From Single Black Male
A few days ago, I was talking to a guy who was explaining to me this dilemma he’s having. He said that there’s a woman he sees from time to time who isn’t his girlfriend. He hasn’t been in a serious relationship with this other woman, but he has a great sexual chemistry with her and they get along well. Physically, this woman is very appealing to him.
Conversely, this man’s current woman is very good to him but he has some hang ups about her. One of his hang ups is that he isn’t as physically attracted to her as he would like. This woman, however, is a sweetie. He’s afraid to leave her because of the self-esteem damage it may do to her. So he stays. He’s out with this outside woman one day and asks himself “why am I not with her?” He went on to tell me that many times we settle for the prototype of what we want in a person.
Protoype – 1.The original or model on which something is based or formed. 2. Someone or something that serves to illustrate the typical qualities of a class; model.
What this tells me is that prototypes can be pretty general and pretty vague. In reference to automobiles, prototypes are always tinkered with after their initial release. We may have a general idea of what we want. As a matter of fact, most of us have a lot of things in common as it pertains to what we look for in someone. But at the same time, we’re not all into each other. We make tweaks of our own when it comes to prototypes through break-ups and self-improvement.
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