Smashed the Homie? Signs Your Boyfriend And Your Bestie Are Too Close for Comfort

August 23, 2013 ‐ By Toya Sharee

boyfriend cheating with best friend

I was watching the movie Something Borrowed for the first time the other day and couldn’t believe a movie starring Kate Hudson could be so ratchet…yet so good.  Even though I feel like her and Katherine Heigl star in the same movies over and over, this one had me glued to the screen.  It’s about a woman who ends up falling for her best friend’s fiancé even though she was the one who initially hooked them up.  To this girl’s credit, the friend was an absolute jerk.  Still, I always think it’s awkward when your boo and your bestie had a close friendship that preceded your relationship, or when it seems he has more fun with her than you. These behaviors could make you uncomfortable, and might be a cause for concern, especially if your man and best friend are a little too close for your liking.

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1.  They have one too many “inside jokes”

I used to hate when people abused that “insider” hashtag on Facebook and Twitter.  If the joke is so personal, get the heck off Google Chrome and chuckle it up in person.  Now imagine, your boo and your best friend constantly giving each other side-eyes and getting their Def Comedy Jam on while you’re sitting there looking lost like, “What is so damn funny?” If your man cares about you, he won’t repeatedly risk your comfort level at the expense of a good punch line.  If you find yourself like Drake outside of the Miami Heat locker room and never in on the joke, there’s a chance that’s not the only thing you’re not in on.

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  • kayer713

    okay #9 she’s not omitting because she’s guilty. She’s being sneaky.

  • ❤♥BabyGirl♥❤

    I’m close to my best friend boyfriend only because he’s my cousin and we grew up together so he’s like my brother. As for my man, Monique did a stand up show one time saying to never leave your man around another woman. That’s how I am. Not my friends, cousins, sisters, mother lmao not that serious but I dont see why they would have or need such a close relationship anyway

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  • Gabie Aldrich

    Also in Something Borrowed Kate Hudson was also sleeping with her fiance’s best friend.

  • Mia

    I don’t believe in hanging around my friends man either, however when she confides to me abt their little tiffs I usually try to play devils advocate. Secretly no woman wants her friend to bash her man, she wants to hear as many positives as possible then she’ll be able to decide what she wants to do with a clear head instead of an angry one.
    That’s just my take on it.

  • NachoDiva

    Haha this article had me glued to my screen.

  • L-Boogie

    Stay single. Too much drama!

  • L-Boogie

    Stay single. Too much drama!

  • Guest

    I honestly don’t understand females that are close or even “friends” with their girlfriend’s boyfriend. As a woman, I wouldn’t even want to e friends with a girl’s bf because nothing good can come from it. The farthest I go is friendly acquaintances. Your girlfriend can accuse you of something even when you are innocent. In addition, I wouldn’t even date someone my friend hooked me up with or knew before me because you don’t know what history or feelings their may between them. Keep your social life away from your love life.

    • Kayla

      “Keep your social life away from your love life.” Couldn’t agree more. That is a rule I live by. I have heard too many horror stories of so-called friends secretly hooking up with each other’s men.