Aisha Tyler Reveals She Can’t Conceive: The Hardest Part Is Knowing What A Good Father My Husband Would Be
Aisha Tyler is known for being the funny girl in any crowd, and daily she brings her humor to the set of afternoon talk show, “The Talk.” But on Tuesday, Aisha Tyler opened up about something that’s no laughing matter at all for her and her husband, Jeff Tietjens — their inability to have a child.
The concept for the day’s show was for the co-hosts to tell a never-before-told secret about themselves. And while everyone was shocked to learn Sharon Osbourne had had a fling with Jay Leno, Aisha’s painful secret was far more moving. Here’s what the 42-year-old revealed to her co-hosts and the whole world about her infertility issues.
“We [she and her husband] stopped using birth control and nothing really happened. So we went to a doctor to get examined and I was told that I have some problems with a torturous fallopian tube, which makes it very hard for the sp*erm to get to the egg, so the doctors recommended that we maybe think about IVF… but after 40 your chances of getting pregnant are between 2% and 8%. My chance was about 5%.
“We went through the process. There are all these shots, they make your body crazy, they make you emotional, they hurt, and after going through a lot of procedures and spending a lot of money… the doctor said, ‘Look, based on what we’re seeing here, I just don’t think this is going to happen to you and I think you really need to think about whether you want to spend all this money and go through all this emotional effort and probably still not get pregnant.’
“So after thinking about it and talking about it a lot, we decided that we weren’t going to try. The hardest part, I think, is I really love my husband, he’s such a good person and he would be such a great father and it would be so great to see a little him running around. But we just decided it wasn’t worth it to go through that, so we decided to stop…
“It’s OK because I married my husband because I love him and I don’t feel like there’s anything missing from our marriage, but when you think about this person that you love what a wonderful thing it would be to bring another person like that into the world. That’s the hardest part about it.”
For someone who isn’t even certain I want to have children, Aisha’s story still nearly moved me to tears, and she even said her husband has probably cried more than she has over their fertility struggles. When asked whether she and Jeff might consider adopting one day, Aisha replied:
“I love kids. I love the idea of adoption, but I feel like this is such a fresh wound that I want to let it heal for a while before I think about what we would do next.”