Understanding Why You’re Beautiful, Yet Still Single

September 30, 2013  |  

 

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From YourTango

I met this beautiful co-host of a radio show last night, and after I introduced myself, she admitted that she was single and wanted some advice. I had originally complimented her on the poise, professionalism and focus that she displayed during a very wild and crazy show. Although the show was crazy, she was the glue that kept it all together.  I could clearly see that she had a wonderful spirit, so what’s the problem? Why was she still single?

At that moment, the best advice I could give her, and that I give now to you ladies reading this, was to continue to invest in yourself, to be the best person you can be and not to always look for the man that society tells you that you are supposed to have–e.g., “I am looking for a man 6 feet 5 inches tall, 230 pounds, with black hair–and he must play for the Lakers.” Instead, be alert for the man who will work the hardest for you. Look for the man who knows how to run your bathwater, and who is conscious enough to add the necessary salt and minerals to baby your beautiful skin: “Honey, your bath water is ready and the temperature is 82.5 degrees Fahrenheit.”

I believe Ms. Radio Show Host partially understood my words of wisdom, but later, when I asked for her contact information, she stalled, and after a moment asked very politely why I wanted her contact information. She only gives it out for business; otherwise, she would have thousands of phone calls. Her hesitation made me pause and think for a moment. What had been a natural flow of events when networking now had me thinking, Why do I really need her number? On a deeper level, her hesitation is the main reason she is single, beautiful and sitting at home by herself without the love she desires. Her reasoning behind the question was, How do I know that he will not be blowing up my phone? I thought for a second and then responded that the only way I would ever, and more than likely not, blow up her phone would be if she were an extremely nice lady and there was a mutual exchange of energy. Meaning, I am not the type to keep calling a woman who does not want to be bothered. She assured me that she is very nice, and after a moment, I disclaimed that I did not think I would need her contact information at the moment because there did not appear to be any immediate business that needed her attention.

Okay, now let’s go below the surface. Here is the deeper meaning of what God explained to me hours later about why this beautiful woman, and so many like her, are still single. Matthew 13:14-16, in the 1970s Catholic edition of “The Way: The Living Bible,” says, “They hear, but don’t understand; they look, but don’t see!”  Although I was standing right in front of her, she was as blind as a bat, and although I was speaking directly to her she was deaf and mute. When you only let the worries of this world influence you, which God advises against in Romans 12:2, it blinds your ability to see the real and living substance in the spiritual world and within yourself. Essentially, although she could physically see, she could only see the temporal things of this world. True love, which comes from within, is only recognizable when your spiritual eyes and ears are open. She could physically hear and see, but in actuality she could hear and see very little.

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