Money is sensitive subject. And we all know how love makes us act. So what happens when you blend the two. We asked our readers at what point in a relationship would they consider loaning your partner money. We got some really interesting responses. See what they had to say.
Silky: I’m too compassionate so I can’t really say…smh
Bianca: After the wedding
Samantha: …When all the money is shared.
Erica: After marriage and that would be because we will keep our finances separate. And yes, a promissory note must be signed and notarized.
Ameenya: I’m married and we don’t loan each other money because the money is both ours it doesn’t matter who’s pocket it’s coming out of.
Yolanda: Never. I have a real complex about loaning people money, especially if they don’t use it for what they asked for it for; doesn’t matter if they’re blood or if we’re in a relationship…it would have to be an EXTREME situation.
Sabrina: Maybe after he loaned me some of his money! Lol
Kimmy: Heed the warning, never loan a dude money. Swipe his metro card for the train tho.
She’Ron: Y’all putting all these standards on whether y’all would, should, or could loan the money…but if these are the standards y’all use to determine this…isn’t that the standard you should use to determine whether they are “relationship worthy” and if not, why be in a relationship with them?
Camille: Never he’s a man and needs to figure it out! Women do it everyday…
Yomaira: Lol what? After marriage?! Yall all sounding single as heck. What kind of relationships ya’ll in that you don’t trust your partner to loan them money?!
Ella: When I realize he’s good with money and will not make it a habit. I don’t deal with humans who borrow.
Sandra: Gotta be able judge their character. For example, do they pay their bills on time, have a savings account, etc.
Sincerely: grrr… even in marriage I want to keep my finances separate.. it’ll be an ours, then a his and mines thing. LBKS (Laughing but kinda serious?) I think if your partner is good/responsible enough to mate with and is a mate of their word in other parts of life, it’s no problem loaning money.
Tea: My bf lent me money after 3 months for a family emergency and I was able to pay him back after a month. We are very close and have each others back. So I say only lend money if its important.
Nicole: Never. I’d give it before I loan it.
Vicki: Never…I can give you $20 though…lol
Shelly: After he dead in a coffin or crypt or urn.
Latia: Um . . .what part of the game is that? When you are in a serious relationship no money needs to be borrowed because you have each other’s backs.
Kenya: In the month of Neveruary!
Sonia: I would loan the love of my life money if I had it and he needed it. It’s about the type of person they are. If they are untrustworthy, unreliable, irresponsible then no, but if they are responsible are in need then yes. The time frame depends on how long it takes to prove they are those things.