Willow And Will And Jada Catch Heat For Her Song “Summer Fling,” Say It’s Inappropriate For A 12-Year-Old

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July 11, 2013 ‐ By Clarke Gail Baines

We told you last week about Willow Smith teaming up with DJ MVSIC Fabrega to form the group Melodic Chaotic, and the duo released the song “Summer Fling.” The track, an upbeat summer jam that’s definitely cute, is about summer love that’s not going anywhere but works for a few months of fun. In the video, Willow (rocking a blonde wig with sharp chopped bangs) can be seen frolicking with a young man (in a mean turban wrap) and playing around with friends on a trampoline and at a bonfire. Her brother Jaden even makes a cameo.

While it’s a light, easy and breezy song (and video), for a 12-year-old, some are saying it’s a bit too much too soon. Some of the lyrics include, “We both say I love you, but it’s alright… If you wanna talk I guess that’s alright, if you wanna walk under the night sky, I don’t really care cause we got tonight, oh baby…”

Folks on Twitter had a lot to say about the subject matter being a bit too mature for her, while others pointed out that her boyfriend in the video, along with a lot of the other young people in it, were much older than Smith. According to Huffington Post, the video also appears to have a young lesbian couple in it too. All of these things for one reason or another has raised the eyebrows of some folks, as they believe that a 12-year-old shouldn’t be out here worried about such things.

Patrick Wanis, a human behavior expert seemed the most bothered by it all, and he tried to come for Will and Jada:

“Willow is singing about having sex and this is totally inappropriate and not in line with the developmental physical, mental or emotional stages of a 12 year old girl who is barely an adolescent; the video reveals that she is still a little girl – not a teenager. She is not mature enough mentally or emotionally to be boasting that she and her ‘fling’ are walking ‘the beach at midnight.’

Her parents are being irresponsible and verging on negligent by failing to fulfill their role as parents – to guide their daughter and set boundaries and limits for her. While children might rebel, they actually need boundaries, discipline, guidance and wisdom. And the Smiths are obviously not doing that.”

But after hearing the song and watching the video a few times, I personally didn’t really get that inappropriate of a vibe from it all. Maybe it’s because she just doesn’t seem 12 to me (don’t know if that’s a good or bad thing). I think my biggest issue was with her jumping on the trampoline in a swimsuit bottoms. But honestly, Willow, along with her brother and friends, just look like they’re trying to have innocent fun. And the song is actually pretty good. Yet and still, I’m not a parent so my view of things is probably a lot different than folks who are raising pre-teens.

What do you think? Is the song a bit too much for a 12-year-old?

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  • dorian

    first of all. the song clearly gives the idea of a sexual activity… We all know the term fling… I have not heard any 12 yr old in my day use the term fling… cause flings to my understanding means sleeping with someone once and moving on. someone you don’t want to have a relationship. for me the other factor is why iis she not with kids her age.. everyone in the video looks at least 18 yrs old. what I am surprised is that our society is ok with our kids learning so much at an early age and seeing too much at an early age and being ok with it. So because society is changing I guess we accept the 12 year olds who are growing up too fast having sex by the time they are 13 and 14 thinking they are grown. and getting pregnant. no society in the past was perfect.. and just because this is the time we are living in doesn’t mean it’s correct and doesn’t mean the things that need to improve should be ignored.
    what ever happened to kids just being kids.

  • Simmone Walters

    LMAO! At the people who you are using to try to make your point. Where are 90% of those people today? Dead from drug addictions, completely disappeared from the limelight doing God knows what. The only two (Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera) on your list that still has a music career is mentally unstable.

  • Mynx

    I don’t think it’s too much for a 12 yr old. If I was her age and heard that song, I’d love it myself! And, if I remember, I was listening to far more sexual and graphic songs than this one.

    Everyone wants to say what kids should be and shouldn’t be doing, but she’s probably already going through puberty and she will be curious. From what I remember when I was a kid, most 12 yr olds were doing a lot more than what is expected of them as “children”.

    No matter what age, girls and boys are going to be curious and experiment. We just have to hope as parents that they don’t do something to themselves to ruin their futures and trust in us to be able to open up about these subjects.

  • blackdolphin

    No comments about that wig? MN is this you???

  • My Heavenly Fathers’ Child

    I have not listened to the song. I read the article and the some of the comments. I agree with Patrick Wanis. I pray for our families, our children, and our communities. We are lost. Anyone who does not have a relationship with the heavenly Father intimately, will truly believe that the song is OKAY and she is only doing THIS. If you are a true believer of my Father, ask yourself, WOULD JESUS APPROVE…TEST THIS IN HIM…AND THERE WILL BE YOUR ANSWER.

  • randomcomment

    How about everyone just sticking to raising their own kids and stop worrying about Will and Jada’s. How they chose to raise their children is nobody’s business. If someone thinks that a 12 year old shouldn’t sing about having a fling then here is an idea: DON’T LISTEN TO THE SONG! It’s that simple! There are kids out doing worse things then having so called “flings.” I listened to the song there really isn’t anything inappropriate in my opinion. Also, this is just a song, who said it reflects what really happens in her actual life. Music is art, leave it alone!

    • Dragon Senait

      You know you people kill me riding the bandwagon with those Smiths because they’re black. They DO NOT represent the black family in any way, shape or form. They are just another weird spiritually and mentally messed up “hollyweird” family that are stuck in that cult called scientology. They could care less about the black community.You people need to wake up. Having fame and fortune doesn’t make you a good person. The Smiths are human like everybody else and they are allowed to receive our judgment like everybody else.

  • Kenedy

    My only thing is that at 12, she shouldn’t have a professional singing career, they should have at least waited till she turned 18 to push this agenda on her

  • Kenedy

    My only thing is that at 12, she shouldn’t have a professional singing career, they should have at least waited till she turned 18 to push this agenda on her

  • Kenedy

    My only thing is that at 12, she shouldn’t have a professional singing career, they should have at least waited till she turned 18 to push this agenda on her

  • Kenedy

    My only thing is that at 12, she shouldn’t have a professional singing career, they should have at least waited till she turned 18 to push this agenda on her

  • ImJustSaying

    I actually like the song. I don’t think she means having sex though

  • Candacey Doris

    I didn’t get the sex vibe at all. It reminded me of having a summer boyfriend at that age. It was cute and people who are reading more into it more into it may have been doing more at that age. Seriously, if you don’t like her don’t follow her.

  • kickash

    i was more weirded out about the video than the song itself. aside from the fact that she had that weird british accent, she was also hanging out with people that looked quite a bit older than her. it wouldn’t have as weird for me if the people at least looked like teenagers. but most of them looked like they were in their 20s. And as someone said before her voice needs a little work.

  • Guest

    This world is sick her fans are her age and younger?? So really we got 9 year olds having Summer Flings now? Is that what we are marketing to the kids?

  • Guest

    This world is sick her fans are her age and younger?? So really we got 9 year olds having Summer Flings now? Is that what we are marketing to the kids?

  • TheTroof

    I think this “summer fling” video and song would be a lot more tolerable if Willow could actually sing. The fact that her vocal chords are less-than-impressive makes this video seem like a montage of her life–rather than a serious music venture which is why “summer fling” and the video seems a little odd.

  • speaksthetruth

    #1- why does she has a British accent? She’s american why put on a fake accent? #2 fling? I’m not surprised? Her parents have said their kids can do anything! Well, not surprised their 12 year old is having sex. Thinking she’s grown???? #3 bad parents! Yes, I’ve said it.

  • KiwiMami

    Do you guys hear the rest of the lyrics…its just a couple of months until we do it anyways??? What??? OMG!! I am so upset!!! She is freaking 12! At 12 I was too worried about my Lisa Frank Collection to be having a freaking “Summer Fling”. There is nothing innocent about a song…a Fling is a Fling! A short-term screw buddy. Omg my heart hurts for her…why arent they protecting this baby! She is not developed at all physically or mentally. She should sing about innocent things…go back to whipping your hair!

  • KiwiMami

    Do you guys hear the rest of the lyrics…its just a couple of months until we do it anyways??? What??? OMG!! I am so upset!!! She is freaking 12! At 12 I was too worried about my Lisa Frank Collection to be having a freaking “Summer Fling”. There is nothing innocent about a song…a Fling is a Fling! A short-term screw buddy. Omg my heart hurts for her…why arent they protecting this baby! She is not developed at all physically or mentally. She should sing about innocent things…go back to whipping your hair!

  • Barbara Codner

    I didn’t hear her singing about sex. I heard her singing about kissing and holding hands. At that age, most of us had our first kiss. I think we are starting to overreact about everything and in some situations, with good reason. I actually like this song and the video is kind of cute.

  • Gwendolyn Gillespie

    I am not a big fan of Willow Smith and I think she is too grown, but this particular song I see nothing wrong with it. I could not tell they were that much older than she was, you don’t see her in a bikini flashing, nor did they even kiss. I actually like this video.

  • BrynaMorris

    That is the problem with this country, no boundaries set for what our children should or should not be doing, they are doing it anyway so just go along, I think so, if you are the parent but your dam foot down and take hold of your children’s lives, your are responsible for them until they are on their own.

  • lawyer lady J

    I think that adults are making this video dirtier than it is. She is talking about having a friendship, even if it is “dating” in the sense of what 12 year olds consider “dating” to be. If you think about it, the song is very relevant to school age kids. They go off and away from home, visit family, etc. and meet new fun people, who they know will only be in their lives for the summer. She is talking about enjoying the summer with this new friend. Puppy love, a cute video, that is all that jumps out to me. The title is the only thing that is suggestive about this song, and yet, only because of my adult mind of what a fling is. Fling has many definitions, including “A short period of enjoyment.” Enjoy your summer fling Willow :)

    • IllyPhilly

      Geez you’re BRILLIANT! In fact, I fine the people and the freakin’ human behavior “expert” on here who went straight to s3x about this song/video more perverted than the song. But hey as it’s been said, opinions are like aSSh0les…

  • vanelle22

    I like her song, it displays her individuality and its not a bad video at all. Yea she 12 but when I see the video I know she is still a kid from that choppy wig and that 8 year old boy body…….its how a 12 year old would dress if you think about it. Now if she had a banging weave some banged out makeup and a bikini that would be different cause she trying to look like a grown woman….Will and Jada know how to raise their kids, they doing good.

  • appassionata

    A 12-year-old is a child. I don’t care who her parents are, or how mature she looks, or how mature she is. She’s a CHILD. Any parents who would allow their CHILD to record and perform a song about having a fling–no matter how cute or innocent it sounds–needs to have their heads examined. The word “fling” shouldn’t even be in a child’s vocabulary unless they are referring to the act of throwing something across the room.

    The majority of the other people in the video are clearly not 12-year-olds. The “boyfriend” in the video looks like he should be in college. It doesn’t matter that they aren’t kissing, they are clearly being shown as a couple. Is this really a message that should be sent?

    • rainydaze80

      it’s a summer fling because she knows that they won’t see each other once summer is over. A fling doesn’t necessarily imply a sexual relationship, it just means a non-serious relationship that will end soon.

      • appassionata

        from the Oxford dictionary:
        –short period of enjoyment or wild behaviour:one final fling before a tranquil retirement
        –a short, spontaneous sexual relationship:I had a fling with someone when I was at college

        from the Free Dictionary:
        1. The act of flinging.
        2. A brief period of indulging one’s impulses. See Synonyms at binge.
        3. Informal A usually brief attempt or effort: You take a fling at it.
        4. A brief sexual or romantic relationship.

        from the Urban Dictionary:
        deliberately short-term sexual relationship between two people. Longer than a one-night stand, not as serious-sounding as “affair”, more frankly physical than the discreet or twee “dalliance”, the word has the associations of a much-needed sexual relief from stress, worry or hangups. No deep personal involvement required, just the sex and a bit of attention.

        Yes, words have meaning. And the word “fling” (as a noun) is commonly
        understood to refer to a sexual relationship between adults. There is no
        getting around this. If you found out your 12-year-old sister had a
        crush on a boy she met at summer camp, you would never say “My sister
        had a summer fling.”

        • KiwiMami

          If this song was really as innocent as it is supposed to be the song could of been “Summer Crush”. Simple words have meaning and songwriters know that very well. Maybe whoever wrote the song thought it was too kiddie for Rihanna and Taylor Swift to sing so the next in line was Willow. This was not an appropriate song for her at all.

        • rainydaze80

          Well your definitions from Oxford confirm what I said about it not necessarily being a sexual thing. “”a short period of enjoyment or wild behaviour.” Your definitions from the free dictionary confirm the same: “A brief sexual OR romantic relationship.” Also, It can be something sexual, but doesn’t necessarily have to be, denoted by the word OR in the definition.

    • rainydaze80

      it’s a summer fling because she knows that they won’t see each other once summer is over. A fling doesn’t necessarily imply a sexual relationship, it just means a non-serious relationship that will end soon.

    • MonicaT

      I agree she is clearly singing about having sex she just used summer fling. This is the problem with society they accept anything and wonder why children think it’s ok to do whatever they feel because everyone else is doing it! Children can’t be children because adults want them to grow up too FAST! I agree with Patrick Wanis children need boundaries, discipline and guidance. All this they let their children be free and independent to make mistakes/choices with no discipline is a bunch of bull. Just say you want to be your childs friend.

    • Pater Tempus

      Well now, her parents are wealthy and famous and you are…?

      I think I’ll give the Smiths the benefit of any doubt on this one.

    • Dragon Senait

      Plus the kid is talking about walking the beach at midnight? Seriously…what’s a twelve year old doing out that time of night alone with some boy? She should be in her bed at her home sleeping. I can’t rationalize these people. Willows parents are just too lost and too gone and please believe they will pay for their bad parenting. By the time she’s actually and adult, she will have done everything in life and will be lost looking for some meaning to her life, just like these child stars. We all know how that ends. Smh.

  • cheleR

    12 year olds today are doing everything she is talking about and more- It’s not the 60s anymore!!!I didn’t see anything wrong with it- this is what most of the 12 year olds are doing during the summer these days… During her whole video, she has clothes on, we need to applaud her for that!!

    • JasE

      I just had my 15 year old watch the video…and she says…”well mom there was NO butt shaking and the ALL had their clothes on, had a great beat…I LIKE IT!!!

      • IllyPhilly

        :-)

  • Tiffany Shaw

    I think this is a very realistic video for 12 yr olds today. People need to wake up and stop telling these kids what they should be doing and really take a look at what they are doing. I don’t think the song is all that but the video is very representative of how kids are growing up so fast now a days. Is it raunchy or risque no. But it is eye opening.

    • Monica Fay

      i agree. I was a nanny for almost ten years for many beverly hills children, all of them starting out in elementary/middle school and was with all 5 of them until high school. beverly hills kids move faster than others, and believe me, once middle school hits the hormones are raging and it is perfectly normal to have a big crush on someone or have what they think in their young minds is a “summer romance” aka facebooking and texting constantly, holding hands, going to a friend’s pool party together and being “seen” together. i think this is completely realistic and not about sex at all. I remember when i was in 6th grade i was obsessed with this kid named chris hightman and i would listen to brandy’s have you ever over and over and overrr again. then in 8th grade another boy and i met at a pool and we spent the summer flirting every day, arranging meeting at the pool and talking on the phone. that was definitely a summer fling for me and i wasnt trying to bang him and all that, although a few of my friends at that age (13) had already tried a couple things more risque than me. people who are against this song, the lyrics, willows age, and the video are incredibly out of touch of what middle schoolers are going through. they have crushes, BIG ones, they like boys, they like girls, they are starting the teen years. You start to get boobs, you start to get boy feelings. they go together. it’s all about the morals you instill in your child to keep the sanctity of themselves and their self worth, not their age.

      • Tiffany Shaw

        Exactly. At 12 I had a HUGE crush on a boy named Jorge. I thought about him all the time. We talked on the phone. Hung out together at lunch. Passed notes in class. Might have even kissed once or twice. This is what kids do. It’s that point where they are getting their feet wet. They are just testing those new emotions. People who see this video as some child being grown or overly sexualized are looking for that. Now I get it. We have kids every day having babies younger and younger but just because that is the case doesn’t mean we should stunt the growth of all children. Girls will be interested in boys. Boys will be interested in girls. They can learn how to court and date without it always leading to unseemly inappropriate stuff. It just depends on That individual child and how they are raised.

      • Monica Fay

        I think i accidentally erased my comment that you responded to. whoops i was trying to share it.

      • Monica Fay

        I think i accidentally erased my comment that you responded to. whoops i was trying to share it.

    • Jules

      You and ratchet people like you are what’s wrong with the world today.

      • IllyPhilly

        No, you and that judgmental attitude are and has always been what’s wrong with the world.

        • jules

          My family unit is doing just fine with my judgmental attitude.

      • Tiffany Shaw

        Jules you are clearly one of those people that will try to control the natural development of a child and then be surprised when theyare wild’n out trying to do God knows what with God knows who. You can not expect a human being to curb they’re natural instincts because it makes you uncomfortable. These kids need to be able to express attraction in a safe and appropriate way. There is nothing wrong with that.

        • Jules

          Other than disease, teenage pregnancies, and the complete degradation of the black family where the majority are fatherless. Oh yeah, nothing wrong with that at all. Willow is Rich, most are not.

          • Tiffany Shaw

            I’m sorry but are you say the natural inclination of all people starting as young kids to want to be around the opposite sex has lead to those things? This song does not promote disease pregnancy the degradation of the black family or anything else you’ve suggested. It simply gives us insight into the mind of a 12 yr old. She’s interested in boys hanging out with friends going to the pool and just having fun. Heaven forbid! You seem to have some issue with the concept of kids doing what has always come natural to them. I mean did you wait until your parents told you to first notice the opposite sex? I highly doubt it. As I’ve already stated. There is nothing wrong with kids exploring attraction and learning to court in a safe and appropriate way. Maybe if more kids were taught that we would have so many fatherless children and broken families. Instead we shame kids for their natural inclinations and force them to be informed by themselves.Then have the audacity and gall to be mad when stuff goes wrong. Smdh

          • Pater Tempus

            It’s a song, Jules….a poem set to music Lighten up.

        • Dragon Senait

          Well sorry. but at 12 years old I didn’t want any boys in that “way.” I was focused on school, activities, and church. You see kids are a product of their environment and their parents.They can only “do” what is allowed in their home. 12 year olds simply shouldn’t be having adult feelings or engaging in adult relationships. Boys and girls should just be hanging out and having platonic fun at that age. Dating that young is unhealthy and a waste of time. Kids who date really young are seeking something that should be found in their home life or activities.

          • Tiffany Shaw

            Please give me a break.. This song and what it references is not adult situations. It’s about Puppy love. If you never had a crush at 12 cause you’d already devoted your life to jesus. Well God Bless you. But most children start developing crushes and attraction around that time. Trying to shame them or stop them is just insane and wrong. That’s why our children are all messed about sex now. Cause we try to suppress natural instincts instead of having an open and honest dialogue with them about it. smh

    • Jules

      You and ratchet people like you are what’s wrong with the world today.

  • Clarke

    ‘Over-Exposed, Over-Hyped and, quite frankly, I hope that she will be ‘Over’ very soon.

    Her last name is the only ingredient that is at the moment, withholding her relevancy.

    [From the Oxford Dictionary: “Fling” – Noun: A Short, Spontaneous, Sexual Relationship example: I had a fling with someone when I was at college”…]

    The counter-culture’s of society have, most definitely, made their ways to the forefront indeed when 12 year old girls are so sexualized – they sing songs about ‘Flings & Quickie’s’. What exactly is she racing towards so fast for?

    This family is quickly becoming the ‘Black Kardashian’s’, in my opinion, and Jada isn’t very far from replacing Kris Jenner.

    • Beejcee

      Willow needs to go live with her Auntie and Uncle in Belair!

    • Beejcee

      Willow needs to go live with her Auntie and Uncle in Belair!

      • Beejcee

        On a serious note, maybe the song title should have been Summer Crush and the lead should have been a “boy” that looks her age.

      • Beejcee

        On a serious note, maybe the song title should have been Summer Crush and the lead should have been a “boy” that looks her age.

    • Beejcee

      Willow needs to go live with her Auntie and Uncle in Belair!