Stay With Your Man Longer By Spending More Time Apart

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July 29, 2013 ‐ By
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From YourTango 

Alone time is one of the healthiest things for a relationship. Spending time apart gives each person time to decompress, to be themselves and to be secure with their identity outside of the relationship. You definitely want your boyfriend to have some alone time and you should welcome the chance to relax alone yourself. Here are the reasons why it’s so important:

Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

It’s a saying for a reason. Make some time to miss each other and you’ll be that much more grateful for the time you spend together.

It Gives Everybody Time to do Gross Things by Themselves

Do you really want to watch him trim his nose hairs over the kitchen sink? The answer is always no. You need to keep a few mysteries alive or your relationship might fall victim to a fizzled-out sex drive.

Reignite Attraction

When you pick up hobbies that you can do solo, you’ll be able to bring home new skills that will wow your partner. Everyone is attracted to a talented individual, so diversify your wheelhouse. Conquering a new recipe, becoming a trivia buff or learning to sew will all boost your self-esteem as well, which will make you more confident (read: Hot) when you interact with your boyfriend. If nothing else, you’ll at least have something to talk about when you guys reunite and catch up. Watching someone talk about a new passion is always attractive.

Restore the Magic

Spend time apart so that you can re-live some of the mysterious excitement from the early days of your relationship. When he picks you up for a date after not seeing you for a few days, you’ll knock his socks off like you used to. He’ll once again be dazzled by how you get your hair so shiny and completely dumbfounded at the good luck he must have to land a bombshell like you. No matter if you’ve been together for 10 months or 10 years, it feels good knowing that you can still take his breath away. Take some time off so that when you’re back together again, you can instantly turn him on.

Avoid the Silly Fights

Being with someone every second is a great way to get irritated quickly. Under ordinary circumstances you don’t mind the way he forgets to fill up the ice cube trays, but now that he’s done it the last 14 days in a row, it’s wearing on your last nerve. Your annoyance could turn into a passive-aggressive argument and soon snowball into a huge fight that could have been easily avoided. Don’t let unnecessary bickering send you guys off-tilt. Take some time apart to settle your mind before you start getting peevish with each other.

Remember that You’re a Person

It might sound dramatic, but when you spend every waking minute with your boyfriend, it can be hard to tell where he stops and you begin. Your identity shouldn’t be completely wrapped up in your relationship. Take some time off from each other so that you can remember who you are without him. If you don’t maintain your independence, you’ll run the risk of falling into co-dependence, which is a relationship killer.

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  • Kam

    I think there is something to this, my parents started dating when they were 15 and 17 (and this is on top of living around the corner from one another when they were kids), got married when they were 18 and 20 and have been married ever since. They do plenty of things seperate and apart and while I know they argue I have never seen them just go long periods of time without speaking over anything, and Lord bless them they will see a 45th anniversary in a couple of months.

    • Lem

      This definitely is a great list. We haven’t hit 45 years, but we are coming up on 12 years (married) and we make sure to maintain lives outside of each other.