Sorry Boo, I’m Just Not That Into You! How to Let a Guy Down Easy (Well, We Hope)

July 27, 2013  |  
Sorry Boo, I'm Just Not That Into You! How to Let a Guy Down Easy (Well, We Hope)

We’ve all been in a position to have to reject someone. A friend or co-worker is crushing on us, but we’re not interested. They’re still coming at us, and we’re running the other way. They think we’re vibing. You know you’re not. What to do?

No one likes to be rejected. Sometimes, being the “rejector” is just as hard, if not harder, than being the “rejectee.” After all, no one wants to be the bad guy; but sometimes, you really have no other choice than to let someone know that you’re just not feeling them.  It’s an unpleasant experience for all involved, but here are 9 things to keep in mind when letting someone down easy.

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  • BadAzz Bee

    Look it’s easy as “this isn’t workin” and if he don’t get the pic ask him can he go pick up ya ‘script for ur vaginal warts lol

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  • Lihau

    A woman can let a man down however she chooses. Most men approach women as if it is some type of game they are supposed to win, which leads them to ignore tone of voice and body language or intercept things incorrectly. Being polite almost never works…

    You don’t owe it to someone to tell him why you are no interested.

    • Enough

      Him or her…this goes both ways.

  • ted mikeal

    ” Sometimes, being the “rejector” is just as hard, if not harder, than being the “rejectee.”

    wow…..That is what you would call a stupid, narcissistic, solipsistic women logic.

    • Reese

      It definitely is, I’m the type of person who doesn’t want to hurt anybody’s feelings, But I’m coming to realize I’ll just make myself unhappy trying to make everyone else happy.

    • Darcampb

      yup! I’d rather be rejecting than rejected any day of the week –sorry!

    • Jasmine

      How is that narcissistic or stupid? Some would say it’s a selfless way to look at it because you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or let them down. Maybe the person you’re rejecting isn’t some random dude on the street, but a friend whose friendship you treasure, but don’t want to take further. You’re assuming the person doing the rejecting is seeing him or herself as something greater than they are rather than someone who is trying to be compassionate to someone they actually care about. Just because you’re rejecting a possible relationship doesn’t mean you don’t know or care for the person you’re rejecting. I’d say a person making that assumption is stupid and narcissistic.

      • ted mikeal

        Sorry but there is no sugar coating it, the person is rejecting you and that hurts more than rejecting someone.

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  • hollyw

    If by ‘blunt’, you mean assertive, then yeah, that’d be me…lol. I actually made it a point when I started dating last yr to practice assertiveness when communicating, but esp. with men, and esp. in dating.

    Now, when guys persist, or try to holler in the street, THEN I can get a bit aggressive lol… O.O

  • Reese

    I had to let a guy down easy not too long ago and it still didn’t work well. I told him he was moving entirely too fast. After I first date, he told me he wanted something serious with me and commenced sending me flowers everyday at my job. So I told him he needed to slow down and he got extremely upset which let me know right then and there he had some issues.