From Essence
Dear Abiola,
I met a man that is so awesome to me. It’s hard to put into words how fantastic our relationship is. We have such amazing chemistry and I do not want that to ever go away.
Let me just say, the sex is good and has always been fun. We talk and laugh during sex which I think helps me get in the grove a lot better. Even though I have some serious insecurity issues due to my physique, he makes me feel special in moments of intimacy that allows me to be open.
Problem? I am plus size and he is average (both is height and in “manhood”). He can handle me pretty well given our height differences but when we are intimate we typically stick to just missionary. However, I want to try something else to spice up our love life. He is totally OK with being on top but I fear that one day, he will get bored of our love life and want something more.
We’ve tried a few new positions but due to my size in weight, it was rather difficult. I am finding that with missionary, I do not always have an and sometimes it takes us having sex multiple times in one night before I get off.
What are some positions or intimate moments you can suggest for women who are a bit larger that allows us both to enjoy sex?
Thanks in advance!
Wondering in Wisconsin
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