My Wife Is A Serial Cheater! What Should I Do?

September 24, 2013  |  

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From Essence 

Dr. Sherry,

My wife has been having an affair for the last four years. She has been caught several times, and after each one there would be some outward sign of change—grueling two-hour sessions twice a month with a counselor, individual counseling with two additional counselors, attending weekly Bible study, informing family members, tears, promises and all of that. The impact on our three kids plays a huge role in me coming back each time.

Well, I’ve reached my limit with the latest incident. I discovered that her lover is married to someone I knew and liked a lot in high school, and I am still friends with her on Facebook today. Should I tell her about what her husband has been doing for the last four years? My primary concern is that if she found out that I knew and said nothing, I would be guilty of not doing the right thing.

I do question my motives for wanting to tell her, but at the same time, I am a strong believer in beating someone to the punch. It’s always better to tell someone before rather than after the fact.

Anonymous Husband In Need

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  • Chas

    Tell your friend for her health’s sake!!!

  • She don’t want to be married to you!

  • Sheena B

    GO TO THE NEAREST DOCTOR AND TESTED ASAP. Then, file for a divorce, get custody of the children, seek individual counseling for the stress and trust issues you most likely will gain, find a hobby, and move on.

    • Ben

      Good advice! I would add that he should invest in himself too, new clothes, gym membership/personal trainer. When stuck in a difficult relationship its very easy to neglect yourself and allow your self esteem and personal care to fall.

  • L-Boogie

    Dump that hoe!