need? You see women do need a man and unfortunately by the time they figure it out it’s often too late for a variety of reasons kids, out of their prime (20′s) options available, age, appearance, baggage, set in their ways, ect. The end result is Black Matriarchy and Black Feminism. Black Matriarchy is “I don’t need no man” (to have a family). Black Feminism is quasi or ghetto feminism. The uneducated poor black women want the rights won by white feminist but refuse to accept the accountability and responsibility that comes with having 100% control of reproduction pre and post pregnancy. They want to have s3x with who they want, when they want. Abort the kids they don’t want and then turn around and blame the black man “he shoulda used a condom” for the OTHER kids she decides to keep!!! End result? A bunch of never married 30&40+ year old black baby mamas who no man wants to marry. 60% of never married black baby mamas have multiple baby daddies.

                    • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

                      In your theory black men have no ownership? Let’s have an honest discourse. Do you believe out of all ethnicities that the number of eligible (meaning desirable for marriage) black men is close to, equal to that of other ethnicities? In my opinion not by far.

                      Lingering self-hate on both side has a lot to do with the dysfunction and disconnect between genders.

                      I for one do not subscribe to the theory that “I don’t need no man to raise deez kids” that’s a fallacy. If he’s a drug addicted convict in and out of jail, of course it would be advisable to NOT have him in the home. But that’s making the best out of a crappy situation. The ideal scenario would be two grounded, intelligent, and stable people making a commitment getting married and agreeing to parent children together in a united household. Any deviation from that is simply trying to overcome dysfunction.

                      I’m fortunate to have reference and perspective I know that not all black men are underachieving never do wells who sit and exalt other women like they are their saviors while denigrating black women. I know black men, good black men, with their heads on straight. They date black women by preference. Black women of quality and make no apologies or excuses for it. Why should they be worried about fat baby momma’s with bad attitudes when they have their choice of quality black women to choose from? I’m one of the lucky ones I suppose.

                    • KIR12

                      24% of non black women married a black man. It’s inevitable that rate will go up to 30 to 35% in 10 years. The fantasy of black men only marrying black women is long gone. The problem is not black men dating and marrying women of other races. The problem is men of other races not dating and marrying black women.

                      Asian and Hispanic men have higher interracial marriage rates than black men. The interracial marriage rates for Hispanic women is 40% for Asian women it’s 50% for black women it’s 9%. There’s your problem right there.

                    • KIR12

                      Correction 24% of BLACK MEN married a non black woman

                    • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

                      Have you ever taken a stats class? 24% of black men did not marry non black women in 2008. Impossible. Do you really think out of the black man population that a full 24% of them got married and to non black women at that?

                      No what you meant to say, is that OF the black men that got married 24% of them got married to non black women in 2008. Which means 76% (the majority) married black women.

                      Imagine that.

                    • KIR12

                      24% of 2010 NEWLY married black men. The important stat NEW it show a trend. In 2008 22% of NEWLY married black men married interracially. It was 9% for black women 2008 & 2010.

                      pewsocialtrends()org/2012/02/16/the-rise-of-intermarriage/
                      “Gender patterns in intermarriage vary widely.
                      About 24% of all black male newlyweds in 2010 married outside their race, compared with just 9% of black female newlyweds.”

                    • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

                      So in other words the majority of black men married black women in 2010 AND in 2008.

                      Great. Seems like 76% and 78% of black men who NEWLY married chose to do so with black women.

                      Stop the presses.

                    • KIR12

                      Right the only problem is it’s increasing yearly, black women is only 9% and not increasing and black women outnumber black men.

                    • KIR12

                      Of course I’ve taken a stat class.

            • KIR12

              I ain’t bitter just telling the truth and plenty if I wanted them. I don’t

          • Megan

            I guess you do since you are on Madame noire queening it up. Little boy go home.

            • KIR12

              You wonder why you can connect to men? It’s ya nast y mouth. Shut it. lol

          • ScriptTease

            I guess we can do like the White Women, and get fake everything from the Rooter to the Tudor to hang on to our youth…. yeah yeah yeah, and some exercising sense Black Women don’t like to work out.

      • Honeybee12

        hahaha GOOD OBSERVATION!!!

    • http://www.yourtango.com/users/cheekee-baby cheekee baby

      If that chick Nelly is with now is really that young, all she’s going to do with her young fertile behind is oops get pregnant and hit them pockets for support. Just what a middled aged baller wants, a small kid and 18 years of support payments. Sounds like a winning strategy . . . . for her. LOL!

      • bluekissess

        Winning…..NOT lol

    • Megan

      Why the f are u here go find your hand or your boyfriend.

      • KIR12

        Go suc on a little pale dyck. That’s probably the only way to shut ya loud, nas ty mouth. Aggressive black wh0re thinks a white boy is going to marry her. B!atch, you are delusional.

    • Megan

      “ A good looking baller probably is not going to make a commitment to her”
      What real man talks like this?
      “Brady”? u are a batty man aren’t you? Seems like your mouth runs alittle too much…hahaha.

      • KIR12

        A lot. lol

        Brandy h0e. She was chasing a bunch of black ballers none of them were going to marry her. She’s an average looking, black baby mama but she has a lot of positives. She doubled down and got a slightly older 9-5 decent black guy who wants to marry her

    • Alexis

      I wonder if you are telling the truth? A lot of men have said that women have to cash in their chips early because a 30-40 year old single man with money and freedom doesn’t want a women his age, no matter how successful and beautiful she is. You’re getting a bunch of dislikes because women don’t want to hear it. But that is DEFINITELY not the first time i’ve heard that

      • Alexis

        I am in no way tryng to offend the women on this site but he definitely has a point, regarding to wealthy older men. And this applies to ALL women, not just black. I’m sure a lot of women will say there are plenty of rich men who’s wives got fat/unattractive over the years. Well of course silly, there’s history and years of love behind that union, he wouldn’t mind what you look like 10 years down the road. But if a wealthy man is 40 and single, and you’re 40 and single, and you have that postpartum body, he will not/doesn’t have to deal with that.

      • KIR12

        Thank you. Middle age black women think these black men want the same things Black women want. ie He’s (mid 30s, decent looking, educated, fun, established, good job…..) that’s her #1 preference. His preference, all things equal is her 25-28 just starting her career, attractive, great shape, friendly, educated (dudes want a good looking wife). Simply he might marry her but she is no longer his #1 preference.

        This is part of the black man black woman disconnect. Black women listened to feminist telling them to wait have fun in your 20′s and then get married. Why in the world would you put off the most important decision you’re going to make in your life after you are no long at your peak/prime and now have less options?

        • Alexis

          Most people will find their spouse while their at University or in their corporate setting, so they’ll always be accessible/within you playing field. But if you’re trying to aim higher, start younger.

        • t

          marrying young doesn’t mean a thing, I got married 21yrs old, divorced & would never ever get married again…

          • KIR12

            I didn’t say it was perfect. I just said it was better, for black women as a group, than all of these millions of 30 and 40+ year old never married black women out here who desperately want to get married and can’t find anyone who wants to marry them. Nothings perfect…..

            21 is young maybe it would have been better for you at 26 or 28? “shrugs”

  • helado31

    Ashanti has already said that she didn’t want anyone to know about their relationship.

  • Chey

    I don’t feel bad for Ashanti. She sat there and played the fool for a decade.

    • Janeen

      I am at work straight lol and my co-workers are looking at me all crazy, all because of your profile pic. Thanks for the laugh today.

      • Meemo

        I didn’t even notice that pic, but thanks for bringing it to my attention. Good laugh!

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