First J. Cole made a statement that President Obama’s complexion is what got him into the White House, then a friend of mine matter-of-factly informed me that, “All light-skinned men are conceited…and every basic black woman’s dream.” And even though such statements aren’t meant to be malicious, I must say the meme’s that go, “Light-skinned dudes be like…” kind of bothers me on some level.
It’s no secret that as a race we haven’t overcome our issues with a light-skin vs. dark-skin mentality, but there are some stereotypes that are just plain not true. All they do is reiterate our own insecurities. I’ve dated enough black men, of different complexions and backgrounds, to reassure you that both jerks and gentlemen alike come in all different colors.
If you are still limiting your choice of men with these common stereotypes, I need you to Netflix Spike Lee’s School Daze, WAKE UP! and then join us in 2013.