So, we’re sitting here watching the new Fox talk show, “The Real,” and co-host Tamar Braxton asks the question: would you give your man a pregnancy pass?
Yeah, we never heard of that either. Essentially, as Tamar explained to her co-hosts Jeannie Mai, Tamera Mowry, Loni Love, and Adrienne Bailon, a pregnancy pass is when a woman who is expecting allows her husband — and father of the child she’s carrying — sleep with other women because she’s not up to having sex.
It should come as no surprise that when this question was asked, the resounding answer — on set and in our office — was “hell no.” For starters, I haven’t met or heard a pregnant woman yet say that she didn’t have sex while she was carrying a baby. Things may have gotten tricky toward the end and her and her partner may have had to try some new positions to get it done, but sex was absolutely happening — and often. Second, I — and a lot of other women — will likely be damned if, while they are carrying a man’s child, that same man has the nerve to step out and sleep with someone else. Ebonically speaking, where dey do dat at? Or, to paraphrase my coworker, “I wish a man would. If he don’t get off that couch and get me some fries while I’m carrying his seed!”
Nevertheless, the idea of a pregnancy pass didn’t appear out of thin air, which means some pregnant woman, somewhere is letting her man dip out on her sometime between trimester one and trimester three. The question is who are these women. And more interestingly, would you do it?