Things just got real for the Resurrecting Faith church in Waco, Texas. A.J. Amir the founding pastor has banned the female leadership of his church from wearing weaves.
Aamir says women who wear weaves have low self esteem and he wants them to embrace who they really are.
Aamir told America Preachers: “Our black women are getting weaves trying to be something and someone they are not. Be real with yourself is all I’m saying.”
Aamir, who grew up in a strict Muslim household says he wants his congregation, where the average age of members is just 22 years old, to focus on what he deems as more important things than the hair on their heads. Aamir is also concerned that his parishioners are spending too much money on hair.
“Long hair don’t care. What kind of mess is that? I don’t want my members so focused on what’s on their heads and not IN their heads. I lead a church where our members are struggling financially. I mean really struggling. Yet, a 26 year old mother in my church has a $300 weave on her head. NO. I will not be quiet about this.”
Aamir is clear that he cannot legally ban anyone from wearing weaves, he still highly disapproves of it.
I know some folks are going to be mad about this one. And rightly so. We all have our own preferences and notions about different hair types but sometimes, it would really be best if we kept those thoughts to ourselves. Wearing weaves doesn’t equate to low self esteem or that a person’s mind is inherently shallow or lacks substance, no more than it means a woman who wears her own hair or is natural is somehow enlightened. At the end of the day, a person’s hair is only going to tell you so much about them. And perhaps that’s what Aamir is missing here. And furthermore, there’s just something so controlling and distasteful about a man telling women how they can and can’t wear their own hair. I understand Aamir is focused on the mental and financial well being of his staff and congregation; but he should really devote his time, energy and effort to feeding his members spiritually and trust that their beauty standards and financial decisions will line up, even if he doesn’t agree with them.