Men Can Like Trans Women And Choose Their Own Sexual Identity
Is he or isn’t he? That’s the lingering question about DJ Mister Cee’s sexuality. A question I’d answered myself before his PSA where he opened up about his sexuality. I originally concluded, “he’s gay” before re-thinking the complexity of his sexual orientation, and the sexuality and gender of his sexual encounters. Mister Cee’s recent media attention should open up discussion about accurately and respectfully talking about sexuality instead of prompting us to quickly (or incorrectly) label and shame. We should be talking about the politically-correct language and identities to use for trans women who ARE women and the men interested in them. Ultimately, men who look like women vs. transsexuals can differentiate how men — like Mister Cee — identify their sexuality.
We’re human and we tend to lump each other into sexual categories (like we do race, class and everything else). I jumped to the conclusion that Mister Cee’s gay before he official identified as LGBT because of my distaste for gay men in denial who put on straight personas and then, have sex with other men on the low. In the process, these men hurt the women and families who love them by not being honest about who they are. It’s hard coming out especially as men of color. I know, I’ve been there, and I’ve written about both the unfair down-low stigma and coming out as a young black man. But it absolutely should be done — being honest about who you are to yourself first and foremost.
Nevertheless after forcefully coming out to the world, there’s more complexity to Mister Cee’s story and men with stories like his. He said he’s had oral sex with men who look like women, but wait… do they identify as trans women? Before recently, he could have been questioning his sexuality. Also, he claims to be attracted to women. And claimed not to be gay before his PSA identifying him as LGBT. There’s no official word if all of his sexual encounters identify as men who look like women or cross-dressing drag queens who are usually gay men. Therefore, he could identify as bisexual or gay, but he could simply be a man who’s also attracted to trans women or trans people born male transitioning into their womanhood. And I ask, what the hell is wrong with that…besides the fact, he’s married with kids? There should’ve been a point earlier in his life when he could have been honest with himself. He acknowledged in Hip-Hop culture (and in the black community) in which he’s immersed, being LGBT is not cool, and there’s a fear to come out.
All of this adds another level of complexity. Gay men in drag are completely different from trans women. Bimbo Winehouse, who recently exposed Mister Cee, was technically dressed as a woman, but there’s no official word if he identifies as a trans woman. Then again, Winehouse identified as cross-dressing drag queen in his video.
Let’s review Mister Cee’s history with soliciting sex. In an interview with Hot 97 earlier this year, Mister Cee said, “Yes, I do like prostitutes. I have engaged a lot with prostitutes in my life many times. Same with strippers. I’ve tricked on them many times… I don’t have an addiction to prostitutes. I have an addiction to instant gratification. I need help. I been dealing with it and trying to deal with it for the last 10-12 years.” He was arrested in May for allegedly soliciting a male prostitute in Brooklyn’s Bushwick neighborhood. This after he pleaded guilty to a prostitution offense in 2011.
But once again, Mister Cee prostitution scandals weren’t over. Recently, he was exposed by Winehouse in a video that shows Winehouse dressed as a woman and Mister Cee driving around and negotiating a price. Winehouse has been called everything ranging from cross-dresser, drag queen, gay man, transsexual and trans woman. And although Winehouse is identified as a drag queen in the video, we should be careful about how we talk about sexuality and gender. It’s time to properly define these different identifies and highlight we’re not sure which identity Mister Cee specifically falls under just yet and which categories all of his sexual encounters fall in.