My wife has been having an affair for the last four years. She has been caught several times, and after each one there would be some outward sign of change—grueling two-hour sessions twice a month with a counselor, individual counseling with two additional counselors, attending weekly Bible study, informing family members, tears, promises and all of that. The impact on our three kids plays a huge role in me coming back each time.
Well, I’ve reached my limit with the latest incident. I discovered that her lover is married to someone I knew and liked a lot in high school, and I am still friends with her on Facebook today. Should I tell her about what her husband has been doing for the last four years? My primary concern is that if she found out that I knew and said nothing, I would be guilty of not doing the right thing.
I do question my motives for wanting to tell her, but at the same time, I am a strong believer in beating someone to the punch. It’s always better to tell someone before rather than after the fact.
Anonymous Husband In Need
Read Dr.Sherry’s response at Essence.com