Been There, Done That: Jill Scott Says She’s “Not Pressed” To Get A Man

September 16, 2013  |  

Source: WENN

You can tell from Jill Scott’s songs that when this Philly lady loves, she loves hard and we always sort of get the feeling that Miss Scott loves the idea of love. But when we chatted up the Grammy Award-winning artist at the press junket for her upcoming flick, “Baggage Claim,” she said don’t get it twisted when it comes to her sensual songs — she is hardly pressed for a man.

When we asked whether Jill she had any similarities with “Baggage Claim’s” main character, Montana, who is dying to make it down the aisle, Jill said she is quite the opposite:

“I’m not pressed for romance or love,” she told us. Love, yes. But I’m not pressed to be in a relationship with anybody. If it happens, it happens, but I’m not on a man hunt.

“Eventually, would I like to get married? I don’t know. I did that. I’ve been there and I married my best friend so if I were going to do that again I’d have to be swept – and well.”

Shoot, if you’re going to do it the first time you need to be swept — and well — but we definitely understand where Jill is coming from. No one wants to make the same mistake twice, especially when you thought the first time around was right.

Since we were on the topic of alleged mistakes, we couldn’t resist to ask Jill what’s the craziest thing she’s ever done for love and here’s what she said:

“Getting on a plane impromptu – literally just going to the airport, not knowing if there’s a flight or not – and getting on a flight and flying for six hours to apologize.”

She must’ve done something really wrong…

Check out the full second part of our interview with Jill in the video below. What do you think about what she said?


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  • Hope Floats

    Why oh why are we black women the first ones to shoot to the world how we don’t need a man when we are the number ONE producers of illegitimate children in the country?? Of we claim we don’t need men so much, where are all these children coming from?

    • Hope Floats


  • Jessica

    Yeah Jill Scott needs a break honestly she has done what most women want to do which is get married, have kids and have a successful career. I don’t think anyone who has just been divorced needs to be out on the prowl. She needs time to heal, enjoy her life and be happen. So when the time comes she can be ready and eager. Freshly divorced people take dating alot differently.

  • Five5withbrowneyes

    Jill Scott needs to keep losing weight and men will find her.

    • Jessica

      Trust me men have I heard some guys taking about how attractive she is at work. You are not a man so your statement is pointless.

      • Dominique Thompson

        I hear men talking about how attractive she is all the time! These ppl are delusional.

  • angelia moore

    I see absolutely nothing wrong with what Ms. Scottt said or how she said it. She’s been married and it didn’t work out, now she has a son that she’s raising and that takes precedence over hunting for a man. I myself am single, but by choice. That doesn’t mean that I don’t enjoy male companionship, but I’m 48, been married and divorced, my kids are grown and at this point in my life I’m not pressed either for a man to define me or make me whole.

    • chaka1

      I’m the opposite. I spend my youth single and not wanting to be held down. Now I’m in my 40’s with two children and husband. I wish I would have been able to do this sooner. There were plenty of good men I could have made a life with but I was too stubborn and scared. I am blessed that I learned how to balance my life. If something happened to my husband, I would definitely want another relationship.

  • Yvette Hernandez

    Clearly these are mainly posts from young and/or insecure women. She didn’t say she doesn’t want a man..just that she isn’t hunting for one. Plenty of overweight women have men and plenty of skinny women are in unhealthy relationships where there’s abuse, disrespect, cheating, etc. Sadly, some women have nothing else to talk about except their men so they can’t see how anyone can be happy without one. Hopefully, women get past their stereotypical views and realize their value system isn’t everyone’s value system and they should just be happy for anyone who is happy. Great minds talk about ideas…small minds talk about people.

    • Pam

      Thank you! Well said!

    • Yvette


  • VJenae

    Right. But you’re so worried about interracial relationships.. WE DON’T BELIIIIIIEVEEEEE YOUUUUUU!!

  • Honestly

    What else is an overweight, over 30 black baby mama going to say? The truth is there really aren’t a lot of good eligible men interested.

    • scandalous7

      I feel bad, but I was thinking the same thing.

      • VJenae

        The truth will set you free! For some one who produces neo soul songs, you’d think she would be a positive person.

    • Yvette

      I guess there is always the negative side if you have nothing positive to say. SMDH!

    • Bigbigmjfan Michael

      That is true. I too am overweight and at the age of 39 Its a wrap!

      No man wants a 40yr old woman. All men want 20yr olds.

      Ms. Scott knows this too.

      • Dominique Thompson

        That’s why you find a 50 yr old! He will think u r a young tender! Lol

        • Bigbigmjfan Michael

          ALL men want 20yr olds and don’t ever forget that.

          It will help you as you go through life.

  • UdonNo


  • stewie

    sure, sure….we believe you. “Rolling my eyes”

  • Bits

    she’s an Aries woman so this makes since. Aries women are never pressed for a man its a waste of time and energy for them.

    • Wedlock4eva

      @lolagetsit2:disqus You are absolutely right! I am an Aries woman also and if I can’t have exactly what I want, nothing will do!

    • Pam

      I think it also has to do with age. You just get to that point when you reach a certain age (different for each woman) when you are not stressed or pressed to walk down that aisle. You have stuff to do that are not necessarily hinging on being Mrs. Somebody-or-other. I know when I hit my 40s (where Jill is now), I was no longer caught up in the ring, but in myself. For me when he comes, he comes, and as I told my brother, if he doesn’t I’m okay with that now.

      • KIR12

        You’re cute and you could of had a husband but you choose food over a husband and a family. Stop encouraging fat young girls to follow your path.

        • Pam

          It is funny how you can pay a compliment and in the very next breath insult a person. You know nothing of what I encourage and to judge a person based on a picture is not only shallow, but insulting as well. The fact that you think I chose food over a husband and family is first of all not your business, but second factually inaccurate. Then you hide behind the moniker of “Guest.” Sweetheart trolling the entertainment site blogs is so crass and tells me that you have nothing more to do. To insult people means that you probably have low self esteem and truly don’t love yourself, thus trying to make others feel bad to uplift yourself.

      • Bits

        I totally agree with you.

      • L-Boogie

        Agree. I knew an Aries who was definitely pressed. Scandalous hoe!

    • VJenae

      Another sad lonely woman who bases personalities after birthdays after they get done dusting the house full of 37 cats.. Let’s be real. Truth is Jill is a beautiful woman, but her personality makes her ugly and so does the way she carries herself ( weight included).

      • Bits

        another one track minded idiot who bases everyone’s life experience off of your pea brain perception of life. lets keep it all the way REAL and stay on track with the fact that you obviously have a personal unwarranted vendetta against Ms. Scott who I promise you is not losing any sleep or money over your childish and misconstrued pov of her. Just because you are desperate for a man and needing of a man’s attention your every waking moment doesn’t mean every woman is like that. get over it.

        • VJenae

          Oh gosh. Another member of the ” I’m Independent and I don’t need a man” crew! You CAN’T get a man! The difference between me and you is that I can get one and YOU can’t. You’re not independent. YOU’RE LONELY. Now go along and go read those self-help books from ” Why I Don’t Need A Man” to ” Why Men Can’t Handle Me”. Now, run along and don’t forget to pick up your batteries!

          • Bits

            you’re not even mildly amusing.

            • Nikki

              This is so funny to read. Why do so many women think they need a man. She is one of those types that needs a man to validate her. And I’m sure he’s not even good quality just any bum off the street that comes her way.

              • Bits


            • yeah…and?

              But she seems seriously THIRSTY!

    • Dominique Thompson

      I disagree a very good friend of mine is an Aries and she could NOT be alone.. Ever! I I think it’s maturity.

      • Bits

        of course there are exceptions to the rule but generally Aries women are not falling for the “I need a man to validate me” crap.