A Word Of Advice On Getting A Man: Stop Thirsting And He Will Come

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July 30, 2013 ‐ By
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From YourTango

From a young age, girls grow up thinking that a boyfriend will make them happy and life will be complete.  When this thinking carries into adulthood, single women will focus too much on finding a boyfriend.  Trying too hard leads to behaving and acting in ways that end up turning guys off.  If you’ve been like these women, instead of coming across as desirable, you’ll seem desperate.  Desperation is a definite turnoff to high quality men.

When you try too hard, here’s what happens

You’ll feel pressured to behave and act in certain ways when interacting with guys.  This self-imposed pressure doesn’t let you to be your authentic self.  When you aren’t being your true self, you won’t be able to connect with a man on a deep and meaningful level.

When things don’t go the way you want, you’ll be critical towards yourself.  Beating yourself up gets in the way of loving yourself.  When you don’t love yourself, you can’t expect a man to love you.

You’ll settle for less than you deserve.  Let’s say a guy makes plans to take you out on Saturday night but you don’t hear from him.  He calls you on Tuesday with an excuse that seems like a red flag.  Once you’ve accepted this lame excuse, you’ve just lowered your standards.

You won’t be able to relax and enjoy the journey because you’re wondering how to get a boyfriend and are always on alert for this guy to show up in your life.  This desperate and uptight energy you radiate will push a high quality man further away.

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  • Godzilla

    2013 and women still want the man to chase them. I’m teaching my son the opposite…he is not some dog waiting for the woman to say, yes!

  • Child_Puhleez

    I guess mothers have fallen off in teaching their daughters self-love / self-respect??? Dayum shame. smh

    • Nope

      If the mother’s don’t have self-love or self-respect, how can they teach their daughters?