“Immediately Everything Changes But Immediately You Don’t Fall In Love”: Tamar Braxton Talks Motherhood And Talk Show “The Real”

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July 5, 2013 ‐ By Clarke Gail Baines

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It wasn’t too long ago that Tamar Braxton was a married woman focusing solely on trying to get her solo career off of the ground. But now that she has given birth to her almost one month old son, she has a whole new focus–motherhood. Well, that and being a talk show host. The singer and reality TV personality talked to CocoaFab about falling in love with her son Logan, and what folks can expect from her new show The Real with Tamera Mowry-Housley, Loni Love, Jeannie Mai and Adrienne Bailon. Here’s what she had to say about this new stage in her life:

Being Logan’s Mom:

“Logan is everything. He is so yummy. Immediately everything changes but immediately you don’t fall in love. But I heard that you do, but they lied. Somebody lied. Just like you fall in love with a person, its just like that. They’re little people. He is so yummy.”

The Most Precious Moment She’s Had With Logan:

“Watching Vince and the baby interact. It’s so beautiful. Yeah. You know, this is like his next of kin to family, he doesn’t have any parents so, watching them together bond. They look alike its so crazy. And they act alike [laughs]. So beautiful.”

So he’s more like Vince than you?

“[Logan] is very fair, but everything else is Vincent Herbert.”

Why She’s So Excited About The Real:

“I get to be a real grown up [laughs]. The Real is like The View but its from a younger perspective and opinions that we care about. You know what I mean? It’s so great and it’s so positive. We just started shooting it last week and it’s the most amazing experience I’ve ever been a part of.

How The Real Compares To The View

“It’s almost like listening to your great aunt or great grandmother, without being disrespectful. But The Real is like your girlfriends, your sister, your cousin. Somebody’s opinion that you respect, but you can agree to disagree. Like Tamera and I we have totally different opinions, but we real cool [laughs]. It’s girlfriend hour. It’s like come check in with your girlfriends on The Real.”

Tamar says that aside from The Real, if you were wondering when Tamar and Vince was coming back, it’s September 6, and you’ll get an opportunity to see baby Logan and her as a mom in full effect. After that, she says Braxton Family Values will be back. Congrats to Tamar and Vince on their new addition and to Tamar for all her continuing career success. The Real debuts on July 15 on Fox. That baby stays busy! Check out her full video interview on the next page!

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  • ccpeachgal

    umm no I immediately fell in love with my son as soon as I laid eyes on him. This taking time to fall in love sounds odd and selfish .

    • Dwrap

      No it doesn’t. Most women grow to be in love with their child. It’s perfectly normal. Only a small percentage such as yourself feel instant bonding. Either way, it doesn’t take away from the mother.

      • hollyw

        “doesn’t take away from the mother” couldn’t have said it better.

      • hollyw

        “doesn’t take away from the mother” couldn’t have said it better.

    • hollyw

      please don’t confuse nontraditional with “odd”, i.e. abnormal. Tradition is often tied in a lot of myth and stereotype, while her response is anything but unnatural.

  • MzButtrflyyblu

    Ok I dislike that comment. We have to remember that Tamar wanted to focus on her career. No one gets that she wad the first to sing of the children. If not for her singing none if them would have been discovered. I completely understand why having a successful career is so important to Tamar. It takes time to fall inlove with an idea your carrying out to please someone you love over yourself.. again! I’m just glad to see that she was woman enough to put family first. I don’t think people see Tamar for who she is. Congrats Vince and Tamar, and welcome little Logan :-)

  • hollyw

    Interesting…I know some folks think that sounds horrible, to say she’s not in love w/ her baby yet, but I don’t see it as so bad. Folks forget that a lot of women don’t “bounce back” immediately after birth, and this includes hormones.

    You can be super-duper excited for their arrival beforehand and infatuated/in love/whatever you wanna call it, but afterwards, be anywhere between a love/cryfest to having postpartum depression, and the difficulty of the labor and recovery also plays a role… Her husband sounds like a real help, good luck to her.

    • dlighted

      Point taken. Maybe she should have said, “It wasn’t like that for me.”

  • guest

    “He’s very fair.” C’mon…Tamar has a skin color fixation

    • Alexis Morris

      Yes why did she have to say he light skin? Thats not how ppl describe their kids!!!!!

      • Alexis Morris

        alright now tamar with the thumbs down. dont be crying when the baby darkens up.

    • Shellz

      She’s simply stating a fact. Nothing wrong with that.

    • Ms. Kameria

      If she had said he was “dark skinned” (like Vincent), that would have been a problem too. Maybe even a bigger problem…..

      • Alexis Morris

        she didnt really have to say anything. it doesnt matter what color it is, the baby is black. she is black, vincent is black. if it had blue eyes or red hair, then those are features to talk about. but not the skin color.

      • hollyw

        I think the point she’s making is that pinpointing skin color first and foremost when someone asks who your baby is more like, is unusual, and even suspicious, considering it coming out of Tamar’s mouth, who has an apparent identity issue…

  • NeaJ

    What does she mean when she says: immediately you don’t fall in love? I’m clearly confused. Lol

    • Confused_1

      I was lost too. How could she now immediately not love him. I guess he’s not a new pair of shoes or a nice track to advance her career.

      • Guest

        “I guess he’s not a new pair of shoes or a nice track to advance her career.”
        Wow..that’s rude. Not every woman’s experience is going to be the same. Just because so many women speak out about immediately falling in love with their babies doesn’t mean that there aren’t any that don’t have that same experience. Im sure they keep it to themselves cause they know they will be judged by ppl like you.

        • Dee

          Exactly! She needs to shutup. People are so judgement. I was so exhausted after having my baby and had terrible post parting. But by the time she was a month old, I was SOOOOO in love with her, and I love her more every day. Silly young women make stupid comments as such, mature women know better.

    • SugaSuga

      I understand what she means. It’s not that you don’t love your child – of course you do – but it takes time to fall *in* love with him or her. I can’t speak for anyone else, but I was so sleep deprived, sore and tired, I didn’t have a chance to get to know my daughter until a few weeks later when things settled down and I started noticing those little things that made me fall in love with her: how she looks when she’s sleeping, the way her lips are shaped, the little noises she makes when she’s hungry. I think that’s all she’s saying – sometimes it takes a few days or weeks to fall in love with the individual your baby is.

    • It happens.

      I think she didn’t want the baby. She said it herself on the show. She’s very selfish and I’m sure seeing her loved ones gravitate toward the baby made her jealous. I have a friend that’s like Tamar(selfish/self centered). When the baby was born her instincts kicked in but you could still see the jealously when the baby was brought in. Doesn’t mean they don’t love the kids.

    • It happens.

      I think she didn’t want the baby. She said it herself on the show. She’s very selfish and I’m sure seeing her loved ones gravitate toward the baby made her jealous. I have a friend that’s like Tamar(selfish/self centered). When the baby was born her instincts kicked in but you could still see the jealously when the baby was brought in. Doesn’t mean they don’t love the kids.

    • dlighted1

      I said the same thing. As soon as I saw my son I cried, I loved him so much. What planet is this woman from? I mean you got 9 months to get to know him as he’s growing! #SoConfused

      • hollyw

        You don’t “know” your baby in the womb, outside of whatever personality you imagine from its movements. Why won’t women admit, or at least give others a break, in the fact that a baby’s moods and habits outside of the womb can be different from when inside, and that, in addition to hormonal changes, affect the mother-child bond?

        • Lisa

          Exactly, I had terrible post partum. I didn’t want anything to do with my baby at first. After my hormones started getting back to normal, I was able to focus on my baby and then proceed to fall in love. There was nothing immediate about it. The fact that there are women out there that are so judgmental and automatically assume that you must not love your baby because you are struggling with something that they don’t understand is a terrible feeling. I give much respect to Tamar for being honest and not saying what she figured everyone wanted to hear.

          • hollyw

            and i give much respect to you for sharing your story :)

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