Are You One Of Those Women Praying, “Dear God, Please Send My Husband”?

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July 8, 2013 ‐ By
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From YourTango

Dating can be a wonderful and exciting thing in your early 20s when you’re just getting out of college or away from your parents. However, by the time you are in your later 20s, 30s and beyond, dating becomes this endless journey of searching for Mr. Right.  Not to mention your mother may be wondering if she will ever become a grandmother in her lifetime. It’s enough to make you go crazy if you let it! Well, let me be the first to tell you that I feel your pain.

Recently, I was watching a show on the OWN network called “Super Soul Sunday” where Oprah Winfrey was interviewing R&B singer India Arie. At the end of each show, Oprah usually asks the various celebrities a series of questions to get to know more about them. In this episode Oprah asked India Arie what she would ask God if she had the chance. India Arie’s first answer to this question was very appropriate and Oprah seemed to delight in her response. India Arie then smiled back at Oprah satisfied with her first answer and then went on to the second thing she would ask God if given the chance in which she said, “Where’s my husband..seriously?” Now having grown up listening to her soulful music, I instinctively knew she was going to say this, even if she hadn’t voiced it out loud.

As a dating coach, I could give you the whole positive self-talk I’m supposed to say but speaking as a woman myself, I understand that when you’re ready to settle down and have kids, those words just aren’t enough to make you feel any better. Perhaps the guys you’ve met in the past weren’t ready for you at the time or perhaps you were the one not ready. Whatever the case, you’re ready now and that’s what’s important to move forward in achieving your goals.

Now based on my experiences and my expertise, there are some things that prove true nearly every time I hear of a woman who is getting married and I wanted to share them with those of you who have been patiently waiting for God to send you a husband.

Below are the top 3 characteristics I’ve noticed in women that appear to get married fairly quickly and/or have multiple marriage proposals:

1. Have Flexibility And An Openness To A Variety Of Possibilities – There’s no doubt about this one. Women who tend to be open to whatever man God or the universe has in store for them, tend to be the ones who get married sooner. The possibilities are endless whether she is dating a guy who may be shorter, younger, going bald, of a different ethnic background or even a guy who may not be the most physically fit. Sure, these women may have an idea of the guy they would like to have according to their checklist requirements but still maintain a sense of openness just in case they don’t get everything on their list. I believe we don’t have the luxury of getting what we want as in a job offer yet we get exactly what our hearts really NEED in a life partner. I’ve heard many happily married couples say their spouse was not their top choice yet they couldn’t imagine living without the person. Maybe if we are more open to a range of possibilities we can see many more opportunities to reach our goals.

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    • Ada

      My dear… Such spells don’t last forever. The Devil is a liar. Magic is not of God, the devil is hovering around this earth seeking whom to put to shame and destroy.

  • michelle242

    I prayed for my husband and found him the next day. Be encouraged. Keep praying and trusting God.

  • The Very Truth

    there are many of us very good men out there that are hoping to meet a good woman to settle down with too.

  • Kay

    I think sometimes as women we do the “im gonna wait for him, until he finds me because he who findeth a wife…..” I think it is very important to make your self visible. I know I had to change my mentality I had to start becoming more social and allow myself to think outside the box when it came to dating. Prayer is an amazing thing its so important to seek God in all you do and to make sure you are following his guidance, I also think faith without work is dead! Go out, get a hobby, SMILE…sounds crazy but sometimes us sisters can have the mean face on for no reason and sometimes don’t realize it. Once I really did work on myself and really started coming alive in a sense I met an amazing God fearing man who after two years of dating I am now getting married to in a year! I know finding love is not easy, but believe the moment u decided to use faith and work together nothing will stand in your way!

  • Kay

    I think sometimes as women we do the “im gonna wait for him, until he finds me because he who findeth a wife…..” I think it is very important to make your self visible. I know I had to change my mentality I had to start becoming more social and allow myself to think outside the box when it came to dating. Prayer is an amazing thing its so important to seek God in all you do and to make sure you are following his guidance, I also think faith without work is dead! Go out, get a hobby, SMILE…sounds crazy but sometimes us sisters can have the mean face on for no reason and sometimes don’t realize it. Once I really did work on myself and really started coming alive in a sense I met an amazing God fearing man who after two years of dating I am now getting married to in a year! I know finding love is not easy, but believe the moment u decided to use faith and work together nothing will stand in your way!

  • Dragon Senait

    A lot of women pray for husbands.But I would never pray for such a thing. I pray for God to open up the doors that I need for MY life…if that includes a husband..great. If not, still great. Either way, I’m going to try and be a good person, work hard, and do what’s right. A woman needs to work on pleasing Him first, and not worry about things you can’t control. Everything has it’s own season. But some people just can’t accept that.

  • Tehani

    There is no ‘God’ and ‘prayer’ does nothing.

    • Jada

      Thank you! Someone is actually speaking with some sense.

  • Jada

    How about you DON’T pray to God and actually DO something about it? That’s why 42% of Black women (unfortunately, I’m one of them) have still never been married. Too many of them just stick to praying and do nothing else. And then they wonder why they often see many White, Hispanic, and Asian women tying the knot. They actually go out and do more than just pray to something that can easily never happen. So stop praying and start doing something about it. That’s what I’m gonna do and I know I’ll be out of that 42% group a lot faster than I would’ve been if I just prayed about it.

    • Dragon Senait

      But you can’t do anything about it. You don’t have any control over whether a man loves you and desires you as a wife. A woman simply isn’t supposed to be looking for a man. They are supposed to be looking for us. All the new age books in the world aren’t going to change what the natural order of things are. A woman looking for a man is only going to find trouble. Make God your number ONE..everything else comes in its season.

      • Jada

        Then what is she supposed to do, sit around and waste her youth for some guy to come to her and ask her to marry him? Doesn’t work out that way. And if it did, what if she’s not attracted to the guy? Does that mean she has to spend her life miserable and unhappy with a man she has no feelings for? To you, she has to because ‘women aren’t supposed to look for a man’. BULL CRAP!! Looking for love is like looking for a job: you actually HAVE to go out and LOOK for one to find it. Don’t get mad at me or anyone else besides yourself when you wake up one day and you realize you’re alone because you didn’t look for love and it never found you. Stop waiting for love to find you and look for it yourself. Heck, your Mr. Right might want you to find him.

  • MsLadyE

    Instead of praying for a husband, I asked God to allow me to meet the man He knows is right for me. Right now, I’m dating a wonderful man who accepts me as I am (but who inspires me to be the best “me” I can be). If it’s in God’s plan for us to get married, He will make a way.

  • Lolita

    It doesn’t hurt to have the power of prayer on your side, as long as your praying in goodwill and not selfishly. Also working on being the best “you” that you can be so, he can receive the best since you prayed for the best. Lastly, give thanks through prayer for your blessings.

  • Denise

    I’m with you India. I am still praying for my husband, and will continue to do so until he arrives. I am a good thing that is very much ready to be ‘found’. Lol.

  • Denise

    I’m with you India. I am still praying for my husband, and will continue to do so until he arrives. I am a good thing that is very much ready to be ‘found’. Lol.

  • Child_Puhleez

    You can pray all you want but you have to delight in God, first. He’s a jealous God, so you’re desire for a husband simply canNOT be greater than God. Trust, I had to find out the hard way, too. LOL

    • Realityh03$Anonymous….ohwait

      Thank u 4 letting me know, noted! Sorry God. It wont happen again.

      • Child_Puhleez

        Thx be to God. GBU! :-)

        • Realityh03$Anonymous….ohwait

          God Bless u too!

    • sabrina

      Yes!!! Seek Him first, and all other things will be added unto you! :)

      • Child_Puhleez

        Amen! Wooottt!!!! :-)

    • dj r

      That is the crap those black hustler “preachers” tell lonely black women, in order to take their money !

      • Child_Puhleez

        You thought of that all by yourself? Go’on somewhere with your foolishness. smh

        • dj r

          Ash: Don’t you think that if “prayer” really works a lot of negative and
          positive things in the world would have been resolved by now. For
          example I know women that have been praying for a decent relationship,
          and/or a husband for a long time…. to no avail

          • Child_Puhleez

            a. God’s time is not our time. [That truly is enough to drive one mad. I totally get that.]

            b. God does answer prayers [Yes / No / Wait].

            c. Prayer has to be scripture-based. [Return His OWN word to Him. He said His word canNOT return to Him void, which means He can't be made into a liar.] He’s the one who advises “approach[ing] His throne with boldness.” Alrightee, then, God. “YOU said, [Insert scriptural promise to our faith, works & who we're supposed to be, here.]”

            d. Prayer should always be prefaced with repentance & thanksgiving. How is one going to pray to God with their mess hovering over them. Acknowledge & repent of one’s mess before going to God with one’s hand out. And be thankful!

            e. Again, women are NOT supposed to desire a husband more than God. I’m a living witness of what a scornful lover of my soul God is. As it is written, we gotta “love [Him] with ALL our hearts, minds & souls,” withOUT wavering.

            f. Position ourselves to receive answers to prayers. [How is one's "house" looking? No woman is allowed to pray for a husband, using God's promises AGAINST Him while she's spends $$$ irresponsibly & has a reckless credit rating. Does the woman keep a clean house? Does she keep herself up? Is she mature or is she a #ell-raiser? Bottom line: does she have enough mental, physical & spiritual goods to bring to the table to be blessed with a husband per HER prayers to God? God will NOT allow Himself to be misrepresented.]

            I APOLOGIZE for writing an opus, but there’s A LOT of people walking this Earth jacked-up because of not going about things the right way & blaming God for it. [Or worse, in a childish fit, declare God doesn't exist, when we don't get our way / get sick of waiting.]

            We have to be specifically positioned in decency & order to receive whatever we pray for. Seriously.

          • Tehani

            Notice that she couldn’t answer the question without spouting more religious drivel.

    • cynthia

      well this is so true sometimes our desire for a husband exceeds that of desiring God

  • Summergirl

    It
    doesn’t make sense to pray to God for a husband. After all, 1 Corinthians 7:27
    says,”…Art thou loosed from a wife? Seek not a wife.”