How Do You Define Marriage Material? 15 Ways To Fit The Bill

October 1, 2013  |  
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There are many different definitions of “marriage material” and there doesn’t have to be anything old school about it. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be a good catch, especially when you want a man to be one.

If you’re looking for a man with a good job, great listening skills, and a beautiful body, it doesn’t hurt to make sure you fit some of those requirements yourself. What do you think it takes to make a woman marriage material? And should she care if she fits the bill?

Marriage Material

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Dress the Part

We shouldn’t judge a book by its cover, but we all do. If you stumble across the right business executive and you’re wearing a spandex shirt, chances are the relationship won’t make it down the aisle. First impressions stick and he may peg you as jump off material from…jump. Dress everyday like the man you want to meet and you’re more likely to find him.

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Be a Bread Winner

You’re looking for a man with a certain number of zeros on his check, right? Now set a similar goal for yourself. Go back to school, position yourself for a promotion or whatever you need to do to get the wheels in motion. The next time you meet a man that satisfies your financial requirements, he’ll see you as an asset not a liability.

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Improve Your Cooking Game

It’s old school advice, but it still applies. Think about it: when you meet a man who can throw down in the kitchen, he seems that much more attractive. And if you want to find and keep the man of your dreams, a little kitchen know-how never hurt.

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Shut Down the Marriage Talk

At least for now. A man who’s marriage material has met a lot of thirsty women. Announce “I want to be married and pregnant by 2016” before the entree and you won’t make it to dessert.

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Hit The Gym

It sounds like superficial advice — but most of us are at least a little superficial. If you want a man who looks good on your arm, what’s wrong with making sure you’re eye candy? Plus, when you have a body you love, you’ll have the confidence to pursue the man (or job or opportunity) you feel you deserve.

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Take Up a Hobby

Preferably one that will put you in touch with the kind of man you want to meet. Try a few rounds of golf, a wine tasting course, or a book club. While you wait for mister right, you’ll broaden your social circle and have more to talk about on your next date than the last season of “Scandal”.

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Invest In Your Existing Relationships

Marriage is just one type of long-term relationships. Work on building and growing your personal relationships. When you find the right partner, you’ll have strengthened the tools you need to keep your relationship strong.

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Focus On The Positive

You have a lot of good things going for you. Focus on them. People are attracted to positivity. And if you feel like you’re good enough to deserve the best, it will come knocking.

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Get That Chip Off Your Shoulder

We’ve all been dealt a hand that’s missing a few cards. But if you carry negative energy, you’re going to attract it to you. Read a self help book, invest in some therapy or you’ll be wondering why you can’t meet a nice man for the rest of your life.

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Work On Your Communication Skills

You want a man who’s open and honest about his wants and needs, so you’ve got to follow suit. Couples who can communicate have the best chance of surviving life beyond the aisle.

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Slow It Down

If you met a man who hit the club three times a week, you wouldn’t want to wife him either.

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Improve Your Babysitting Game

When you have kids, your partner’s kid-compatibility is at the top of your checklist. If he can’t see you as a good mother, he’ll never see you as his future wife — unless he doesn’t want kids.

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Get Adventurous in Bed

When you meet a man who can handle his business, you think harder about wifing him. And the opposite is certainly true. It doesn’t hurt to pick up a few pointers and dust off your bedroom game.

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Be A Good Listener

If you want a man to listen to your problems, you’ve got to return the favor.

Fairweather

Stop Focusing on the Ring

When you work on being happy with you, you feel less like you need a marriage to make you happy. And nine times out of ten that’s when you stumble upon the right man.

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  • Educated Negro

    I’m am SO SICK and tired of articles that constantly stress how women, specifically “black women”, need to do to get and keep a man. Why don’t you post more articles about men being fathers, husband material, committed and trustworthy. Women have to constantly bend over backwards to get a piece of a man regardless of his occupation and self worth. This is old news! Why don’t you right more articles about brothers and sisters building better friendships and going with the flow. Why does it have to be so many games and rules to this. Most men dont truly want an independant woman but you tell them to match his worth, if you want to have a wealthy man and etc. #ridiculous

  • Ouch*Dee*Thats*Bottom!

    in 2013? No such woman exists.

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  • CrossWinds

    Before you commit, are they a Gentlemen, thoughtful, Godly, Church going, faithful, treat their own parents well, faithful in their work ethic, high standards, social, willing to learn, humble, love children, likes doing things together, does not resent you spending some time with a friend or a personal interest, not overly possessive or jealous, encouraging, gets along with others, patient, and giving, communicative, and fun……….
    ………Remember, look under the hood first and check the engine, before you buy the car……..

    • Cool Breeze

      The article is about women being mArriage material not men. Stick to the subject.

      • CrossWinds

        Same principals apply for woman…..

        • Cool Breeze

          A woman can’t be a gentleman.

          • CrossWinds

            Ok…….exchange that one for Virtuous Woman (:

      • Bahamas242

        Cool Breeze u every where.lol.

        • hah

          eww i know.

        • Mia

          … Except he ll where he belongs.

    • miszmannaz

      It’s true there is no point in you following all these steps to end up with a loser – who is a liability to you and is undeserving of your love. The right partner also has to have some of the qualities mentioned above.

      • CrossWinds

        Absolutely miszmannaz……by the way, just as a side note, this evening my wife and I went to see the movie, THE BUTLER, staring Oprah Winfry…..It was excellent, I highly recommend it……a touching story during the civil rights era…..God Bless……

  • Been

    Good post. However, leave room for growth as people grow and learn new things (some good) about each other everyday. This is coming from a married woman