From Single Black Male
I have written about before that the worst enemy we have is our own selves. The way our mind constructs and sees the world is something that is constantly needs to be feed and evolve. The world constantly challenges us with different situations and relationships that are supposed to make us a better person. One of the biggest things we have problems with is the idea of not recognizing the things we do have than the things we don’t. People will complain about what their man/woman won’t do, why they don’t have the money they should, and why their children aren’t excelling or performing the way they wish. There is nothing wrong with the people and things in our lives changing and improving but it comes to a point where you complain so much to yourself that it shows ungratefulness for what you do have. We are so used to losing in life that we don’t even know when we are winning.
The deeper meaning of that is the idea is something I have touched on before. It is the idea that we try to live too much in the past and the future and do not enjoy today. The other day I was a hearing two friends of mine complain about either their relationships or financial situation and I stopped both of them and said “You know you winning right?”
They paused and of course asked why I thought they were winning. I told them to really sit back and look at their situations and realize how they were really winning and if they don’t respect the good things in the people in the things in their life they will lose them. I realized that even in my life I have looked at the losing aspect of my life that I burn up the winning I have or could have in the future.
Think about the person you are dating or have been involved with. What issue do you really have with the person to the point where you harp on the things they aren’t doing? Could you really be winning with that person in your life but you want so much more or can’t appreciate the good you think they are so bad? Can you not get over the pain/losing from your past relationships to realize that you can’t realize the love and care of the person in your life…You may be WINNING!!
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