Say What?! Recent Chris Brown Interview Discusses Him Losing His Virginity At 8 & Whether or Not He’s Self-Destructive

October 6, 2013  |  

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Two words: Stop talking.  A recent Chris Brown interview with UK paper The Guardian was posted to their site on Friday and focused on mostly on his life and just a little about his new album, X. The writer, Decca Aitkenhead, didn’t seem anymore into him than he was into her and while reading, you clearly get that impression.

Nonetheless, she asked some questions that have eyebrows raising just a little bit.  Now, we’re just going to give you a few clips but please feel free to read it in its entirety:

Chris talks about losing his virginity at EIGHT years old to a teenaged girl and how they’ve helped his current “skills”:

“It’s different in the country. By that point, we were already kind of like hot to trot, you know what I’m saying? Like, girls, we weren’t afraid to talk to them; I wasn’t afraid. So, at eight, being able to do it, it kind of preps you for the long run, so you can be a beast at it. You can be the best at it.” (…he doesn’t want to say how many women he’s slept with: “But you know how Prince had a lot of girls back in the day? Prince was, like, the guy. I’m just that, today. But most women won’t have any complaints if they’ve been with me. They can’t really complain. It’s all good.”)

When Aitkenhead asked if he ever wishes he’d grown up in private, his response was quite odd:

“Honestly, where I’m from, probably not. I think me being able to travel from the small town I was from, me already having a good IQ, and you know being intelligent, and regular stuff, I just had to learn more and more of the street life, you know, how to maneuver around a room full of wolves.”

I read it a few times and still am not clear on what that means as it relates to the question.

He describes his abuse towards Rihanna as a wake-up call and a sign that he could no longer act like a wild and crazy, wild young guy.  But when Aitkenhead asked if that’s how he felt at the time, he said “no” and followed that with:

“Cos you can talk with all my girls that I did mess with before, and it’s never been a violent history.” Then he switches again: “But at the same time, I learned from it, and it was almost like… I wouldn’t say it happened for a reason, but it was something to trigger my mind to be more of a mature adult. To handle myself in situations, don’t throw tantrums, don’t be a baby about it.”

There’s obviously a lot to take in here and to be honest, the writer of The Guardian article does sound a bit one-sided when she’s not quoting him.

We know how Chris is so if he reads this and hates it, we’ll likely get his side of the story. Or at the very least, we’ll get a rant about how much he hates doing interviews because everyone changes his words.

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  • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

    omgosh will he just shutup already & make good music…stop reminding the world ur stupid.

  • sha

    His poor mom. He has no idea that everything he is doing and saying has got to be breaking her heart. What are people thinking about her and this whole losing his virginity at 8 thing!That was something he did not have to share with the world. I don’t think he has good people around him and hope this train wreck gets on the right track – hate watching a tragedy unfold and really pray for the best for this young man.

  • a

    I know plenty of guys who lost there virginity at 8-9 years old to older girls and even girls there age who pressured them to do it. I think he was saying since started at an early age with older women he has experience. Yes if you live in the country you do need to know the street life. Then finally he was not violent with other woman that one incident with Rhi something triggered that anger to hit her. It was bad but he learned from his experiences. I understood what he was saying. There are plenty of celebrities who give horrible interviews and he is one of those poeple.

  • Clarke

    Chris… You were a victim s*xually abuse. I know as I have been a victim of the exact same circumstance. But to see you make ‘comical light’ out of such a horrifying situation has left me appalled. Now I see why he is mentally unwell.

    I am a 24 year old Black Male and I was s*xually abused by another Male, (the Father of one my ex- closest friends) on numerous occasions, when I was between the ages of 7- 10.

    I went throughout my adolescence/teen years (12 – 17) extremely depressed.

    I went throughout my teen years extremely confused about my sexuality; I always knew I liked Women when I was younger, per say, but I also had a deep sexual attraction towards ‘men’ that wouldn’t disappear and why wouldn’t there be exactly? And not just any type of Male – It was ‘Older/Middle-aged Males’ in particular. After being taken advantage of by a 40+ year old Man in the prime years of my child-development, I became psychologically damaged and, to an extent, still am but I am healing.

    I was bullied severely, both physically and verbally, during Middle & High-School and would often self-mutilate – I still have the scars on my arms, chest and legs of which will forever be a reminder. I had, absolutely, no confidence, self-esteem or self-security. I had no friends or any social relationships at all.

    Through it all, my parents, nor any of my family, knew a thing. For the longest time, they just all considered me to be, and often said that I was a “Strange Black Child” (whatever the f*ck that means) who was socially incapable and challenged. Moreover, my Father was abusive towards my Mother. I felt as if I wasn’t loved by anybody. I had nobody to turn to. The majority of my family, especially my Grandmother, are very religious and I would go to Church but it all felt like a contradiction to me. Why was I being victimized so much? Why God? Why me? At the peak of my nervous breakdown, I had consistent suicidal thoughts for many years and would have succeeded at one point if it wasn’t for my older cousin rescuing me. This moment saved my life.

    I was hospitalized for several months. I was diagnosed with “Major Depressive Disorder & Schizophrenia”. My Mother was distraught at not knowing all of which I had been through. I was placed to see a psychologist/therapist when I was 18 and since then, I have gotten much better. I am currently studying to become a psychologist as I feel that it is my duty to help those in need.

    Chris, it does get better but you to admit that there’s a problem first. It does get better – Thank the Lord, I am living proof.

    • Precious107

      OH MY GOODNESS!!!!!! This is HORROFYING. :'( :'( :'(

      I am in TEARS after reading this. However, I am glad that you are now mentally healthy and able to share your story with the world.

      After reading this, Chris’ statement made me even more furious.
      God Bless you Sweetheart.

    • Kia

      This was absolutely Heart-Breaking to read ‘Clarke’…

      I always knew that experiences of abuse – sexual or physical – can affect a person, mentally and psychologically, but I never knew the extent of it. Wow. Please continue to stay strong.

      Love Kia. X

    • kierah

      I am so sorry you went through this.

    • sabrina

      This literally broke my heart. God bless you, love.

    • MONROE

      I truly do hope that you exposed, or are at least thinking of exposing, the DISGUSTING/PIECE OF SH*T peadophile that has, more or less, damaged your entire well being. If you have already done so, is he in Jail or Dead? I honestly hope the latter but I cant wish death upon anybody

      What happened to you is inhumane and nobody should ever have to experience such a life at such a young life. (Although, of course, many do)

      I am so sorry for you sweetheart. You completely had your teenage years stripped from you but I am so happy that you are actually alive and well to tell your story and inspire others.

      You are loved.

      Monroe. X

    • Miss D

      My heart is so heavy reading this, Clarke. Thank you for sharing your story. I wish you the very best and I applaud you for taking your experience to help others. *hugs*

  • minerva

    chris, have you ever heard , “TMI “? you state that you’re intelligent ; prove it and SHUT UP –
    just HUSH !! the ONLY time you should open your mouth is when you’re singing……..

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  • Moni

    We really need to discuss sex amongst young black men. I’m starting to see this is pretty common our community. I thought it kind of atypical when my cousins told me about their experiences, but as I got older I heard more and more stories like this from other black men

  • Ky

    No wonder why these men act the way they do. So many of them are hypersexualized from a young age and we act like it’s the norm.

  • SomeRandomCitizen

    Good for you Chris Brown! Thank you for being open with your experience
    as a rape victim, and discussing the hyper – sexualizition you feel you
    must keep up even now.

    I hope more men are able to come
    forward as you have to shine a light on the long-term damage and
    effects of rape, especially in childhood.

    • Mama Saba

      Highly doubt this was his intention but I am also aware this may be a sarcastic message to him in which case it will be totally lost. I mean dude is bragging about being good in bed. No complaints from women and all that nonsense. This man had his childhood taken away. Time we all accept when we are dealing with CB we are dealing with a lost child.

  • kierah

    Not only has he failed to realize that he was abused, but he believes this is something to brag about. Brown’s need to keep him from the media. He has no idea what to say.

  • FromUR2UB

    Yeah, he’s self-destructive. He used to be such a handsome young man. Look at him now, tatted everywhere. He also doesn’t look well in that picture, like he has lost some weight, but not in a good way. He may be unaware that the 8-year-old sexual experience might have something to do with all this.

    • maradebe

      He’s stuck in his teen-age, which is a time of great emotional changes for all teens. Because of sexual abuse, + physical and emotional abandonment by his father, he has had a hard time. Not so much different from teens who mask their emotional pain by cutting themselves – slicing their thighs and hands with sharp instruments. It has to be the same phenomenon, except he used sexual escape. Celebrity status has only served to aggrandize him. In a way it’s a good thing he’s shining the light on what might be “the elephant in the room.” Perhaps now he’ll be truly vulnerable, and look within his soul for the real Chris. There is hope.

  • Tonyoardee

    Its really not that out of the ordinary i remember being 9 and doing similair things

    • bluekissess

      Huh? Are you serious? Why do you think it is not out of the ordinary?

      • Tonyoardee

        What year were you born, its not just teachers on the news that are having sex with young boys

        • bluekissess

          I don’t think I mentioned anything about teachers. “its really not that out of the ordinary i remember being 9 and doing similair thing.” What I got out of your comment is that it’s normal and that it shouldn’t be a problem? If that’s not what you meant you might want to re word what you said

  • me

    This should start an interesting dialogue about the fact that women do in fact abuse boys. This is never talked about. I remember reading an old article years ago about Frankie Lymon, and in it he said when he was like 10 he was messing around with hookers in NYC. That’s crazy.

    • bluekissess

      Wow! That’s sickening

  • Jayda Brown

    This is disturbing even for him, he needs help and fast.

  • Mia

    The boy obviously has emotional problems because of this and should have gotten therapy years ago. Instead, he’s decided to deal with it through drugs, violence and promiscuity. He seems to have sexual identification issues as well. Or in other words, he’s a mess. Also, covering up serious pedophilia and sexual molestation with the “boys will be boys” argument is alarming. It’s sad to see that he’s in a state of denial about what he went through, victims of rape sometimes do this. He needs serious help, not more stage time.

  • bluekissess

    Wouldn’t that be considered molestation or s*xual abuse? He was violated as a child and he confuses that with losing his virginity? He needs therapy. The more he talks the more anti Chris Brown I become. His PR team is horrible.

    • JustAshley

      Yes. Dude doesn’t even know he was a victim of sexual abuse. This is the TYPICAL story I’ve heard before. Every guy I know- except for my brothers cause I have no clue about them….and don’t want to know…. but every male friend, every ex boyfriend…..etc all told me how they lost their virginity at a crazy young age to an older woman.
      And then women wonder why men seem so emotionally and spiritually handicapped. I feel bad for him. SMH

      • FromUR2UB

        Every male I’ve talked to said they either lost their virginity to an older woman when they were underage, or had been involved with much older women when they were in their early 20s. There are some treacherous chicks out there. All old folks do is pass off their baggage to some unwitting young person. It reminds me of those things that sustain themselves by breathing the life from young victims.

      • oromufinella

        my best friend’s step-sister makes $62 hourly on the computer…..­ ­

        • bluekissess

          Have a seat nobody is buying what your selling

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