On Behalf Of True Christians: We’re Not Here To Judge, And Trust – We Don’t Want To
In the wake of so many crazy “Christian” outbursts toward any number of political/pop culture events, so many people misconstrue extreme/radical/unfounded/hateful bias for true Christian values. That is a serious problem.
For example, actress Meagan Good’s BET Awards dress is STILL garnering attention both from those who feel strongly opposed to her choice of attire and from those who could care less. As comments have poured in about her lifestyle in general, I saw comments from “Christians” that were downright mean and hurtful. I also saw ignorant comments from “anti-Christians” who generalize that ALL Christians are judgmental bigots.
While I have personal feelings on any number of public issues, as a Christian, it’s a little disheartening to see only the extremists get shine and not those of us who firmly believe what we believe without being hypercritical and condemnatory. It seems the world points the finger at Christians telling us not to judge, but then judge us based on what a few psychos/self-righteous “pseudo-saints” say or do.
Why do condemnatory, hateful church groups like the Westboro Baptist Church get SO much airtime but smaller churches that are going into the community to counsel the drug addicted, aid the homeless in finding shelter, or helping provide money and food to those in need not highlighted?
Anyone can throw out a scripture to back up their hurtful comments to another person – that does not make them right and it surely does not make them a Christian.
The definition of a Christian is simply, “a follower of Christ.” That’s it. Anyone who studies Jesus Christ’s time on this earth, whether they follow His teachings or not, can come away with the understanding that His main message was one of love. He walked the earth teaching with His lifestyle, performing miracles, lending a helping hand to those in need and freeing others with the message of forgiveness. He stood for what He believed in without being cruel or callous. He did not call people outside of their names or try to cancel out their progress in life by bringing up their past.
When we look at the types of people who are commenting so vehemently and negatively about “moral” issues, it seems so easy to lump everyone who claims Christianity together. I would argue that we should look at the manner in which we present our opinions and that always leads us to the truth of who we are. If it does not align with the true tenets of what we’re professing, then somebody is lying. Disrespect is not a Christian attribute because Christ was not disrespectful. Having a “holier-than-thou” attitude is not a Christian attribute because Jesus sat and ate with rank sinners, never asserting Himself as better than they, only offering a solution to the state they were in.
Society looks at religion – especially Christianity – through such a binary lens based on what a few “so-called Christians” say or do. It seems that the general consensus is if you’re Christian, you’re judgmental. If we are not to judge others, why do others so harshly and stereotypically judge ALL Christians to be alike? The lines have been blurred between what is considered judgment and upholding a set standard. A perfect example: I decided to stop drinking because that’s where my walk with God was leading me. One of my girlfriends stopped speaking to me. She asserted that I was acting as if I was better than the rest of my girlfriends because I declined alcohol whenever we went out. Huh? How does that even work?
As a Christian woman, I am checking myself daily, monitoring the things I think and say about and to others. Do I fall short and have to backtrack to right some wrongs? Absolutely. We’re all human. But at the end of the day, you’ll know a true Christian by their lifestyle. I can only speak for myself and those who really are trying to live like Christ – I/we have no interest in tearing someone else down for their life choices. I have my views on any number of issues just like every other human being walking this earth and I’m free to voice my opinion as openly and honestly as anyone. I do not condone disrespect or hate, but I am absolutely for walking in your convictions as a Christian just as any liberal, feminist, animal rights advocate, Buddhist, or any other member of a purpose-founded group is able to do.
And just like any of the aforementioned groups, some of my beliefs may not be agreeable to all, but they are indeed, my own. Judgment is not my job and you have no idea how thankful I am that it’s not!
La Truly’s writing is powered by a lifetime of anecdotal proof that awkward can transform to awesome and fear can cast its crown before courage. La seeks to encourage thought, discussion and change among young women through her writing. Check her out on Twitter: @AshleyLaTruly.