My Boyfriend Is In Love With Another Woman – What Do I Do?

August 23, 2013  |  


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From Essence 

Dear Dr. Sherry,

I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years, and we’ve been through thick and thin. I caught him cheating on me several times with the same woman. He finally confessed and said he is as much in love with her as he is with me. I don’t know what to do. I love him so much, but this relationship has been so hurtful. Please help!

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  • guest0012

    Leave him and move on..

  • Kath

    At one point I’d be so quick to say just Leave already! But I have realized, not necessarily from intimate r/ships that leaving the one you love literally tears at your heart strings. It’s that emptiness and memories that would cause her to even be asking this question. Leaving the one you love or having that person leave, is tantamount to death- never having or possibly seeing them again, and what’s worse is that they are very much alive, but can’t love you as you need them to.

    With all this said, it is why I am so happy, that I am indeed proud. And pride, will triumph over many things. Hence, if I couldn’t leave for anything else, I’d have left in a heartbeat for the sake of my pride. I just couldn’t accept that I am not enough for him. I can just encourage that you get some..

  • ChiTown Princess

    Is this girl stupid?!?
    If my man cheated and told me he was in love with another woman, that heffa can have him, I go find me a man who is gonna love me and not another woman unless it’s his mom, sister, and daughter. Plus the other woman is stupid as her for wasting her time with that guy,

  • Zealand


  • guest

    Stay or leave, but don’t complain about it anymore if you choose to stay.

  • MoJo

    I believe that you need to find the confidence in yourself and know your worth because he is not worth it. He may love the both of you but it is at different levels, for instance he may like the stability he has with you and maybe the sex with her, whatever it is he clearly does not value what you are giving him so I would say to leave him and someone better will come along who will truly value you…KNOW YOUR WORTH BECAUSE YOU ARE WORTH IT!


    just for the record… it is possible to be in love with more than 1 person

    • mojo

      true but the you will always love someone more than the other…with that being said it should not be difficult to choose who you want to be with unless you are selfish…

    • clwa0303

      Very true

    • guest

      Yes, but when you are supposed to be in an exclusive relationship, you do not act on the emotions involving the other person.

      • Growth

        And if the emotions are that strong you need to not be in any relationship.

    • Kath

      Really? You may like several persons. But it is not at all possible to be in love with many.

  • FromUR2UB

    First, stop calling him your boyfriend. He’s not.
    Second, see ‘first’.

  • Maya

    Just let him go!! u deserve better than this…it is hard to leave someone we love but gotta do what u gotta do. Look at yourself, look how beautiful u are…do u think u deserve him? do u think he deserves a WOMAN like u? I dont think so!!!
    Live is ike that, do not try to convince him to leave that woman so that he’ll get back to u, because even if he does (not sure abt that) he’ll cheat again!!! I’m sure there are many men who wouldlike to date u! Think abt it

  • guest1002

    He doesn’t love either of you. If you keep taking him back your crazy. You need to learn yo love yourself enough to let him go.

  • Sheena B

    I refuse to believe that someone is this damn dumb. Is she for real? LEAVE!